why can't we pleased other people???

November 18, 2011 4:12am CST
most of the time we always try to be as perfect as possible and be the best among the rest of our peers. in order to caught attention and appreciation in the environment we are living.but instead we do not get the reward in doing all the effort we exert in pleasing them. Hence, they are the one who looks down on us and we felt that this effort were all wasted because no matter what we do we can't pleased them to love us the way we wanted to....
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17 responses
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
I understand what you fell lizmystic. We all need acceptance though some people feel that we don't deserve it so they just ignore our efforts on trying to be a better person. That's the worst aspect of living I must say. It has always been easier when we are still kids. Before, all we need is the approval of our parents but as we grow older, we began to feel the need of other's approval as well. People have a higher expectations now, they begin demanding so much from us and boy it can become so stressful. My advice is to stop pleasing people. This may be hard to do but if we don't stop begging for others' approval, we would not be able to live in peace. Instead of pleasing the people around us, please God. He is the only one who appreciates everything we do and He is the only one who can accept us for who we are. So stop being a people-pleaser but be a God-pleaser instead.
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
because we cannot expect anyone to like...The more we expect the more we are getting hurt...
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
True to that camie! We don't even like everyone so why do we expect everyone to like us either, right? Anyway, welcome to mylot camie! I hope you'll enjoy your stay here.
@megamatt (14333)
• United States
22 Nov 11
I think that there are just many people who are not really satisfied no matter what is being done. It is a rather sad where we cannot really please people no matter how much we sacrifice and how much we bend over backwards for other people. There are just times where we do this and everything that we can try, but we cannot please people. It just goes back to what I have said for years. The only person that we should satisfy is ourselves. Granted we can help others along the way to satisfy ourselves but if we don't get gratitude, then so be it. There are just going to be times where we got really just be true to ourselves and everyone else if they don't like it, then that's their problem.
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
Because we dont need to..we dont need to please other people for us live a life..be the best for yourself..be the best because you are the best..no need to compete to others just to be accepted. Before others can accept us we should accept ourselves first..no one will ever believe us unless we are thr first one to accept ourselves..
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
We can't pleased everybody that's the fact... but it doesn't mean we need to impress them at all times, we just have to be our self. As long as you are happy of what you're doing & you're not stepping into others that what matters most.. Your effort will never be wasted simply because you have given your best and it's for yourself not for them to be humiliated...
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
19 Nov 11
of course we can`t pleased all people wish.. we are not angel who always accept whats the people wish..
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Simple but complicated question - and I offer simple and complicated answer - people are different. People are different in background, education and experience as well as their reactions in different circumstances. They have their own lives which is uniquely separated from others. Poeple mean well in the general sense of time but certain situation made them less attuned to other's feelings or thoughts. People also have their own interests and agendas. Some people think that others are blocking opportunities and they expressing themselves by being cruel. And in-between there will confusion,. misunderstanding and conflict. Like many others, I advise you to be more self-reliant and be more self-confident. You don't need to cater too much to other people's whims or favor, lest you want to be disappointed every time you weren't able to please them. Please yourself instead, at least you will better.
@woheri (88)
• Indonesia
19 Nov 11
Every people wants to be the best one each other but they use all the way what can they do for their life only, not appreciate other people is one of result if we are sn egoistic. You are right. We will never become a perfect human. We just have efford and thank god is a good words to pleasant and wonderful life.
@scheen (57)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
hi there! i'm just going to reiterate your subject to, why can't we pleased all? i think its because we have different likes or they simply feel envy. its not your problem anymore. as long as you know you're doing good, just focus in it. always think that it's not your lost. yes, we can't always please all but there are "others" who can truly appreciate us and can be our inspiration to further improve ourselves. soon the people that you would like to notice you will realize your worth. have a good day!
@lampar (7597)
• United States
19 Nov 11
There is no need trying to be as perfect as possible, just be yourself all the time. It will drive you insane if you always thinking of how to please other people in your life, you can never be able to do that and survive long enough to complete your wish of pleasing every one every time and in every where. Don't need to waste your time and just be yourself no mtter how bad the situation is for you. Not all people are easy to please, many people in present world are congenital as*holes and jerks, you can't change them or even please them no matter how hard you try, they are born like that. Live your life as you please and as God please, not as way to please others. then you will be happy forever.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
18 Nov 11
When you said to please other people, you also mean to kiss their As*, is that what you trying to say? I saw a lot of these people, at work, and at real life. I am not one of them, and I am the worst as* kisser in the world. I do my things, and I don't need to be those sycophant. I live my own world, probably I have only a few friends compare to others.
• India
18 Nov 11
Many a times we are not in good mood to respond in a pleasing way to others. Second and the most important thing is, I dont look at pleasing others because I may or may not be doing the right thing. I just look at the situation and do what I think might help others or help the situation. So, help the situation and it would automatically please others.
@ygna21 (294)
• Bulgaria
18 Nov 11
I think you shouldn't live your life trying to please others.If you do it you will most likely end up unhappy and unsatisfied. Live your life the way you want,be nice with people and go for your own goals.Don't compare with others and don't envy them for their lives. The people who truly love you will be happy for you when they see that you are happy.
18 Nov 11
By the way, what's your reason in pleasing them? Just try to live the way you want and not because you want to please people. Life would be miserable if you only think what people may say. You should take control of your life so you'll be happy. Trying to be someone we are not is so difficult and far more difficult if you expect people to appreciate and recognize what you've been doing. I would suggest that you live life the right way and not because people told you to.
@neelia_lyn (1388)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
That's life, lizmystic. No matter how hard we try, we can never be perfect because we are not. There are people who don't appreciate others, can't even say please or thank you, but as kind people with good heart we should always try to do what is right and always be kind to animals, I mean to others.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
other people can't be pleased anymore. =( i mean most of them would always want something more than what we are able to give, or maybe that they would misunderstood us. =(
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
yeah! that's reality and life... i had that same thing before but now i don't know... i think that i had enough and i want to make myself happy for once with out their appreciation.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
18 Nov 11
many people don't really know how to show appreciation, maybe they do appreciate but just don't show it, I have always believed in giving cred where credit is due, people like to be appreciated.