OMG! my bestfriend is PREGNANT at 15

@ckayth (103)
Philippines
November 13, 2011 12:15am CST
she's pregnant and plans to abort the baby but I'm so against it. Who wouldn't be right? It's the only 3 of us who knows it and the only solution we can see for them is to elope. I gave them money so they can ran away. am I wrong? pls help Mylot. i don't want then to abort the baby.
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@phillyguy (3008)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
I think you are smart enough to know that there is nothing good or excuse in abortion whatever the reason is. And I hope that you will tell her parents about it even if you think she will get angry if you do that. If you are a true friend you need to that because abortion is really dangerous especially for young woman or should I say a young girl like your friend. I hope you do it as soon as possible.
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@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
she is not pursuing the abortion anymore but they really did elope. the last time i heard from her is they got married and that her mother is trying to contact to them now. i was terrified. i don't have the nerves to face her parents and so is she. but i'm glad it turns out well now.
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@phillyguy (3008)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
Good for her and for that little angel inside her.
@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
yea- i'm gonna be a God-mother soon and i'm so excited to see the baby. that angel will really be beautiful just like her mom. I'm so excited that i'm planning to buy sweet little dresses as early as now.
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@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
Hi. I know your intentions were good when you gave them money, but I think it would've been better if you'd convinced them to tell their parents. I mean, it's not anymore about your friend getting pregnant at a young age. It's now more about the baby she's carrying. They really need adult advise on this matter, especially some parental advice.
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@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
hello beamer! yeah i wished i have done that way but i was terrified. we were both so young and i know how strict her parents are. She is scared too and we don't know someone elder to us who could do the favor. I told my parents about it but they don't know her parents either so i leave them out of this issue. I'm glad that her parents were trying to contact them now.
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@vexxus (708)
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
What you did was right, your such a very good friend to them, don't let them abort the baby, you can adopt it if they cant afford to raise the baby.
@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
i hope not. I hope they can raise their baby. We never know if the foster parents will be good to the baby..
@vexxus (708)
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
You were right, let us hope the baby will grow healthy with the love and care of his/her parents.
@maideen (26)
14 Nov 11
frnd u r corect mistake is done by them wat dat small baby did they should mary and live together u r correct my frnd help them to live together i wish them happy maried life
@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
thank you dear. I also wish them happiness and also for the baby. Godbless.
• India
14 Nov 11
you are right my friend... your freind did the mistake and it is past now we have to live in future just give information to their parents so they don`t get worry about both of them and force them to marry each other soon as possible
@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
her parents knew it already and wants to see them now. I just hope things will turn out well.
@jtj_hello (627)
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
You should have not done that. You are making your friend go a wrong path. The best thing is to tell their parents about it and ask for assistance. Considering that she is too young, after giving birth, with the help of her parents, she could continue her study and eventually be able to give a better life for the babay.
@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
yes. i was wrong for giving such advise. i hope this will serve as a lesson to everyone.
@svjomboy (876)
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
I am sad for being plan to abort thats not a good thing dear, tell your friend accept the truth and not to abort the baby thats a crimen abortion. and also against the law. you did a right decission for giving a money and go away be sure she dont have any plan to abort the baby.
@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
hello there! yes. it's a big sin. at first i felt giving such advise for them to elope but then i realized it's much better than aborting the baby.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
13 Nov 11
I don't believe in abortion! I hope your friend doesn't do it! My suggestion would to carry the baby until it is born and then put it up for adoption! I am a big on adoption and I know it would be the best for the mom and child! Fifteen is way to young to be pregnant! Same with eloping if your friend takes your advice!
@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
hello there! i panicked when i heard it from her. she was crying and so was i. i'm older than her but things like this should have parental advice and i can't give one. they planned to elope and so i just helped them through yes. they did not abort the baby. Thank God the little angel was saved. she's 16 now..
• United States
13 Nov 11
Don't abort the baby! That would be so sad for the little one to be taken from the mother! Try your best to plan out all the possible solutions, write them down if you have to. Then all three of you decide strategically which option would be the best and most effective. If it means eloping, then use the money to elope them! And be as secretive as possible if you don't want others discovering, but do it soon because, well you know (bigger stomach).
@ckayth (103)
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
hello there! yes,they elope. at first they planned to abort the baby but i was really against it. though i really don't know what's best for them but i have thought maybe running away is the solution. the parents of my friend knew it already and wants to see them. now i know nothing much about them.
@ShyBear88 (17420)
• United States
2 Dec 11
Depending on where you live getting married at 15 is illegal. One any women at any age will want an abortion. Some peole just know they aren't ready or some other reason for why they would want it. If where she lives it's legal for a women that youn to get an abortion then support her. Even if you don't like it she needs you to support her because it mint be something shell regret one day or it migh make her stronger one day for when she is ready. But use this time to tell her to use protection because nothing ca ease a baby not even an abotion. I don't support and I would tell any of my friends to keep there baby or give them up for adoption no parent can force a child to do anything to there body when it has to do with a baby inside them. Mothers choice on that part.
• Philippines
14 Nov 11
Hello ckayth. It is very sad to know that your best friend at a young age is now pregnant. You have just advised her the best advice you could ever give to someone else. Without your advice, she might have aborted the baby. Aborting is not a good option and it is against the law of GOD. But I do understand your best friend. She is still 15 and perhaps she is not that stable enough to make better decisions, especially in this kind of situation. You did not do wrong as you are an instrument of being able to protect the baby. I just only want to know if you still have some contacts with them? Where do they live now together with her boyfriend? Is it a safe place? If I were you, you should advise your best friend to face the consequences. Her family would still be able to know the truth. No secrets will be kept secret. In her case, it is impossible for that secret to be hidden. I am also very worried about your best friend right now. I think if you still have some contacts with her, you should tell her that it is better if they will return back. First off, does the father of the child have a job? If your best friend is 15, I am very sure that the guy also is somewhere around 15 or 16. With that age, it is very hard to look for a better job. In dealing with this situation, parents should be around with them, to guide them, to give them some perfect advice, to discipline them. They need someone older than them, someone who will give advice for them. They are still very young and they do not have yet a good decision making for them to be able to cope up with this kind of situation. I should say that they should not elope as the baby needs a perfect place to live. Parents will be able to understand them and I am pretty sure that the baby will be better fed if the parents of the girl and boy will be with them. There will be a child support, especially if their parents are with them. They should not be afraid. They should always remember that GOD will always make a way for them to be able to cope up with that kind of situation and eloping to escape from being scolded by parents is not a good idea at all. Don't let them make the same mistakes again. Your best fiend, even though she has a baby already, still needs education. She should be able to finish her studies, so that she will be able to give better future, not only to herself, but also to the baby that she has right now. Don't let this mistake ruin her goals in life. I am very pleased with your kindness to give them money, so that your best friend will not pursue to abort the baby as this is the only option you have left. But in my deepest heart, it would be better if their parents will also know the truth. I am 100% sure that their parents would not also want to abort the baby as it is really against the law of government and most of all, against the law of GOD. Your best friend needs proper nutrition and prenatal vitamins as she has a baby inside her stomach. The money you gave them is not enough for them to survive, not unless if they have someone with them who will also support them and give them proper shelter and foods that they will eat everyday. I hope you will be able to advise them the second time around and this time it is a smart advice. It would be better if they will return back to their parents' home. Yes, they will not be able to escape from being scolded as she has done a serious problem, but would that be enough to escape and elope from their mistakes? Her baby is a blessing of GOD and perhaps that wonderful baby has a purpose in this world. Don't let the mistake be a mistake again. I really hope and pray that your best friend is in good hands wherever they are right now and I hope the guy would be able to think twice with their decision of escaping and facing the problem on their own. They are still very young and living and facing all alone with their problem is not a very good idea, especially with their very young age. They still need proper guidance and discipline. There is still enough time for you to convince them. Their future lies on your hand. Please make a better plan for them to return back. She really needs comfort right now as she has a baby in her stomach. She really needs proper care and nutrition. It is not yet too late. Take care and may Christ shine upon you always. You're an angel in disguise to your best friend.
• Philippines
13 Nov 11
I think - although maybe you guys would have second thoughts but, don't run away. Don't make them runaway. Instead talk about it to their parents (with them two of course). Running away in their current condition isn't much of a good idea. Not a good thing to the baby of course as the mother might keep on worrying while she's away. Let them face it head on. It's their decision that they've done "it".