Why do people cheat on their partners?

Philippines
December 1, 2011 8:09am CST
I've known a lot of friends,colleagues and even relatives who have cheated with their partners,may it be in a marriage status or in a boyfriend/girlfriend status. I know there's a lot of ways on how to cheat. Some people said,that the reason they cheat with their partner is because,their relationship is boring. Some said,they do that just for fun,some because its part of their personality,some because they had problems with their partners and they're looking for a companion to cheer them up when their partner is nagging on them,blah blah blah. Why can't people be faithful with their partners?
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15 responses
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
2 Dec 11
I'm wondering the same... How can you cheat on someone you claim you love? I have, also, many, many friends who have cheated on their partners. Some of them say they needed something new, some say they can't find everything they need in just one person, some do it just to find out how it feels. I don't think these are reasons, they are excuses. And I could never agree to them. Still, I sometimes have to cover up for them, because they are my friends...
@ygna21 (294)
• Bulgaria
2 Dec 11
Yes,that's exactly what it is. You don't have reasons to cheat.You have excuses.
@ehimen (1)
1 Dec 11
People cheat on their partners for countless of reasons, but the question is why? atleast one of the partners is not truely commited to the relationship. Cheating results when there is lack of faith in the relationship
1 Dec 11
I agree to. By the way, welcome to my lot ehimen. :)
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
There is no specific answer into this questions, my friend. As far as I know cheating is the inability of someone else to discipline themselves and carried out from the called of flesh...
• Bulgaria
13 Jan 12
Hello I think that the cheat is a moment attraction between people who have relationship with another persons.I hope that the cheat can't be serious act of lie but it is not good for the couple. Take a look at this article and see why the men have cheat: http://socyberty.com/sexuality/why-men-cheat-8/
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
2 Dec 11
We're all people, we all have our own views and opinions and we all have flaws I' afraid. Now, people are becoming more open-minded and free in a relationship. I guess some people don't take relationships seriously, especially new relationships. I have a friend who had a boyfriend cheat on her behind her back. I knew it was coming because they were complete opposites. My friend was very innocent and was well behaved while her boyfriend was a rebel who drank and smoke. I guess he got bored of her as she wasn't like him and cheated on her with another girl. I don't get why some people seek other comfort from other people when they have issues with their partners. You're just begging for more fights and issues to arise if you do. Some people really can't control themselves, but it can be just their personality or emotions like you said. But really, people should fix things with their partners like breaking up with them before looking for others. If people cheat in the middle of a relationship, they're just asking for more trouble.
@ygna21 (294)
• Bulgaria
2 Dec 11
Well people have different reasons to do it. I think people often cheat because they expect their partner to give them EVERYTHING and to make them happy all the time but that's not really possible so they cheat because they need attention and to make themselves feel important.I think it is a weakness.We shouldn't expect someone to make us happy.We should make ourselves happy.And if someone cheats it is mostly his/her fault.He shouldn't blame it on the partner,that's just not fair.And there are other ways to deal with your insecurities than cheating :)
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 11
I think what you mean here is they having affair with the 3rd person. I do believe when a couple have been too long together, they probably will start to getting less feeling towards their partner and if the 3rd person came during this downtime, there will probably happen such a situation. I think if the couple can treat each other like friends and always do things together, always care about each other, and not to start nagging each other when there are something unhappy, I believe such a problem will not occur. It just depend on how the two couple handle their relationship. To maintain a good relationship, need some skills.
@markphil (285)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
There are many factors and reasons why partners cheat each other. It always depends on the nature of the environment of the two. The most important thing is there should be always understanding between you.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
Some say that people cheAt on their partners because they are not contented on they are bored. Sometimes, attraction just spark. I had red somewhere that it is a nature of people to cheat.I really don't know and it isoneof the life's questions answered but not understandable.
@Jhovarie (1168)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
they cheat their partner because they are not contented to their partner i guest.. many people is cheating their partner because of that reason. they are not contended or they see some one else better compare to their partner.
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
It's just like asking: why are we different from each other? In every relationships there are ups and downs and no couple can say theirs are made in heaven and are perfect. But I do certainly believe that there are ways to handle relationships despite the problems (including cheating) to stand the tests by constant communication, companionship, understanding and most importantly LOVE for each other. In my opinion, people cheat because their faith and love with each other are not as solid as they think they are. Thus when temptation comes they easily fall for it. Sometimes infidelity becomes a tool to know the imperfection of a relationship. Over talks on why parties cheat partners, voiced out the problems that compromise the relationship. These could pave way to rectify what has gone wrong that lead them to cheat. FORGIVENESS and MOVING FORWARD are the keys to keep the relationship going. It takes two to tango and each partner must be vigilant not to fall on cheating again to sustain the relationship. For if you fall on the same mistake again, then it may never be repaired back again and could lead to falling out of love and broken relationships.
@cherriefic (10400)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
People who are cheating have a very low self-esteem and respect for their partners. They need to have more people who will love and appreciate them due to lack of attention maybe in their childhood. They are trying to get as much attention they can get for self fulfillment not knowing that it is better if they will just be loyal with their partners. It is also maybe because they don't know what they really want and just experimenting with people and emotions which is not very nice.
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
Those kind of people are the ones who are never satisfied with what they have. They ask for more and they are never contented. Don't waste your time with that kind of people. wink*
2 Dec 11
because girls like to lie on them ,hhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
@ShyBear88 (59284)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Dec 11
Because we are human it's part of nature to want to explore whit h is still no excuse for doing so to a person. I always say it's just better to be honest and tell your partner what is wrong and try to fix or break up theeasy not as painful way of betraying each others trust.