Big family vs. an only child.
By Hazelme
@Hazelme (647)
United States
September 25, 2011 11:09pm CST
I grew up with a family of 15, we were so many and sometimes their weren't enough food in the house for everyone to eat since my parents were very poor. All my brothers and sisters we didn't really get enough attention from our parent since they were always working in the land to provide us shelter.
My sisters and I had to wash our brothers clothes, make food sometimes, and clean the house after school. My brothers will either go hunt for armadillos which are pretty good, fried.
Today I was at my boyfriend's house and I met this young teen girl, it was his niece. While my boyfriend left to go get a couple of sodas, me and her were left alone so i tried to conversant with her, the ways she answered me she sounded so stuck up and gave me mean looks, so she just got her ipod and walked away.
My boyfriend told me she was an only child that's why she was spoiled. Personally i would rather be a only child because i never got attention from my parents but she does all the time and she pushes them away.
I wanna know what you mylot members think, is it better to have a big family or be an only child?.
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8 responses
@wangziyuan0709 (36)
• China
26 Sep 11
as a chinese girl, our country has implemented one child policy,so as a 80th generation, i am the only child in a big family, but all of our generation live under the same roof.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
26 Sep 11
Wow! You had such a big family! 
I'm actually an only child and my friends all thought that I was spoilt. As the only child, my parents gave me lots of attention and I didn't have the hassle of fighting over things with siblings. Compared to my cousins who all have siblings, they would always fight over something and my parents were happy to have an only child. I would say it's quite lonely, there's no siblings to chat to. Though, I reckon just because you're an only child doesn't make you spoilt. It depends on the parenting and the parents spoiling their kids. My parents never spoilt me and they taught me that I can't have everything I wanted.
I'm actually an only child and my friends all thought that I was spoilt. As the only child, my parents gave me lots of attention and I didn't have the hassle of fighting over things with siblings. Compared to my cousins who all have siblings, they would always fight over something and my parents were happy to have an only child. I would say it's quite lonely, there's no siblings to chat to. Though, I reckon just because you're an only child doesn't make you spoilt. It depends on the parenting and the parents spoiling their kids. My parents never spoilt me and they taught me that I can't have everything I wanted. 
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
I think both have advantages and disadvantages. It is not practical to have big family if the budget is tight but if you can afford then go and make your family big but make sure parents can handle many kids. Raising kids is not just all about money but you should also know how to nurture them.
I have only one child because I married late but although my son is an only child and he used to long he could have a brother or a sister I noted that he was able to learn how to be happy even when he is alone at home. We helped him to feel that our love for him is enough to feel the gap and that being happy is not about having many members in the family.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
27 Sep 11
Many only children are spoiled but not all. I have girlfriends who were lonely as an only child and wish they had brothers and sisters. My kids were 9 years apart and I felt they were raised more or less like only children. I don't think they were spoiled but became very independent individuals. They didn't have a brother or sister to join classes or lean on so they had to stand on their own. They also each had attention from their parents.
I don't know what a large family is like but when I watch TV and see lots of brothers and sisters I think it's kind of nice to have all that togetherness. No doubt it also presents some problems, but it seems to me there would be a lot of advantages too.
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
27 Sep 11
hi hazelme
actually i would like to have a bigger family maybe because in our family it is just me and my sisters and i like to have a brother because having a brother makes me fill good especially if i saw my friends having there brother . My boyfriends family they are all boys so i treat my boyfriend as a friend, brother , love one and a boyfriend .
@00fear (3216)
• United States
26 Sep 11
Of course the only child is spoiled and gets he or she wants but then he/she is the only child. That kid has no one to talk to, play with or even hangout with. Of course they can always make friends but for one thing, if the child is spoiled, what will the other children react around her/his attitude. Giving them mean looks and having this stuck up look. They wouldn't want to be her/his friend anymore. Second of all, again, of course he/she can make friends but how about family things like parties or going out to dinner with her/his parents. Who will she/he talk to at dinner besides her/his parents or at a family's house the child never gone to? Like my father told me, everytime someone wants something they must sacrifice (or there's always a catch, in other words). I want to be the only child and get what I want and be spoiled, but then I would be alone. I would pick brothers/sisters, and get not that much of attention but at least I have someone to talk to and hangout with. I would rather have a big family to be honest in my opinion.
@dynzdolina (381)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
For practical reasons, having a small family is a good option but it should not compromise the upbringing of these kids. It is still necessary to introduce and imbibe in them values that they should be inculcating as they become adults eventually. Big family can be fun and happier, but that would entails additional finances to support the basic needs.
