why do married couple have to seperate or divorce?

Philippines
September 15, 2011 2:19am CST
After being together for many years, why do some married couple decide to separate or divorce? What are the common reasons of divorce/ seperated? Is it about financial thing? Married couple should hold on together until their last breath. I feel so pity for those children who are affected with broken family. Divorce is not legal in my country but most married couple just separated without any legal way. Separation is a bit high and i think it would rise in the future because many young adults married early and they are not both ready for parenthood. How i wish all marriages go well.
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12 responses
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Hello Tess, I don't know really how to answer you're question because it depends on the couple and the generation where they came to. If divorce becomes legal in my country, I think i would be too afraid to get married nor have a relationship steady with any one. Marriages will become cheap in the future if divorce becomes actively real in the Philippines. Look at United States, some Filipina are married to them for teh Purpose of VISA. the trend of marriages are different now compare before, when life was a lot more simplier then. Relationship takes time to manage how much more if it's marriage
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@bagarad (5599)
• Paso Robles, California
15 Sep 11
WE know a man who met a woman in the Philippines and brought her to this country, wanting to marry her. But after they had been together a few weeks, she left because he was not rich enough to support her the way she liked. That broke his heart. It was really not a good match from the start, because she was Catholic and he didn't go to any church. Their relationship was better off long distance. Guess it's better to break up before the marriage if you aren't a good match.
@ravinskye (8247)
• United States
15 Sep 11
I think there are a lot of reasons for divorce. Sometimes money is an issue. It causes stress and fighting that drive people apart. Sometimes people just change over the years and you fall out of love. Not all people change together, sometimes the changes drive them apart. I feel bad for the kids too but I think it's possible to work together to raise your kids even when you are divorced. A friend of mine's parents got divorced when she was young and her parents remained friends and were very nice together and worked together to raise their kids. Both her and her brother grew up happy and well adjusted.
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@didi13 (2915)
• Romania
19 Jul 12
People are separated between them if not exist mutual respect, trust and communication. People break up stupid reasons. For these reasons stupid actually hide a full glass ... and the last reason just stupid filled the glass or even gave the outside. People break up because of other people. People break up because of lack of attention. People break up because they have no mutual feelings. And if there is no real and solid reason , then break up the ego ... which is the most harmful trait that we humans. To be loved!
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
It is truly a sad fact that these things happen, but I think couples separate or divorce, basically due to misunderstandings, and the lack of effort to understand one another amidst all difficulties and conflicts. We cannot say that both made a mistake for marrying each other in the first place. Honestly, it's a wrong mindset for people to be in that train of thought. If they keep thinking that way, then with every mistake they make, they'd always go back to zero? No such progress will occur, if that happens.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
16 Sep 11
For celebrities, they find someone new like they change their clothes. For regular folks, they married for the wrong reason. Beauty, money, attraction is a terrible reason to get linked to someone in such an important relationship, it should be only about love and most cases of divorce it wasn't, or they got married too soon.
@Zamara69 (130)
• United States
15 Sep 11
There are many reason why married couples divorce/seperate. Sometimes they find they have nothing more in common and fall out of love. Sometimes spouses are abusive: verbally, mentally and physically towards them and their children. Maybe they came home one day and found someone else in there bed with the one they love. I have family members who has had these experiences and there was no mending it. Sometimes life brings many changes and we never know where our hearts and mind will take us tomorrow. Every country has different believes but, what if the one you're married to was willing to take your last breath?
@anitha123 (253)
• India
15 Sep 11
Hello Tess, there are many reason behind every divorces. The main reason will be misunderstanding and most of them feel that they are not given full freedom. So it leads to divorce. It is nice to hear that there is no divorce in your country. SO what will the couple do if they do not wish to live together.
@brew2x (3099)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
There are many reasons why married couples separate ways. Infidelity I guess is the most common cause. Financial problems, differences, lack of communication, vices, abuse (verbal, physical and emotional), religious or cultural beliefs and lifestyle are also some of the reasons for divorce. Marriage is a commitment and it takes a lot of work to succeed. Some couples think it will be easy, lacks commitment, don't try hard enough and end up separated.
@dpk262006 (42396)
• Delhi, India
15 Sep 11
I think, you are not married, first you should get married then we will let you know the various reasons of separation.
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
Divorce or separation is not new in the society today. In fact, it is easily done and considered as a challenging experience being divorced. There are many reasons behind the separation, but two things for sure, they are not patient enough to solve even a simple misunderstanding and they cannot accept that they are parents. We pitied the children for they have no room to stop the decision their parents made. Love and sacrifice should prevail in a relationship.
@eseulhan (199)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
I say, media has a very strong impact towards people. Divorce and separation news about actors and actresses are no longer new to us coz everday we heard stories like that again and again. So people are influenced, they would say, oh divorce is already normal so its not wrong. Many are no longer afraid of commiting divorce coz its happening everywhere. One can do it within a blink of an eye, so whenever they feel that they are no longer loved by their partner they could easily opt for a divorce or annulment. They have ruined the sanctity and real meaning of marriage. If divorce and annulment are accepted in society, there shouldnt be any marriage if thats the point. Whats the purpose of it? I am still against Divorce!
• India
15 Sep 11
Ya most of them think that if they live together there will be fight between them couple might fight on small small things on any issue so at last they decide to be separated only so that no fight nothing they don't thing anything ahead...