Being a parent, is spoiling a good thing?

I think it's normal to give them everything they want, but try not to overdo it. To strive to offer the "all" but the extent possible. From my point of view, the child is the most important thing in our lives, and when you become a parent, give the child everything, even to deprive you of one thing you need, just to give your child everything he wants. It is normal, but before I give that "something" that they want, and they must do "something" in turn. Our children need to implement that should be worth that toy, or anything else, so small they do not understand all they deserve, and have what they want to have to make sacrifices, just as we make sacrifices for the give them what zeal. And I agree with you that you have to know how to win money, and you have to work to get a good / useful. Thanks for response.

That is a good policy of involving children to 'do something' in return. usually i expect them to do well and score high in studies, only then i promise them a 'gift' or the something which they were asking for. I also agree if we over do, there are chances that didn't make our expectations.

A spoiled child who is the mirror of their parents are too protective and I meet every desire. Of course, no parent does not want your child to make mistakes, and then bear the consequences - is perfectly normal. But when this care exceeds certain limits, it can turn against both parents, but also detrimental to the child. It is usual for things and decisions to be made for him and get him to believe that everyone follows their own interests - which does not apply outside the family. Obviously, no child is perfect. Stubbornness is not necessarily a feature of a spoiled child. But there are certain limits, which violates their children, and depends only on us to establish what they are. Thanks for response.

That is, spoiling, love, true feelings, be expressed so that the little to understand place which he have in the universe of family. Tender gestures, gifts and small pleasures are also part of the same game of love. But do not forget that a measure must be maintained in all. Most times, very spoiled children have difficulty adjusting later in society. The world does not forgive and does not make concessions to anyone. Spoiled children will pay dearly veil of exaggerated childhood. Thanks for response.

Nobody can say how far you a natural satisfaction of desires and needs of children and where pampering begins. It's good for every family to have its rules on the child to know and comply with them. He needs limits. Our task is to establish them and respect them with him. When a child knows he is not allowed to eat, such as chocolate evening, he will easily subject to this rule. But if we do not follow the rules and give him three of seven nights chocolate, he will not know the limits and, consequently, will not comply.They consider themselves omnipotent-like little gods who must get everything they want. Whether it is a toy, a candy, to go in a certain place, to take a particular activity, you should set rules and limits that can be observed by both sides. Thanks for response.

It may seem a bit contradictory, but you can not raise a spoiled child than if you underestimate, meaning, when the rules are not strong because it is still small to understand and comply with them when doing things instead of being too protective (example - you conclude the shoes or shirt, you can already do this alone), making them different gifts or favors that are not appropriate for his age (joy stealing small things) - for example I buy the latest model mobile phone. Through it all he grows too self-centered and immature behavior gets, manipulating parent objectionable behavior. Otherwise, sure we free the words and gestures of love. They have nothing to do with the child and pamper in no case be withdrawn as punishment ... This is not an educational method. Let's kiss and hugging as much as children will do well and new to them. Thanks for response.

Children are not born spoiled, but when adults are around them (parents, grandparents) are too permissive and always willing to satisfy all desires. If parents do not set some rules and clear boundaries, children will understand that he has the power in the family and, therefore, will act as a leader. We pretend to be like her immediately, and if any of the "subject" will dare to oppose the little tyrant will protest nervous breakdown, screaming, verbal or physical aggression. A spoiled child who was taught to get everything too easy, without some effort, is not a child really ready for life. Thanks for response.