"I remember the boy but I dont remember the feeling anymore" - is this true?

@grace147 (223)
Philippines
December 1, 2011 8:59am CST
Hi everyone, do you agree on this phrase "I remember the boy but i don't remember the feeling anymore". For me, it is impossible to forget the feeling for it comes along with memories - good or bad - to a person you once shared and was once part of your life. Most especially that such person is special. Whether the ending of the relationship is happy or a sad one, but once the name of your "x" boyfriend or girlfriend is mentioned - we tend to recollect the memories and it goes with the feeling. Can you forget the feeling? if so, how?
11 responses
@janevi (889)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
I strongly agree with you grace. It is impossible to remember the person but not feeling. Maybe the feeling may not be the same as before. It is a normal experience when the feelings would be awaken when you meet or remember a lost and forgotten love. Mostly what the heart remembers are the happy memories. Painful ones are sometimes buried in the subconscious for self-preservation.
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
Hi janevi, indeed your absolutely true - remember the good ones and forget the bad ones so we can move on easily. Thank you for the nice insights.
@janevi (889)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
Just keep the good memories of your ex so that whenever you will meet again in the future, you still can interact with him/her casually. In the end, it is you who would be benefit from it because you don't hold a grudge and you will have a happy disposition all the time. Let not the bad tomatoes contaminate the good ones.
@GemmaR (8527)
2 Dec 11
I think that feelings, no matter how strong they might be at the time, always fade after a long period of time. It is a shame, because when we are in love, we always feel as though we will never feel that strongly for anybody else, but that just isn't always the case unfortunately. I had a boyfriend when I was a lot younger who I was obsessed with but, now that I have my current partner, I have forgotten all feelings that I ever had about him. It's a shame because we were very close at the time, but things really do change.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
My stand is that this is true. I think this a song of Sheryn Regis. After sometime in your life that you have already recovered in your past relationship, that you can say you don't remember the feelings. Yes, it is true that memories retain but not the feeling.
@lupeng (82)
• China
2 Dec 11
really? i'm just opposite with you.i still remeber the feeling but i can't remember that guy. i love the feeling at that time. but i think that boy i did't love anymore. i still like the feeling i was very excited.hehe .maybe everyone all remeber the feeling ,the same with me.
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
2 Dec 11
Its very hard to forget some one who touched your heart. Though you may be separated because of any reason.
@gaea23 (252)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
I believe in that too, during the time you were in love with that guy and after sometime you cope up already and you moved on. It so happened that you cross your road with then you can really say that "I remember the boy but I don't remember the feeling anymore". And the good thing of that is you already forgive and forget those bad times. And also it is easy to go on with life with you have no worries of past.
@SIMPLYD (73806)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
Yes, i do believe in that phrase. When i got married, i was totally in love with my husband. So much so, that when i accidentally met my ex boyfriend, i remembered our good times together, yet i cannot feel it anymore in my heart. We just talked like friends should.
@airasheila (5460)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
hi there grace147, your main question which is written as the main topic really capture my attention. since that line was an excerpt from one of my favorite song. with reference to your question, well, i will not deny the fact that i still and again remember every now and then my ex whenever his name was being mentioned. and not only that, i always remember him if i saw some things, situations and events that we have in common. and when these things happens, i can still remember the feelings that we have during those years. and in this regard, i cannot say that those line written as your main topic is true. as it does not applicable on my situation. perhaps, it is a general rule but i belong to the exceptions.
@chiyosan (29389)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
ah, yeah, well i think it is true. We remember the person but it would be hard to kinda remember how we felt about him. it is of course different if the person has hurt you so bad, alright? i mean we always put in our minds how a person made us feel like they made us feel stupid, etc but the actuall feeling is no longer there for us to go back too. Time does heal, it also helps us forget. :D
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
Same here. If we remember the boy , we once loved the feelings is still there . That phrase sounds ,she trying to be stronger and telling to herself that even she still remember that boy she can't remember the feeling anymore ,just to prove she can.
@markphil (285)
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
Yes, I believe that this is always true because when someone has already moved on, you only tend to remember just the name and the face and not the love that you've shared before.