Parent-children bonding time

i completely agree 100%! i think it would stand in a parents favour immensely if he or she were to take a more important role in their childrens lives! too many parents these days force their children into activities to get them "ahead" in life, or activities they undertook as a child themselves, but every child is an individual and although a product of their parents, will have different personality traits, and may not like the same things their parents did. if parents were able to actively be involved with their kids more and find out their likes and dislikes, it would stand in their favour, especially in later/adult life.. where it would be important to be friends.

Hi kei! I so agree to this. Parents could very well understand their kids if they just try to learn about their kids' interests and hobbies. Even if they know they won't like it, at least they tried first before nagging their kids about it. As an anime fan, this was my wish before but my mother never really tried. When I got addicted with Korean dramas she also scolded me for staying in front of the tv for long period of hours. She didn't try and watch any of what I was watching then. Now she's the one addicted to it but it's too late for bonding because I'm totally over K-dramas now.

My kids loves music and that is our way of bonding with each other. My only daughter can play flute,sax,piano and guitar and has a good voice. My second son knows to play the drums and guitar also. My youngest is not fond of musical instrument but can sing very well. Sometimes they will play songs and record it and I am their critic and audience.

parents and children relation is the ultimate in this universe, it will comes into all creatures...

Though I am not good with music, I am trying my best to reach out to my children who are music enthusiasts. Like I help them find guitar chords in the internet and print it for their file. For my youngest, I make sure that I am with her during the angklong practise. We are very fortunate that the coach is allowing us to be inside the room while they are having their practise. Though I could not understand fully how to play those instrument, I am very proud and happy in listening to their music. In fact, I will be on leave from work on Wednesday just to watch my daughter play the instrument with her group.

I think agree to that article, that a parent and child's relationship improved after the parent tried to understand her child's hobby. What I see is that, if a parent is an open minded person, who will listen first to her child before giving some comments to what she saw, a child will not be scared to say what she is feeling or if she have done something wrong. A child has its own life, if she do something that you don't like, ask her why she did that and give time to listen to her. Right after then, let her know that you disagree to it and explain, so then a child will do something for it on her own way. But if the child will still do the thing that you disagree about give her time to understand to what do you mean, and keep reminding her for then she will know. Now, if what the child is doing, doesn't harm people or any living things and also make her happy, let her do the things, hobbies or activities that she like. Just go with her, remember that a parent is not to dictate but to support the child to the right things that she wants to do.

I think that one of the most important things once you're a parent is making sure that you spend a large amount of quality time with your family. Your child might not want to spend as much time with you during your teenage years, but this is just something that you have to live with and work through, and you should find that you are a stronger person as a result of this once your children are grown up and are willing to spend time with you again. You should try things that everybody will enjoy, and not simply stick to things like going shopping or going out for meals and things like that.

Hi friend.... I do not have ant experience about this.. but i think you are correct in understanding about the bond... I think Understanding child's hobbies and interest helps us to be friendly with our children....

This is so true. I don't have kids but I have god children and neices and nephews. Their parents could never really understand why their kids get so excited when I come around and they always want to be around me. Part of the reason is that I did what they. My oldest god-son loves to play video games and throw the football, even though I am not big on video games at all I gave him that time. The girl's hobbies vary between reading, cooking, watching a tv program, coloring etc. I have no boundaries when it comes to them. Nothing is too girly for me to do especially when they open up to me and tell me about their day or what is going on with them. Sometimes I tell the parents thing they had no idea of. But I only tell them if I feel it is something they need to know about otherwise I keep it confidential and that trust and honesty is what a child needs to know they have with you.