How is a good mother in law?

I think as long as you make your daughter in laws feel accepted you'll be okay. Also respect the fact that they are now their own family. My mother in law treats me like I stole her son. I don't feel accepted. Especially once we had kids. In the last 9 years she has probably only watched our kids a handful of times. She isn't really concerned with them. She makes others in the family think think that I keep my husband from his family just because for some of the family functions we haven't been able to make it because of previous plans. She is always trying to get my husband to come do stuff for them when he barely spends time at home as it is. She even had the nerve to ask him to go get a car for them on our anniversary and when I was only 3 days away from my due date and it was a 2 day trip. It makes me really sad to feel like she doesn't like me when I've done nothing wrong and I think it has made him pull away from her too.

Hi katie: As you have mentioned, respect is a must in every relation so the perfect mother in law should respect the person her son daughter chose and also she should accept this person as part of her family. After that I think it's all about understanding the way both persons can have a good relationship. ALVARO