best friend and partner

Romania
September 6, 2011 2:39pm CST
how would you react if your partner spent more and more time with your best friend? would you forbid them meeting again
1 person likes this
7 responses
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
6 Sep 11
Oh yeah, that might cause a lot of jealousy of me personally. I think if your life partner should spend more time with you instead of someone else. That is the right way to interpret it. If she spent extra time with your best friend, that something is fishy going on, you should hire a private detective to check it out.
@kry893 (222)
• Canada
10 Sep 11
I wouldn't mind them meeting. That would be abit too controlling over my partner if I were to forbid him having further contacts with my best friend. However, I would have a talk with my partner if he feels more comfortable talking to my best friend than he is with me. I would encourage him to be more open with me and I will tell him that it's our relationship and it has to be two sided. But of course I would be cautious.
@rappeter13 (5298)
• Romania
7 Sep 11
How can you forbid somebody to meet with another one? I am sorry, but I never agreed with this, that a partner could forbid something to the other part. The people who are together should accept each other as they are, not try to change them.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
7 Sep 11
If my boyfriend was continually spending time with my best friend this would diffinitely make me feel uncomfortable. If I were you I would talk to your partner about this. It's not that you would be overreacting at all. It's only natural for us to develop romantic feelings for someone of the opposite gender if we continually spend time with them, we begin to open ourselves up to them and they do the same. So right now it might not have gotten that far but if they continue to do this it's more than likely something will happen. Out of respect for you they will have to stop that. We are all human beings and have feelings. So when it comes to our relationships with others we have to take these things seriously. I can see you all three spending time together. But for them to spend time together just the two of them isn't right. So I hope that you talk with your partner first and if need be then your best friend. Afterall this is your relationship and you wouldn't let your partner spend time with a stranger alone, and it should be the same even with your best friend they can develop feelings for each other even if right now they don't see it. Keep us posted on what happens.
@jeztrose (1406)
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
for me personally,it will also give me doubts when my boyfriend and bestfriend are always together,but somehow you should also look at the situation before making some moves... dont go ahead for conclusions..it would be good if you first dicuss it with your partner if why they are always together ..is it with a good reason or not? and after that tell him/her also about what you feel so that he/she knows your feelings..its always best to confront first before doing any undecided things..
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
It would be really weird if my boyfriend and my bestfriend are spending more time together. I would not forboid them. I would evaluate the situation carefully. It is possible that I have been too busy that I have neglected to spend time with either of them. It would be nice if we three get to spend tme together. However, if they continue to spend more time together, maybe it is time to ask my boyfriend if he likes my bestfriend as a woman.
@huilichan8 (1379)
• Singapore
6 Sep 11
Why is it that your partner is spending time with your best friend? Are you present every time they meet? If I were in your shoes, I would tell my partner and best friend that I am uncomfortable about them meeting up; I would let them know that I am not happy about it. If they treasure me as their partner and best friend respectively, I believe they would stop meeting up with each other. I would definitely forbid them from meeting again.