stay or go?
@chicksdigscars (5483)
November 22, 2011 7:52am CST
Bit of a short discussion this, because I am very interested in everyones views.
They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder. When we are away from someone we miss them, and we think about them when we can’t be with them, or talk to them, and we love them more. And in some cases, someone we maybe didn’t care about that much when they were around, suddenly we can’t live without, whether it be because we have just realised that, or else maybe we’ve convinced ourselves in our head we want them more than we think we do because we can’t have them.
But they also say out of sight, out of mind. Meaning that when someone isn’t around, and we don’t hear from them.. we don’t think about them.
What do you think of this?
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4 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
22 Nov 11
I think it depends on how close you are. For example if it was someone close to me, my husband, son, or daughter, I think of them when we are apart. But if it was someone I am not close to, my sister or acquaintance, then I do forget about them, and they only pop in my mind if something reminds me of them..
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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22 Nov 11
so you think that it is dependent on the person, as to which the statements apply to?
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
22 Nov 11
Yeah, because since I am close to my daughter, though she doesn't live with me, I think of her often. My sister on the other hand, I try to not think about..lol
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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23 Nov 11
there are quite a few people on mylot are estranged from their siblings lol! thats very strange..
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
I always consider distance as a gauge to test whether a couple truly love each other. Distance can do both things to a relationship. It can make it stronger or destroy it. If the foundation of the relationship is not that strong enough, it could totally shatter. I'm always hopeful though and i believe that in my case i would be able to stay strong and keep the relationship. I'm not someone who believes in out of sight out of mind though most of my friends have been through this and they didn't survive.
It really depends.
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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14 Dec 11
yeah. like i said above.. when i'm not with my partner.. even if shes just at work and i'm at work and i don't see her all day.. it drives me insane!
when she got this new job.. we went from spending every single weekend together, from a friday evening, to we went to bed on a sunday, together.. and now she works weekends, and i miss her terribly! so absense really does maeke my heart grow fonder of her.. but there are friends i have, who i should probably really miss because i haven't seen them for weeks.. and well, i don't even think of them!
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
a decision is multi-faceted in consequences. it impacts us in certain way. to decide whether to go or stay seems to be a huge decision. there are tools that help us decide better. information is very important and helpful. one of the things we avoid is to regret our decision. so once we make a decision, we make it our own. thus, we only have ourselves to credit for it or blame for it.
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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22 Nov 11
well i wasn't actually deciding to stay or go.. it was merely the title of my discussion. my discussion was about the different phrases. but thank you.
@ReverendShaggy (415)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
It is very much dependent on the connection to the people in question. I for one always think of people that I feel I have a connection with, whether that is family, a significant other or friends. The distance doesn't matetr they are always on my mind. Now when it comes to dividing that it may be different amounts of how much they are on my mind as family is most important to me as is my significant other so they may overshadow friends some. Now if I leave someone that a never really grew any kind of relationship with, I aint gonna miss them.
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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14 Dec 11
yeah that was touched on on one of the comments above, about how it depends on the person you are away from..
i miss my partner a great deal when i'm not with her. and i think about her constantly. so i guess absense really does make the heart grow fonder. but some of my friends, who i don't see that often. it really is out of sight of of mind, beause they don't make an effort to see me, so i don't think about them.
