What makes you remember a person?
By bingskee
@bingskee (5234)
Philippines
September 15, 2011 1:00am CST
There are people that we cannot forget. First and foremost, they played a big part in our lives, or their accomplishments influenced us in many ways. Second, we had been with them through the ups and downs of our lives. These include our partners, our family and friends, to name a few.
But there are certain people who do not have the closest affiliation to us but we remember them. Why? The reasons vary actually. For me, I remember people or individuals because of the kindness or concern that was bestowed on me even in a short span of time. I remember people because of their character and contribution in an endeavor. I remember people because of the special attention given in a particular situation or time. I remember people because of their anima, of having a quality that is above the rest.
On the contrary, I also remember the evil ones. They also have the anima, albeit the opposite. I remember them because they intentionally maligned me in one of those times. I remember them because they have wronged me. Do not get me wrong. I do not hold grudges but I do not forget.
What about you? 
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23 responses
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Usually the nasty ones weighs more. Because there's this anger that will stay with you once hurt and this will make you more cautious about meeting this person again. Usually its not the good ones that people cannot forget.maybe that's why there's a saying that do something good no one remembers, make a single mistake.. No one ever forgets! Haha!
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
To the best of my knowledge, the people I cannot forget are those who have influenced me. Some of them are good, others aren't. If you ask me about my classmates in first grade, I can only name a few: my best friends, the smart ones, and the naughty ones.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
ha ha one will really group them with those category. i also remember them that way. i have a naughty classmate that i can never ever forget. but i don't have a grudge of course. i might have been offended by his pranks when i was little child but hey, that was decades ago!
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
nope, no grudges of course! I don't even remember the pranks that they did anymore. I just remember their names and that they were bullies.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Sep 11
i just could not forget people of mylot who have great influence to my journey, talking about the problem we had before with my son Zay. i have a lot of people, friends who made me not to stop searching for help too. and so sure you have already know what i am talking about, the youtube video.
aside from mylot people, i really could not forget the people of TV5 Alagang Kapatid who helped us look for the right institution and get the operation for free. Ms. Cheryl and Ate Nery who was always at our side during the shoots, confinement and operation.
of course, the doctors and the social workers of St. Luke's, especially Mam Tere and Dr. Ramirez.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
hi, neil!
was so inspired by the story. it is amazing how mylot members shared their knowledge and help in your predicament. i could not actually believe it at first.
didn't know about TV5 Alagang Kapatid until i read your blog. a nice program for the indigent.
hope that Zay's condition is getting better and better. you are a very loving father. 
was so inspired by the story. it is amazing how mylot members shared their knowledge and help in your predicament. i could not actually believe it at first.
didn't know about TV5 Alagang Kapatid until i read your blog. a nice program for the indigent.
hope that Zay's condition is getting better and better. you are a very loving father. @neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Sep 11
the show is still young and actually, they are celebrating this month, their first year anniversary. and we are also proud that we are featured during their first month of existence. oh, that could be the reason why we are not so popular because the show was not that popular too when were featured.
Zay's condition, sleep apnea, is now totally gone. he sleeps very well and calm since after the operation. no more snoring, no more signs of apnea. but one thing that bothers me a little, his hyperactivity. actually, we can bear with it but sometimes, we are really pushed to our limits. there are times that we really have to use our hands to make him stop, even for a while. we cannot think of other ways or we may lose our sanity.
thanks for the compliment. but i guess, everyone will do the same thing i did, for the sake of our beloved.
oh, that could be the reason why we are not so popular because the show was not that popular too when were featured.
Zay's condition, sleep apnea, is now totally gone. he sleeps very well and calm since after the operation. no more snoring, no more signs of apnea. but one thing that bothers me a little, his hyperactivity. actually, we can bear with it but sometimes, we are really pushed to our limits. there are times that we really have to use our hands to make him stop, even for a while. we cannot think of other ways or we may lose our sanity.
thanks for the compliment. but i guess, everyone will do the same thing i did, for the sake of our beloved.
@Graptopetalum (1807)
• Canada
18 Sep 11
I'm generally not good at remembering names and faces. Often my wife or something will mention somebody and it will take me a while to remember who they are. However, nobody ever seems to forget me. I don't know why. Also people tend not to like me but I think I'm generally a nice person. I may not be the most polite or the best looking or the best dressed but I won't deliberately hurt another person without a very good reason (which rarely happens). Also I try not to judge by outward appearances and to treat people fairly. People often seem to dislike me more than people who I'd have thought had more glaring personality flaws (like being a bully or a blatant tendency for violence with little or no provocation).
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
15 Sep 11
I remember those who have entered in my life at one time or other. There are people who interacted for a purpose or reason. Such people are remembered when we meet similar type of persons in the daily life. What i like to recall for ever is my beautiful childhood memories which had special people, special place, special teachers and special friends too. Ofcourse with the changing times certain people only live in our memory. What I have learned is that in life no one will remember how we looked, walked, talked or what we did but everyone remember us for the way we treated them when they were with us. Thanks for this thought provoking post..
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
hi. my pleasure.
i agree. it is always how we are treated. in my elementary days, i remember a teacher not only because she's intelligent but she is charming and kind. she tries to accommodate each student's query, and help them whenever she can. i think that was in grade three, if i am not mistaken.
my pleasure.
i agree. it is always how we are treated. in my elementary days, i remember a teacher not only because she's intelligent but she is charming and kind. she tries to accommodate each student's query, and help them whenever she can. i think that was in grade three, if i am not mistaken.@viju0410 (2286)
• India
16 Sep 11
I must appreciate your memory power. Keep it up. yes, some people leave their footmarks on our heart which we can never forget. I was working with a Corporate Trainer in our group for sometime before he got transferred to another city and after a while he expired due to heart attack. But even today I remember some of his tips/teachings/ training and they are really potential for my career growth. U know i sincerely thanked him when I got promotion with a hike in pay.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
18 Sep 11
Like you I remember people for a lot of reasons...the goods and the bad...and some are not even worth remembering so I have chosen to forget them! yes and I don't carry grudges or hate those sentiments make you grow into an old and ugly person.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Sep 11
I think I am a good judge of character and tend to remember people based on their characters more so then I would their name for instance. See a caring and kind person is easily remembered versus a person with absolutely no type of charisma. An evil person who sets out to hurt is someone I would never forget.
They say first impressions are long lasting so something about their behavior allows me to record it in my memory.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
18 Sep 11
I always remember people because of the impression I have of them or the impression that they make in front of me. This also applies when they have some qualities that I noticed - qualities that may be good or bad. I remember trying to remember all of my classmates when I came across my old class pictures. I was surprised that I remember almost all of them in one way of another. Some memories that I have connected to them are pleasant and some are not - but the important thing is that I remembered even though I cannot say the same for them with regards to me.
Like you, I don't believe if holding grudges unless the said person have the audacity to remind me why I hated them in the first place. True, I can forgive but for some people that I reserved, I don't forget that easily. Sometimes, the scars, the unseen and seen, creep up and my judgement becomes clouded but I find the time to understand , and if I resolved enough, to forgive and forget.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
16 Sep 11
I remember a person by their memories to me.Some small actions and no matte what we do together.Those little things could remind me of those time we being together.but sometimes really feel angry when i thought something unhappy.Anyway,i think i should treat my family and my friend better,cause i love them.have a nice day.
@globaldoc (858)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
There are different things that would make one person remember another person. Many times, it would be the fond memories. It may be from school, or from any other activities like sports. It can also be a crime or injustice done. I really think it depends.
@qnzmae (43)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
I must agree. Impression lasts because of their intensity, be it positively or negatively. The extremes of their characters keeps the boring personalities at bay. For me, I remember the ultimately good ones. They struck me in a way I cannot explain. The ones I met with negative characters, I often forget them. I don't know why. I think it's just the way I am.
@markthaniel1407 (58)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
I believed you are right. The family and friends are always be there to help you and cheers for you. You will never forget them for rest of your life. But I do remember some people who doesn't related to my family but feels like you are already close to one another even you have met them for the first time with little amount of time. They are so kind enough to offer thier help when you are feeling down with your life. You don't feel you as a stranger to them. It's like you are blessed to know them at the time you are hopeless to carry on with your life. When time has past, I never forget them and reminds me to be considerate to others that is less fortunate than you.
@Clara2011 (1)
•
16 Sep 11
I think everyone has someone or many to remember in his life. For me, I concern my family most, my parents, grandparents and aunt. Also, frendship is one of my treasures. It seems that I have so many people to cherish, and it is.
Besides that,I always remember those who have helped me or told me I am wrong in doing something. By this, I will improve myself, make some progress and then gain the sense of pride.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
5 years ago when i started working for the first time, i met a gay co-worker and he had this very lively attitude. I didn't stay in that company for long. Just two months but i have never forgotten him. I moved to another company and a year after he followed me. We became best of friends then.
It was his character that made me remember him all the time. I even associated the color green to him.
@guegui (17)
• United States
15 Sep 11
The people I remember are generally the people who evoke a strong feeling in me. These include : A total stranger who appeared out of nowhere after a meeting and said exactly what I needed to hear and I felt absolutely surrounded with love ans support... A total stranger who appeared in a park when I was with my sister and I felt like we were imminent physical danger and we left inmediately.. Someone I met for the first time and had the very clear impression we would beging dating ( we did)... So I remember the folks who elicit within me the strong feelings or intuitive responses.. Also I am a dancer and I may not remember a person's name or what they look like, or what they said, but I absolutely recognize tham once we begin dancing together, even if it is months or years later ;0)
@nasapiyush (147)
• India
15 Sep 11
If some one very much attached with any one and he thinks of that person lot more time then everything around him shows the presence of that person .
Never see negative things of any person always approach to his positive points.
@nasapiyush (147)
• India
15 Sep 11
hi bingskee!!
It was really nice to read your views at this topic.
It is really true that we never forget some people throughout our life time. The reason behind this can be there closest affiliation to us. The way some people approach us can be another reason behind this. Many a times some people use make us feel better. Sometimes we love to tell each and every sorrow of our heart to a strange person, these are some of the reasons we can not forget some people.
The way they look at us, some times they even smile after taking a look upon us.
It can also be he reason behind this.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
a smile is always something to be cherished.
thank you for appreciating this post, btw.
i think it would be difficult to share anything to a stranger. but on second thought, maybe in a chatroom, that would be possible, because the danger is less, thinking that one is far away from that person, and probably just needed a vehicle to air his angst.
thank you for appreciating this post, btw.
i think it would be difficult to share anything to a stranger. but on second thought, maybe in a chatroom, that would be possible, because the danger is less, thinking that one is far away from that person, and probably just needed a vehicle to air his angst.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
there are certainly a lot of things that would make us remember a person. in my case to name a few of the things, it could be a simple thing, figurine plant or whatever thing, could also be music, place, mannerism, or even a word. i remember my mother's friend who stayed for month's in our home. she uttered the word "gaga" at me while i was doing something. i was moved by that word because it implied something really bad for me. i got mad at that time. it is her i think of whenever i hear that word from other people. with music i can remember my vacation with my cousins wherein we would perform a dance number.now every time that song would play i can remember the happy thoughts we had during the practice and during the show.
@honeydimple (45)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
At work acquaintances, i really admire those people who accommodating and can treat me professionally. This traits usually makes me remember them. On a personal relationship, i remember not only those person who does me good but also those who has done me wrong for they both help me mold and discover the strength and weaknesses that i have.
