why do people love us when we are doing what they want us to do?

United States
October 21, 2011 10:35am CST
tired of being loved when you are doing a favor? How about not getting into a verbal boxing match when you want to do something for yourself.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
Some people are only taking us for granted. But once they cannot find anything useful or cannot ask any favor from us, they will surely leave us behind. I have seen few people having such kind of attitude that is why I am too keen when making friends esp with strangers.
• United States
3 Nov 11
thank you and feel u all the way. but oneday someone will call or come by just to see me and nothing else.
• United States
21 Oct 11
That's not true love or gratitude. If someone only loves you when you're doing something for them, then they're merely being selfish and aren't worth your time. I agree they need to learn to do things for themselves. I think all of us can sometimes show more gratuity and affection when we're getting something we want...It's human to be excited. However, to do it all the time, and to only show thanks and love when you're getting something you want, just shows you're not an appreciative person. (Or they aren't that is). You just have to surround yourself with people who appreciate you more as a person, and not just for what you do to cater to their needs.
• United States
3 Nov 11
thank you.I hope to have my own family or a best friend but until then I'm a loner.
• Canada
21 Oct 11
Some people are takers. You have to stand up for yourself. No one else is going to. People with run your life for you if you let them. You teach people how to treat you. It sounds like your not getting the respect you want. You have to change that. If they are truly your friends they will respect that and be by your side. If they leave then they were never your friend anyway. I recently had a friend try to over take something in my life. I let them do it before. But this time I stood firm and said no. It's been a while and no contact from them. I'm ok with it because I won't be bullied by anyone. My life....my right! Make the choice today to stand up for you! You will love the feeling of taking that control back that you gave away! Good luck!
• United States
3 Nov 11
thank you and you are right my friends and family do not contact me because of the choices I make for myself and not for them and it's my life!!! But they make stronger everyday I stand alone.