What is marriage

Like I said two people don't need papers to say they are married. If two people feel that they are married in some way or another then they are married. Their are many ways to define what marriage is and between two people the definition might not be to the same point the same to each other but if both are willing and committed to each other then the definition shouldn't really matter. Its just a promise between two people what ever way you put it as. If you feel you are married but not tied down where you want to run and hid and not be with them no more then you are okay. Marriage should make you feel happy that you are with that person. You have and inner marriage as I see it, you both know what you want and need from each other. I say I have an outer marriage where me and my hubby show our marriage by having legal documents and rings. We where first marriages to each other inside and wanted to be and outside marriage for the world to see and know.

An inner marriage. I love that. That is exactly what we have! We are connected but not legally. Thanks. I love it!

Your welcome. I think that is the best way I can put if for you two at least. You two have and inner marriage to each other.

Thank you for your answer - it is very interesting. Yesterday my boyfriend said that he want married me, but it is expensive and now money need baby

There are all kind of weddings. If you and your boyfriend really want to get married then do it. There are nice cheap weddings. I had a court wedding done by a judge, most places in the world have something like that. Something small with just family does well. You don't need fancy stuff to have a nice wedding.

It has nothing to do with jealous at all. If you look back in time a marriage was about two people binding each other together. It wasn't about love it was mainly about having a son, getting your name out there being more powerful and richer. Over time marriage has become a commitment between two people promising to themselves and the other person that they want to be with that person only for the rest of there life. Making about love and not about just having a child, having more power or money. A ring is just a symbol of your endless love for each other and way back when it use to be the way that a men kept a women after they got married they would tire a rope around there finger to his own to stop her from trying to leave and once she learned this was her place he would take that rope of ring off of her finger. Now we use it as showing over love for the person we are with and that you are binding yourself to that person and not leaving me till you die or they die. But you don't need a paper or a ring really to be married to a person. I wanted for myself and so did my husband. We wanted the documents and the rings to say we are together forever and not going to cheat on each other.

Its not a contract I see it as there are two kind of marriages those that of us have one that say it on a paper because that all it ever is. A piece of paper it doesn't mean forever at all and then there is one we have with just the person we love with out any legal documents. A contract can be broken with easy. I see it as an understanding and a promise to each other and as well as themselves to try to stay together for as long as they can.

Yes, you are right. There needs to be trust too. You cannot have any of the others with out trust. Good point :)

Yep.

That is very true but I also think there is more to it then just the commitment, love, honor and respect, there has to be trust if there is no trust then there is no respect for each other and what each other wants and needs for each other.