For Filipino user like me: marriage life

Philippines
October 29, 2011 3:41pm CST
My husband and i usually fight for some simple reason, example of this are regarding our job. I currently work as a supervisor in a call center industry while he works as a call center agent but we are not in the same company. He joins his team building with his team but doesn't allow we to have a team building with my team when it's a crucial thing to a call center industry. Even though i explain to him clearly that it's just plain bonding time with my agent. could it be there's a lapse in our relationship that trust is an issue?? or there might be something going on in a team building that he doesn't want me to experience?
4 responses
• Philippines
29 Oct 11
Wow that indeed is a shallow thing to fight for. Have you asked him why he does not allow you to take part on the team building thing? What is his excuse? Does your husband easily gets jealous? From what I see, I do not think trust is the main issue here. Maybe your husband has self insecurities. It has something to do on his ego. Since you are a supervisor while he is just an agent, I think that hurts his ego. He sees you as a superior, the one dominating in your relationship. Maybe because of that he thinks that you could easily leave him and find someone better.
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
I did.. I told him that we already have to kids and everyone in the office knows that Im married and happy. I always assure him that no one can replace him, but if this immaturity continues I might get fed up that is why up until now i want to understand him. He doesn't want to explain further but he just doesn't want me to join then. In fact i usaually asked him to join us.. :(
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
Wow what is wrong with your husband? Is he like that even before? How long have you been together? I'm surprised you already have two kids. These kinds of fights are for newly weds who are on adjusting stage only. There is something we are missing out here. Tell him that if he continues to decline in giving explanations, you will not know what is wrong and therefore would not be able to fix your relationship.
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
you're both call center agents you can fix it I think. Don't let your jobs or pride conquer you. I think that's a very simple reason to have a fight.
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
thanks i hope so.. : )
• United States
14 Mar 12
Hello! Well it could be he does not want you to experience something on the team, it could be a jelousy issue. I s he a jealous man? My boyfriend makes remarks about my job and who I work with. But your husband has to understand and build trust with you. How does he expect the bills to be paid? I would talk to him about this issue
@Metatronik (5911)
• Pasay, Philippines
14 Mar 12
Though this is already 5 months ago post. But then I would rather say that I think the issue there is not about trust but INSECURITY. Because you know the mentality of guys especially for being too much PRIDE or he is a kind of man who has EGOISTIC attitude. Maybe he can't imagine himself that you are already a supervisor while in his case he is still an agent. He doesn't want you to join the team building maybe because that is his only way that he wants you to obey him. That is going to be frustrating on my part if my husband wouldn't support me for being a supervisor instead he would feel the insecurity.