When you become silent about things that matter...

@chiyosan (29383)
Philippines
November 30, 2011 5:57am CST
They say it is healthy when we talk about things, when we discuss our concerns with our family, our friends and even our bosses right?! Of course it is essential for any relationship to work when two people would understand each other, and where the other is coming from. What can you say when one has already given up and has already thought for the peace of any one in the relationship.. solution is to just shut up or just let things pass.. as if it does not hurt or it does not matter - but it does and it does bother you! HAve you ever been n a situation where you have just given up and what you did was be aloof and just let things pass until finally it does not hurt you as much, and that you no longer care?
7 responses
@SIMPLYD (77450)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
Usually that happens to husbands and wives. When that happens and i seem to give up, i don't talk to my husband anymore. I really give him a cold shoulder. However, after a day or two, i decide to talk about it to my husband and cooler heads will prevail so the matter can be settled. I think, nobody wants a cold shoulder.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
hi simplyd, that is right i guess that is what happens to husbands and wives but what you are doing is correct because you still talk about the things that matter to you.
@SIMPLYD (77450)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
Yeah, i have to do that, to settle the matter once and for all. Everything has a solution. You can just choose to go on with the solution or not.
@imcath03 (79)
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
We choose to shut our mouth when it seems that they don't care to what you are telling. And its look like your opinion is not needed anymore. Just let them talk.
2 Dec 11
That's pretty much how i deal with most things. I find that if I share my problems then people just wont let it go and will keep pestering me about it, whereas if i keep it to myself i can just sort it out and bid goodriddance to the whole affair when it's over. Birdie -
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
For me yes it is so hurt only would you do is just called Jehovah God in your prayer so that things would be okay.
@Ollanna11 (372)
• United States
30 Nov 11
I'm a firm believer in speaking up. Communication is very important and is the deciding factor in many cases. If you want change how do you expect to see it if no one knows. Holding in all the frustration isn't good for your health. I know sometimes you need to think about what your going to say before you say the wrong thing. Speaking up is essential and when I do I feel great. I had a supervisor that thought she could speak to me nilly willy. I let her know that I wasn't her intended target and she needed to back off. Sometimes communicating is uncomfortable but at least I got it off my chest.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 11
Sometimes I will do like that..I will just silent for a while but I don't let it pass as everything we do we need to face and settle it out. After a while I will discussed it with whoever concerned and settle the problem. The issues will not solved if we just keep it in silent. It bother and hurt you so take time to get calm and then talk about it. It is wrong if we just keep silent as it will not pass and will only make you think about it again and again. That will be more hurtful.
• India
30 Nov 11
Well this is my biggest weakness that whatever happens i keep on thinking negatively and things get more worst. I don't intend to make think about negative things but when a worst situation occurs its kindoff hard to remove that thought from our mind. As you have mentioned in the topic that talking with loved ones is the best medicine to heal ourselves from negative thinking but what about when we are lonely and have no one to talk? things get much worst. In such situations remaining silence is not the key because the more you remain silent the more thoughts enter into your mind. What i do is basically involve into some work or any hobby that i such as playing guitar or playing my favorite video games. These things are similar to one who faces breakup from loved ones. It is very important to know how to deal with our lives. Making ourselves happy is the most difficult task in this life stage.