My friend destroyed their car today
By tech2d
@tech2d (338)
United States
September 13, 2011 8:45pm CST
I just finished talking to a friend of mine who wrecked and totaled their car. As soon as I found out, I called to make sure she was alright. Even though I live 780 miles away, I offered my support. For some reason she now thinks that I am trying to argue with her and fault her and not having sympathy for her. What is so strange is I never voiced any of these things and I thought I was being supportive by asking how she was doing, did she go to the hospital, are you resting, etc. By the end of the conversation she hung up on me and then texted me and told me I was being augmentative and unsympathetic. I just said I hope she feels better and good night. I assume because she is in pain is why she acted this way. At least I hope so.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
There are people who would blow up on you if you don't take their side when they're angry. They can be irrational because they're putting their emotions in front rather than rational thinking. You should just understand her and talk to her when she had cooled her head.
@ur4mae (217)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
I think so too. I think there's a mix of feelings there that she is trying to cope. Maybe there's guilt as well that's why she is acting so defensive. Just give her time to deal with things and I'm sure when she's over it she can be open-minded and appreciative of your support. :))
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
16 Sep 11
Oh, so no wonder she is acting so harshly towards you. You did not verbally blame her at all for this accident. She just knows that she is at fault here. When you found out about it, it makes her feel ashamed, because she knows that she was the one that has caused this car accident in the first place. That is what I thought! I still think that she should not make you feel like you are trying to argue with her or anything though.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
Maybe after she had enough rest, she will realize her mistakes and more likely feel the need to apologize to you for her reaction. She will definitely need your support more than ever. Give it a little more time and rest. She'll come to her senses, unless something is really wrong with her.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
She wrecked the car? why and what's the reason behind? did you know as a friend? If it was accident at least it was understandable, but if she just foolishly bang the car for reasons of anger, then that is stupidity. Sorry but you need to ask her that as a friend and give an advice, not because your trying to interfere her life, but as a friend who is concern.
@tech2d (338)
• United States
14 Sep 11
It was an accident according to her. She said she was blinded by the sun and ran into the rear of the vehicle in front of her. Judging by the picture of the car, (she sent that to me) she must have been travelling pretty fast. The car was totally destroyed. I have tried to consul her, give advice, etc. But I guess now is not the time.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
27 Oct 11
Welcome to mylot
It is really sad to hear this, she seems so much sentimental, should not have gone to this extent.
Thanks for sharing
Best of luck.
Professor
Professor
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
Maybe she is still shock in what happened so she misunderstand your support and your caring for her. Just also try to understand her because maybe she just want to take a rest because of what happened to her and to her car. Try to talk to her after she take her rest maybe after that she will understand that you are just really concern to her. Happy Mylotting..
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
16 Sep 11
Hi, tech2d. I wished that she could see how much that you really care for after her being in a car accident. It seems as if she is embarrassed because you know about her being in an car accident. Or maybe someone else has blamed her to her face. Whatever it may be, I hope that she will soon realize that you only care about her and that you are not being argumentative or unsympathetic to her and her situation at all. From the conversation that you have had with her, it does not indicate that you are being faulty towards her at all. I hope that she doing okay now. I am sorry that she was in a car accident.
@marguicha (216305)
• Chile
18 Sep 11
Sometimes, when people are too worried and have to cope with many things, they get bit*chy. I know it by my own experience. I have been behaving badly with one of my daughters telling her that she should pay more attention to me, yet knowing that she cannot.
Wait a couple of days and call her just to tell her that you love her. No conversations about car. Follow her lead and show that you care for her.
Wait a couple of days and call her just to tell her that you love her. No conversations about car. Follow her lead and show that you care for her. @soapies1973 (931)
• United States
29 Sep 11
People in pain will react differently. Especially people in chronic pain it just wears you down. Don't let it get to you.
