Why?
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
United States
October 15, 2011 7:43pm CST
Why do men have to be the way they are sometimes? I was so sad today! I was hurt! First of all my husband needed to go to the dentist for a long time and I finally told him to go! And for those of you that already know that he told me to quit my job a few months ago, He did not want me on the bus because we were in the triple digit temps. Then every time he gets a job he is never satisfied with the pay and always complains and I can not go back to my job and have him call me and say come get me. I need 40 hours and if I go to a new job I can not leave like that so I have been doing what I can at home and today when we were in the dentist office he asked me how much money i HAD IN THE BANK AND i told him and he yelled at me in front of all the people in there and I started crying and told him I was going to walk around the little shops in the parking lot while I was waiting on him. Then we got home and he came in the Kitchen and asked me something and I asked him what did you say?He said you are a f'n idiot! I said what did you say? And then he asked me if I wanted him to leave? I said yea if you are going to talk to me like that and I didn't even do anything just get the f out of my house! Then he had called his brother to go to get his presciption and I asked his brother did he say anything to you about me? He said no and I told him what happened and he said he was just in pain and maybe it was the medicine they gave him? But Why? I did not do anything! I am hurt!!
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10 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Oct 11
Yes I can imagine how hurtful this must have been. There is really no excuse to take out frustrations out on the people we love, pain or no pain.
I can understand that he is probably really frustrated about finances but it is he who does not want you to work when you are working. I am not sure what you can do to change things outside of speaking to him.
Hopefully he will calm down to be able to rationally speak to him. Maybe it is time to remind him that unless you work the bank account will not increase.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
17 Oct 11
I know. He apologized to me. But I don't forget. I just got a job offer today and I am going to the interview in the morning whether he likes it or not.
@allknowing (130233)
• India
16 Oct 11
One of those bad days I guess. Just stay cool and time will diffuse the situation and all will be well soon. When you have not done anything wrong and he yells at you it is kind of upsetting but probably as his brother said he must have been in pain and so took it out on you. I am sure this will subside and he will realise what an idiot he was!
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
17 Oct 11
It was a really bad day. But he did apologize to me. 
@allknowing (130233)
• India
18 Oct 11
"After the storm comes the calm. After the calm comes the sunshine"
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
16 Oct 11
I appreciate how hurt you must be feeling. Your husband had absolutely no right to talk to you the way he did and to embarrass you in public and I don’t think a sore tooth is a valid excuse. My husband works full time and does not like his job at times and occasionally takes it out on me and resents the fact that I love being at home taking care of my daughter and my animals as well as doing my writing. He does get angry at me and has admitted resentment especially when money is short. This is usually followed by an apology but quite frankly it doesn’t cut it sometimes. Talk to him about when the situation blows over a little.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
17 Oct 11
I did talk to him and he did apologize. But I really don't see any reason for him to talk to me like he did and I don't forget. It was nice of him to apologize but I still feel a little hurt over it.
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
I do not think it is fair to you, hmm no matter how much he is in pain he should never utter those words. There is still such a word..RESPECT and LOVE. If he respects you in the first place, no matter what the circumstances are he should never yelled at your nor say you are an idiot and depend on you for money just because he had his teeth extracted, he is the one who is idiot, i am sorry but he is. 
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
17 Oct 11
He did apologize but I will not forget and I am the type of person that does not forget such things as this.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
16 Oct 11
I'm really lucky, my husband never talks to me that way. I wish I had some wise advice for you but I don't. Hang in there. I'm hoping things will get better for you. Best Wishes!
@jokerzhunter (129)
• United States
16 Oct 11
Don't worry, sometimes we let our emotions take control of us and lose ourselves in the process, only to realize that we did something wrong. Just let it pass and with time try getting him back into your life. I'm sure he didn't mean to say that to you.
@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
16 Oct 11
Not sure why. You should probably ask him when he is in a better mood. Only he knows the reason why. I guess he was frustrated and it all just came bursting out, it probably surprised him, too. Some men won't apologize or even know how to apologize. They will just pretend like it never happened.
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
17 Oct 11
He did apologize to me. I know he was in a lot of pain.
@marguicha (216082)
• Chile
16 Oct 11
When a tooth hurt it is almost unbearable. Maybe he was in a bad temper for that. And when we hurt, we many times hurt the person that´s neared to us. Don´t mind him now and take care of him. He aches. Excuse him this time!
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
17 Oct 11
I did take care of him even though I was hurt. He did apologize to me.
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
16 Oct 11
Hello jahernandezrivas,
I think your husband is frustrated due to the financial crisis you have these days
.But the way he is showing his frustration on you is not good.I think you both need to sit down together and discuss what you can do to fight with this financial crisis you are suffering these days and may be your leaving the job be one of the reasons and if you feel it then you must try to have a job at the earliest. 
.But the way he is showing his frustration on you is not good.I think you both need to sit down together and discuss what you can do to fight with this financial crisis you are suffering these days and may be your leaving the job be one of the reasons and if you feel it then you must try to have a job at the earliest. 
@Hazelme (647)
• United States
16 Oct 11
Wow. this is really shocking. I think his really frustrated with money problems and like you say he is not satisfy. I don't know the reason why he is not satisfy but i suggest you to let him calm down for a while and when he is relax talk to him no yelling or anything and tell him you why isn't seem satisfy. I don't guarantee this might work but atleast you're giving it a try!
If he continues like this you don't need to put up with this and do what you think it's best!
I know you're hurt and he should know you are. But giving it time and manybe understanding his frustration might help. Money is a big issue in family problem nowadays and it's up to you to figure if this is the case.
Cheer up my friend!
@jahernandezrivas (11288)
• United States
17 Oct 11
I know he is frustrated and I know bt he always takes thing out on mee like it is my fault. I just learned to ignore him anymore. L.O.L. 
