Is it true? Friends have circles...

@aquacan (216)
China
October 24, 2011 7:11am CST
I used to hold the view that no matter what background and environment we come from, however different we are, people can always make friends if they want. I believe that people can keep their friendship even if they don't share the same status, wealth, age... But recently, I've also heard about some very different ideas. In some people's eyes, friends do have circles. According to them, people who are from different backgrounds, especially financial backgrounds, cannot be friends. For example, they believe that a rich man could be kind to a poor man, but they can't be friends because of the huge difference between. I feel kind of confused when I heard about this. Is it true that people can't be friends because of the differences? Is it true that friends have circles? What do you think of it?
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5 responses
@umabharti (3972)
• India
24 Oct 11
What is wrong to be having circles,it is there from quite a long time,People do maintain the friendship circles or that groups. Its okay however when it comes to making a friendship some see those differences of rich and poor but there are people who make friendship not seeing anything.
@aquacan (216)
• China
24 Oct 11
Good day. There's nothing wrong to have friend circles. From my own experience, I also have so many friends that come from the similar background to me. I can easily communicate with them because we share the same interests, same life experience, etc. So we can always find something to talk with other. Staying with them makes me feel comfortable. And it's kind of hard to make friends from a different environment. Sometimes misunderstanding took place and you don't even know why. But I think it's also a good thing for people to make friends from different backgrounds. If there is much contact, I'm sure they can easily understand each other and be friends.
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
24 Oct 11
Good day friend. We all need friends around us,no one can do ever without friends and friends circle.There should be sharing and caring to live in this world. Differences can be there but they do not affect the friendship . Some are there who do not look for those background or status things. Friendship and love are done with heart and i dont say that these background differences can do something .
• United States
24 Oct 11
Wow...this is a good question to raise! In my personal opinion, I think that it's really all relative to the person. I think as a generalization, people befriending mostly people within their own social circle is true. Most people are usually around people within their own "status" more than anyone else. For example, rich people usually send their children to private schools or schools where other privileged children attend. Therefore, those children will become friends with other children who share their "rich status". Same thing for children living in poverty. They don't have the same chances given to them as a wealthy child, therefore they would probably never have the chance to meet each other. That's where you have to look deeper to the person. Say, there's a wealthy teenager who decides that they want to help at a shelter or something where an impoverished teenager is living with their family. These two teenagers have a chance to become friends. More than likely, they could become good friends because the wealthy teenager would probably have a good, open, and caring heart (because of the fact they want to help those less fortunate than them) and be more apt to understand and empathize with the poorer teenager. My best friend is 16 years older than me, very well off, a different race than me, and very open and friendly where I'm very shy. At the time we were becoming friends, I was going through a time in my life where I was living from place to place and had nothing to my name. I never once asked her for anything, but she gave me the shoulder I needed to lean on, and the strength to get through the tough spots. Now that my life is under control, we are still as close as sisters...ten years later! For all intents and purposes we are in completely different circles, ages, races, everything, but we are "family"! So, yes, I believe that statement is true in a wide generalization, but it all boils down to what's in the persons heart :)
@aquacan (216)
• China
26 Oct 11
Thanks so much for sharing your ideas with me. In most cases, that statement is true. People can also tell from their own experiences. In daily life, we are often limited in a stable circle and don't have many chances to meet those who are totally different from us. So most of our friends are those who share the similar backgrounds. That's not a bad thing. And staying with them often makes feel more comfortable. But chances are that we meet new people from time to time. From those who we call "out of the circle", actually we can also find something shiny and attractive. So why not make friends with them? I just felt confused when someone told me that they would rather keep the circle than let new people in and enlarge the circle. Maybe they can learn from your experience and hold an open and positive attitude. Thank you for response again, I really appreciate it.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
I think so. Because I have a circle of friends, young and adult ones but I can relate with them and they loved my company much. I also have circle of friends same with my age and other friends who are older than me. I guess it depends on how you treat each of them.
24 Oct 11
hi:) yes it's true, we have also circle of friends, but not according to status of life, it's because were on the same interests and were on the same activities. and if ever one of our friends have friends, we could also include them on our circle as long as we s/he have same interest like ours.
@aquacan (216)
• China
24 Oct 11
A pleasant day. I agree with you that people can be friends if they share the same interests. Actually, status or wealth has nothing or little to do with friendship. And I also believe that we make friends from some people because we can see some shiny points from them; we can find comfort and encourage from them. And friends can always learn from each other.
• Philippines
24 Oct 11
In my opinion, there is a little truth in that statement. But, I am not generalizing. You see, people with same values, same status and grew up in almost the same environment, understands each other more often than not. So if you are friends with someone with a different background, there are times that you don't understand each other, be it a reaction to a certain situation or the way you deal with certain problems. I actually tried to look closer at my friends, and I can say that my closest friends does have the same background as I have. Though when I was a kid, I did have friends with different backgrounds, but as we all grew up, they hang out with me less and less. So I guess, there's truth in that statement, somehow.
@aquacan (216)
• China
24 Oct 11
Good day. I also believe that people say that because of some reasons. I can tell that from my own story too. Actually, when people get into different situations, they would find less and less to share with each other. Lack of communication makes it harder for them to make friends. But I think if people can hold an open attitude and give others an listening ear, that problem could be solved one day and they can make friends. And there's a lot that they can also learn through their differences.