Long distance relationship is really tough

@enelym001 (8322)
Philippines
October 12, 2011 10:30am CST
We were together (not under one roof) before, but things became tough suddenly. And we have been away from each other for 2 straight years now. We aren't married yet, we arent chatting regularly, he was just sending sms and calling sometimes for like 1 minute. I sometimes like to quit it and start anew. Long distance relationship is really so tough I guess, if we are already married maybe it wont be this hard waiting for him. I seem to lose my hope about our future together.
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8 responses
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
I feel for you. I am currently in a long distance relationship. However, unlike you, we regularly text and call each other, sometimes we chat thru yahoo messenger but yes it is tough lately i get so emotional every time i misses him. i want to be with him everyday but we still can't because we need to fix some financial problems first. we are both saving up so we can be together soon, but sometimes i feel like i want to give up, like what you said that you seem to lose hope about your future together, sometimes i also think that way. but whenever i hear all his plans for us, i feel like i want this to work. maybe because i know that we both love each other,that maybe it's not yet our time now to be together, but soon we will be together and will never be apart. just keep the faith. if you really love your partner, you both need to sacrifice for your future.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
We regularly chat before and he used to call everyday or every other day. His shift had changed and so our chat and his calls becomes less. chatting has not been done anymore. Before that I usually fight with him about this issue. Coz the more we try to think of options to be together, the more destiny keeps us away from each other. I sometimes feel that we might not be destined for each other. Maybe someone is meant for him, someone for me too. But every time he speaks to me, he was trying to give me hope. I sometimes feel totally giving up on everything that we have planned for. But I'm still here, receiving his calls and reading his sms...
• India
13 Oct 11
Friend due to this fear I cant give the permission to my husband for going Dubai. A call get for Dubai but I tell him I am coming with you otherwise leave this opportunity. Our India is good.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
13 Oct 11
Friend every relationship is tough long distance or less distance. If understanding is not proper, communication is not proper, trust is not in relationship then maintain the relationship is very hard. This is very sad you cant chat with your partner. But ask your partner why not talk with you more time and he should came to meet you.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
really tough, and his reason was because his work was in the field, no time for internet outside because his work shift is evenings... and our time difference is 5 hours.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
12 Oct 11
It's a hard one to call, but from the sound of it if there's not much chat going on. It might be time to call it over, then if you are ment to be you will get back together when the time is right. My partner lives a 5.5hr drive from me, i used to see him once every 4-6 weeks. Then he changed jobs, and was able to be here here on his days off which are working 4 days then 4 off. but now he has lost his licence for 12 months, so it will show if we are ment to be or not. For him to come see me he has to try and take a bus or i go up there. Which i'm doing at the start of november.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
Ours was really so tough. That was mainly the reason I tried to end up the relationship. Although he wouldn't accept it. He was telling me to hold on and try to understand him. We have 5 hours time difference and most of his waking hours was the time that I was fast asleep when his shift was changed. He doesnt have time to go online and that's what he was trying to make me understand.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
13 Oct 11
I really think long distance relationship is a tough thing but it is not impossible. I have seem my friend do is and they are working it fine. She is from another country and my friend is from here. They meet like 2 times a yea I think. Sometimes the girlfriend comes here, sometimes he goes to her country. When I think of it myself, I think I could never do something like that. I mean I would want to see my boyfriend all the time and if I couldn't, it would be heartbreaking and hard. Anyway the thing I want to ask you is, is he worth the wait? Is he the one that you love and will make you happy? If the answer is yes then I think you should wait for him and why not talk to him about everything that is happeneing these days, like you guys not talking and just texting and stuffs. Anyway I hope things work out with you guys. Good luck.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
Yeah I love him, we have been a couple for more than 5 years. Destiny is testing us by separating the both of us. We were actually of different nationalities, and both working in one country. Until everything seems hard for both of us and the only thing we can do is sacrifice being together. He has to work in another country, and I have to go back to my country. It was all good at first as I understand the situation that it is not our fault. But lately I have to realization that maybe everything happened because God is trying to show us that we aren't meant to be... but somehow maybe I was just being unfair to him... this is really confusing.
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
Long distance relationship is hard at first, but Communication is the key to both of you, no matter how busy life is.Your love and commitment with each other should be there as strong as could be, Having trust and faith will maintain a good long distance relationship
13 Oct 11
Distant relationship is really tough in the sense that it brings room for distrust of each other in as much that you can not see each other at a moment.These scenario can be obtain when one of the partner is comfortable where he/she finds himself.
@ralphs (209)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
yes i totally agree with you , its really tough the only thing that can make the relationship stronger is TRUST and PATIENCE , if you dont have the guts please leave each other harmoniously just talk one on one speak from your heart .
13 Oct 11
Distance from a relation really is a problem in some cases as some people tend to forget about each other.Also when you part from each other and you find someone where you've been to that can keep you company there is the tendency for you to forget the other person.