Expiration of Marriage

@pogi253 (1587)
Philippines
September 25, 2011 8:08pm CST
Marriage must have a termination/expiration date of 5 years. Having stayed married for what looks like an eternity, though by definite chronological time has only been 10 years, I definitely have strong views concerning marriage. I’m all about the affection, believe me, I’m just not all about the marriage. You’re setting yourself up for unhappiness. My opinions come from the viewpoint of a faithful married man. Relationships amongst men and women, men and men, women and women, and any other grouping you can think of, are delightful things. Will I stay married always? Maybe Yes, maybe No. It’s just that I’ve been persuaded by society into thinking I’ve failed as a person on positive levels if my relationship fails. So, I remain tramping along to show I’m adorable because I’m part of a pair.
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10 responses
• United States
26 Sep 11
It should have a renewal policy. every 5 years a couple should be able to decide if they want to continue.But no , it would ruin the vows. " To have and to hold" , well until you pi$$ me off then don't touch me! For richer or poorer, but if you lost your job , I'm gone! Forsaking All others , unless you shut me out and another finds me desirable! I never thought that love/ romance and mutual respect/ liking each other truly , could Ever survive my marriage! i see it as a war of wills. So from age 13 til about 21 I would say I would pick an enemy to marry. That way I'm in the correct frame of mind From the beginning . But as I got older I didn't see it was worth it. I rather love and be loved. But since Everyone else equates love with marriage I thought if I found a guy who would love me , he would ask me to marry him and I would have to say no. But The G-ds were kind and my guy agrees with me. No marriage for us, just love.
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• United States
10 Feb 12
Thanks for the best response.
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@celticeagle (118265)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Sep 11
I don't know that being in a relationship means you are any better as a person. I think it takes a special person and a strong relationship to make it all last and be good. I think that marriage should be a committed arangement and if a person aren't in for the long haul then why bother?
• United States
26 Sep 11
Well I'm hope you stay married because it is so emotional to go through a divorce. But if you or your spouse isn't happy, I supposed that is the right thing to do. I can understand your views and I share them a bit. Although I'm not married, I just feel that the shelf life for marriage is about 7 years. That's probably not a popular belief and if I were married, I would hope that it would be longer that the 5 to 7 years, but I'm not optimistic. Best of luck to you.
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• Pakistan
26 Sep 11
I strongly disagree with you on this point. because marriage is not a product which have mfg date and expiry date. one cannot want to live like animals just to fulfill lusty desires. marriage is something cannot viewed as you do.
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@AJsMom (157)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
Marriage is supposed to strengthen the union of two partners. Yes of course to get into it, there must be an ideal setup for the two contracting party. But the setup is just for environmental purposes only. To create a harmonious marriage life, both parties must be willing to give way to each other. It is about sharing, giving and yes taking too. Some people are really not the marrying type because I think they have fears. They fear giving in, giving up and some even fear taking or accepting. I think expiration in a marriage is ridiculous. I can't imagine my beloved telling me "let's get married for 10 years and separate after that. When you think of marriage you think of forever. Save your worries for the future because you will not be happy if you will not give happiness a try. If a relationship fails it is not the fault of marriage because with or without marriage it may either grow or just die if not properly nourished.
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@huilichan8 (1379)
• Singapore
26 Sep 11
Why do you think that marriage must hv a termination date? I think if a person wants to get married, he/she shld work on his/her marriage constantly to make sure it is healthy and strong. Will termination of a marriage work? What will happen to the kids? If a marriage is terminated after 5 yrs and the person gets married again and again after every 5 yrs, what will happen to the kids? What will happen to the society? What will happen to moral values? What does this teach the kids?
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@rose1717 (190)
• United States
26 Sep 11
I do not agree with marriages having a expiration date. I got married very young, just out of school and have been married for almost 14 years. It doesn't feel like it has been that long already for us. We have children together and enjoy our family life and also some alone time with each other. I hold our marriage very highly, my husband is my best friend and I am his. We always have gotten along great. We do have our share of ups and downs like everyone else does too. We just work through them. I believe that marriage is forever so I wasn't just going to marry the first person to come along. I made sure it was to someone who had the same values and morrals as I held, and same parenting beliefs. I'm sorry that you feel like you have been married for eternity when it has only been 10 years. It kind of sounds like you are not happy. I think marriage is a choice that should be forever, but I also believe that a married couple should both be happy and share the same life goals, when that doesn't happen then I think that is why their is marriage counceling and divorse if nothing else works. The goal should be forever, but sadly it sometimes doesn't work out that way for a lot of people. Marriage is a choice and a lot of people take the easy way out. Maybe talk with your husband and get things out in the open, try marriage counceling as a couple or by yourself. You sound sad and stuck in a relationship that is making you unhappy.
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@kingparker (9698)
• United States
26 Sep 11
So, after read your discussion, I assumed that you might had a failed relationship? I am not trying to pry or anything, but We shouldn't give an expiration on a marriage. I heard my co - worker married for 25 years, and they still happily living together. So, marriage can be forever. It is between 2 persons whether they truly love each other or not. I had a fail relationship with my girlfriend before too, and I learn my lesson from it.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
i dont like to be persuaded by society, i like to live my life the way i wanted it to be. i am married for 9 years now and so far so good. of course we have our ups and downs but that is part of having a relationship. we also have a son who is five years old and i dont like for him to be affected by society and what it says and think. we individuals have our own minds and needs and society can not force us to think and to need something that we dont like. i live my life as a husband and as a father on the things that makes my wife and my son happy. i live my life on what i think i can be happy that my family is happy as well. life is complicated but we can make it easy if we are happy and contented on what we have no, and dream and work hard for the things we want to have.
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@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
hi, i think its more fun if the marriage contract have termination or expiration so that when a couple dont love each other they only wait the end of their contract,but when they are still love each other and satisfy for their relationship then that will be the time to re-contract it.