"Being Silent ....... "

Philippines
November 1, 2011 8:06am CST
we are so familiar in this word.. and it means to be a lot if we apply into our life. In a relationship being silent if there is misunderstanding is good for the meantime, just to think much better what to do next. And, i personally observed this between us. he like me to be better quite and think positively for better result. And it works. I like this way too... This is good for us and i called it a "pause" to think well.. Friends what do you think about this way..? Thanks to all of you my friends and have a good day always..!
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12 responses
@savak03 (6681)
• United States
1 Nov 11
I wish I could get my grandkids to be silent...at least part of the time. When I was a child I used to play quietly most of the time. Of course, I was raised by myself so that may have had something to do with it. My grandkids however have to do everything at the top of their voice. When all three of them are trying to talk at the same time it gets quite noisome.
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
We cannot control kids of today's while playing.. and to hear their voices are really nice to my ear.. Sometimes it makes irritations with us if they are really at the top of their voices.. Thanks a lot my friend and have a nice day with you!
• India
1 Nov 11
This is really good way to take decisions. It will help you to take a correct decision when you are in disturbed mind.
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Yes my friend we need to be at silence stage of life when critical conditions of making a decision to make. Thanks a lot and have a nice day with you!
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
12 Aug 12
hi, i think sometimes we need to be silent,because when its silent it will reduce some fighting and misunderstanding of each other,this also like a having a space to us.
@keihimekawa (2010)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
I think this also applies to other people even if they are not in a relationship. Sometimes, staying quiet and being silent means a lot. It may mean that the person is carefully thinking about the outcome of his/her actions or he/she just needs some time to calm down. A "breather" as I call it. It's better to keep silent for a while rather than open your mouth and say something which you may regret later
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
I agree. I also do not want argument thu sometimes I want to express my feelings. I don't want to keep what i feel for a long time, I don't want to keep anger. I have learned about "silence" is really good. Now I am trying to keep some space/distance and silent with the one I love. It also helps to miss each other.
@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Hi! Sometimes silence really help. Take a pause when your angry and think a lot before you do or say something. words are powerful , it may either help or create disaster. Silence is useful in every relationship but doing it all the time is not also healthy. Have balance in communication. Speaking up is also good but do it in a right manner and have a right timing. Silence is also good when yielding on God's plan for us.Silence means we have the opportunity to listen. Let us practice silence on the right time and situation.
@Greninee (369)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Yes, I agree with you. When I was a student, I studied in psychiatric nursing that silence is therapeutic. When the patient is unresponsive, it is therapeutic for the nurse to stay in patient's side silently. Well, I really believe that silence is therapeutic. HAPPY MYLOTTING!
@Mhazmil (54)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 11
congratulation to you because successful use this method for make yourself happier. I support-you, because not necessarily we need to say such-and-such just because to satisfy itself. quiet is good solutions if others can understood. May God bless your relationship. :)
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Sometimes being silent can mean yes or no. It can also mean different from one person to the other. Yesterday my parents had a misunderstanding about the things they do. Well, actually my father is cooking "biko" and my mother thought the one in the cooking pot is to be thrown away, so she went on to pour water in it not knowing what it is for. It's hard to make biko cause you have to grate the coconut and get the milk from it. The ending is my father got angry and from that time, he kept on being silent to my mother til now. I don't know when he will talk to my mom. I hope sooner. Well good for you and your partner to have a minute of pause. It just depends how you know each other and how you know they thinking.
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
fr better result of relation and if there is misunderstanding better to be quit both ...but does not mean that you do not need to talk about in many days... Just need it so no fight,
@curmont (343)
• United States
2 Nov 11
I think it is important not to speak out of anger and to take a step back and think sometimes before we speak, but it is also equally important to make sure we say the things that need to be said, to often we don't address issues and keep them bottled up and that is also not a good thing. I go by the rule that if it is still bothering me 24 hours later then it is something we need to talk about because it will not just go away, I take the time to think about how I can best bring up the topic without making him defensive but I will not just brush the issue aside until we have talked.
@djbtol (5498)
• United States
2 Nov 11
You've got to develop just the right balance, and I guess it is not the same in every case. It is wise to pause so you can think, before you speak. Ideally this pattern will become a habit, so all your friends will know that about you. On the other hand, if you are choosing to remain silent when others have an expectation for you to be speaking out, then you must be careful. Too much silence, or silence that seems unusual, will result in people creating their own reasons and explanations and you may actually offend someone. What if in response to your silence, someone stopped speaking to you - since you are mad, they decide to be mad in return. Maybe a far-fetched example. On a simpler scale, a spouse or lover also expects communication and might become nervous when you stay silent. I guess, in a way, our silence is part of our overall language package.