My 16 year old brother is gonna be a dad when he turns 17
By mrsbentley27
@mrsbentley27 (662)
United States
September 11, 2011 6:09pm CST
Well I have a large family. There are 6 of us (3 girls, 3 boys) We just found out the baby is gonna be a daddy. His "first" but he is not her "frst" If you know what I mean. We all think he should get a DNA test just to be safe. What do other mylotters think about this? I know he is just my brother, but think if it was your teen child... would you prefer them get the test?
5 responses
@mrsbentley27 (662)
• United States
12 Sep 11
She may not have been sleeping around and just because we want him to get the test doesnt mean we think she was but if I was a man I personally would want to know if the baby is mine specially if we had been using protection.
@gk655321 (236)
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12 Sep 11
That's exactly what asking for a test means though because if it isn't his then it would be someone else's meaning she was sleeping around on him. If he truly believes that it's his then it's better to just drop it and let it play out how it will. No need to cause extra stress on him and the mother.
@mrsbentley27 (662)
• United States
13 Sep 11
I dont think that is what asking for the test means. Yes we all have doubts about it but no one has said she was sleeping around because we dont know. In the long run it will be up to him what he decides to do but I think he is too young to take the responsibility of the child if it isnt his. If he was 18 I wouldnt even have said anything about it but him being 16 I see things differently.
@pibi713 (187)
• China
12 Sep 11
To be a father is a rather big issue especialy a teenage father. If your family have some doubts, your brother had better to have a DNA test.If the baby happens to be his, he should take the responsibility. It is a tough responsibility for a teenage father.
@mrsbentley27 (662)
• United States
12 Sep 11
I think he would step up and take responsibility. He has a good paying job already working with his dad and has been for 2 years or so now, so that is a start. There is still alot of growing up to be done from both him and her.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
11 Sep 11
At 17 he is way too young to be a father. If it was my teen child and I knew he was active, I would have been encouraging him to use protection. If a 17 year old is old enough to have s@x then they should be old enough to be responsible. Yes I would also encourage a DNA test and start requiring he take responsibility if in fact it was his. Also if it turns out not to be his, he must take responsibility in assuring that it does not happen again. They are not lucky all the time, so this is something else I would add.
Of course it is too late to lecture him, but here is a situation, where a child is being born in the middle of who is your daddy situation. So unfair to the child. 
@mrsbentley27 (662)
• United States
12 Sep 11
He is too young. Bad thing is that he doesnt want to get a DNA test. He assures everyone that it is his and they are gonna get married when he turns 18. They say they did use protection and it still happened. His dad didnt want to believe he was having s@x so he never lectured him and we all tried to tell him but he didnt listen.
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
11 Sep 11
Your brother is very young, 16? he's a baby himself, I just think one day he will regret it. He's suppose to be playing and having fun not getting girls pregnant. Yes he should definitely get a DNA test it's always important to get one even if you're sure that the baby could be yours because sometimes women lie about it being the boys baby when it's really someone else's.
@mrsbentley27 (662)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Yea 16! He has a lot of growing up to do. He doesnt seem like the fatherly type either (he doesnt like kids to well) but I dont know if that will change now that he is having one. That is why we are trying to encourage him to get the test. Hopefully he wont have a choice. We will see.
@mrsbentley27 (662)
• United States
12 Sep 11
I dont know what theyll do at this point. They are just disappointed right now.
