you respect me, i respect you

@adhyz82 (36249)
Indonesia
December 6, 2011 5:18am CST
what is the one of important things from relationship?? respect each other i think.. when somebody else did not respect you, how come he or she get respect too from you?? so thats my principle that, if somebody else respect me, i of course will respect him or her.. what about you??
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21 responses
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
I think it's kind of true. It's important to respect each other, but there are a lot of way to respect someone. What kind of respect did you mean here? If everyone in this world have the same way of thinking like you, no one would respect each other. Why? Because no one try to respect other who didn't respect him/her. It's important that others respect us , but it's more important to show our respect to everyone, even tough they didn't show their respect. With hope they will respect us in the further time. If it's happen to me, I mean when someone didn't respect me, I'll ask myself why s/he didn't respect me, is it their habit not to respect other or is it because I don't have something that will make them respect me.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
yes, sometimes i think i can respect to them who respect me too. why i must to respect someone who never respect me...??
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 11
Of course, I will do the same thing, like you. If others respect me, I also would have to respect as well. As humans, we must respect. If we do not respect other people, surely we will be hated by others.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 11
If there are people who do not respect me. I will respect that person, first. There is nothing wrong, we start first. It is very difficult to make friends, but it is very easy to become an enemy.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 11
indah, i never want to make enemy with someone.. but if the people always and always make us as their enemy, what can we do?? as long as she or he insult me, why i must give my heart for only smiling for them??it`s impossible
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 11
yes, we need somebody else respect us, so we can respect them..it`s mutual i think.. it`s impossible we can be friend for someone who never respect us
@atleya (946)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
It is always needed a respect one each other in a relationship, for a friendship, in a family, business relationships, etc.. in all aspects. If we want to be respected, so we must also respect the others. And if everybody in this world can do this, there is no war in this world. Peace forever.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
i see..in the end of the year, many office become very busy.. but i do hope you can divide your time
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
well yes like your said atleya... if your friend respect you of course you must respect them too.. btw, how are your shvoong account??
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@atleya (946)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
No many development, I am still very busy in the office. Maybe during holiday end of year, I can try to write more articles. Thanks for your kind support adhyz
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
9 Dec 11
Well, respect is very important, but I think the most important thing has to be trust. Trust is the main ingredient in any relationship.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
respect always need trust each other i think.. both of them is not separated very easily i think
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 11
they are really different but they is not separated i think
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
20 Dec 11
They are two different things. But yes, they do go hand in hand.
@ShyBear88 (59285)
• Sterling, Virginia
6 Dec 11
To me the most important thing in a relationship is trust with out trust you can't really respect that person nor live them the way they should b love.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
6 Dec 11
read carefully my statament..i dont think that respect is the only things for making a good relationship, but one of the important factor..so i think it`s different meaning right
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
i never make whats the top and whats is the second number..it depends on the type of friend
@ShyBear88 (59285)
• Sterling, Virginia
6 Dec 11
I did read your statement and I know what you said. I know that you said it's not he only import thing bu to you it is on of the top. I say in my poin of view hat trust needs to come before respect. For me trust comes before respect on the importance meter of a relationship. You don't have to agree that trust is as import as respect. They are many important things to a relationship and to everyone the list is goin to be different. I know trust is up on your list it's just not as high as respect is.
• India
26 Aug 12
Hi friend, same here, i am also interested in reciprocating the respect which is given to me and not interested with unrepeatable persons. No one is superior and no one is dominant, we all are same in front of god
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 12
of course..everyone is same in front of God.. no social class..God only divided people based on their kindness and belief to Him.. even we are not rich people but maybe we are kind than another people, it is better in God eyes..
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 Dec 11
I am big on respect too. I just want the same treatment that I give also. I am not one to be outright disrespectful because someone else is, but I can be pushed.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
yes, when somebody always attack us, why we must give them the best respect too
@cieldz (709)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
Hello adhyz82 :) I think that not only respecting each other, but we have to believe each other and maintain the communication.. Love is about giving and receiving.. Just don’t be so selfish and always want to get all the love and attention from your partner, but he/she doesn’t do the same for his/her partner.. Love is about 2 persons.. If he/she doesn’t respect, believe, care, and maintain the communication, just ask he/she to love the MIRROR only..
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
hello to cieldz.. actually when i make this discussion , iam not talking about love relationship.. i take the work relationship.. how our friend in office respect us, and we do the same things to her or him..
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
Precisely. The guts of people asking respect when they themselves never knew how to respect the others.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
i see..so respect anyone and nyone will respect you
• Mexico
13 Dec 11
Hi adhyz: For me, this is just a beginning. I mean, no matter if we are not friends, if we want to work together or at least see ach other and have an ok relationship with cordiality and tolerance, at least we need to respect our differences. After that, if we are talking about a friendship is also important communication, love, solidarity and care for each other. ALVARO
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
yes, i think like that.. you are kind to me, me too.. you ignore me, i ignore you too it`s very simple for me
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
19 Dec 11
Yes, respect should be mutual and comes naturally. We do not demand respect as it needs to be earned. In relationship, family and friendships, we ought to have basic respect if not more. Once we lose the respect, we can never earned it back again, and it's far worse than losing trust. I believe that as long as i respect others, others would respect me too. That applies to strangers as well, for i respect them as a human being, with feelings and brains.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
yes, must be like that.. it`s impossible if the respect only come from one party and another party did not respect ..
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• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
In life, there must be reciprocal. To get a respect from other people, first you need to do is to create respect for your own self, second respect other. Finally, you would get respect from other. To be loved, you need to love.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
i like your statement buddy..
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
If you respects me,... well thank you! I'll respect you too. But if you will disrespect me,... I will ask myself why! If I see mistakes from my actions for you to do that to me, I'll change. But then, I won't do such to you just for retaliation. It will be a challenge to me that you respect me in all it should cost, positively!
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
wow..if someone did not respect, i dont want to ask my self..if i think i never make mistake to them, why i must search whats wrong with me and them.. my life is complicated and i don`t want to add my complicated life with searching like that
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
26 Aug 12
hi, that is the most important in a relationship of every human being,having a respect to every people,because once you give respect to other then they will turn it to you,so you will benefit on what will you do.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 12
that`s right asliah.. God creates us with good form..and we should respect another people..we are same in God eyes.. so why we must underestimate people because we are better than them?? it is only chance.. maybe today we are rich than another people but we don`t know what`s happen tomorrow..right??
@marguicha (215577)
• Chile
7 Dec 11
I think respect is basic in any kind of relationship. So I want to be respected and I respect. If I´m not respected, I just ignore the person and move on. He or she does not deserve my attention.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
yes, any kind of relationship need respect...when somebody did not respect you, how come he get respct from us??
@julianmac (396)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 11
Hi adhyz, We are holding the same opinion here. I think give and take respect is the best policy. We can't possibly expect people to respect us if we do not respect them in the first place. I have seen some really old and grumpy folks who disrespects everyone they come in contact with. But the younger ones still respects them due to their old age.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
6 Dec 11
thanks if you agree my opinion.. so whats your respond when somebody else insult you??
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
I agree with you, for me the most important values in a relationship is respect, because if you both respect each other, everything follows. Guys won't have intimate relationship with other cause he respect his girlfriend, girls won't accept suitors cause he respect her bf. You can fall out of love with your gf/bf cause that's what you feel but please do not get rid of the respect.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
yes, with respect somebody else, a hard things to be done by all people...
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
6 Dec 11
Oh that's for sure cause even though we might have a good intention, if the other don't respect me I can't possibly continue to treat them well, I will sooner or later mistreat them, like become rude or something. I just know one thing: I don't hold my kindness to those who are rude to others or to me. Or to those who are not polite to kids and elderly, even if it wasn't against me, if I see them treating kids and elderly bad forget it, I will treat them bad too.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
6 Dec 11
i notice your last statement and i think it had a same meaning with my principle too katie
@br3ndy (468)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
Yes i very agree with you. That is a basic principle when we want to have a relationship with other. Without any respect for each other then there is no need to continue that kind of relationship. But, if we can respect each other then there is a possibility that the relationship will stay longer.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
yes, one of the basic principle when you make a relationship...
• India
6 Dec 11
Well said...Respect to an individual forms the base for any/all relationships.If we dont respect a wife/parents/husband/children/friends it means that we have taken them for granted. And this is the worst feeling in any relationship. Anyone born in this world has the right to be respected.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
6 Dec 11
well..someone can be our friend if they did not respect us