Love is not fair!

United States
December 6, 2011 2:04pm CST
Most of my life I have looked for love! Even not looking at times! Still I end up alone without someone special! I know a woman with Downe's syndrome. She is very functional and she ends up finding the love of her life! She has been married 7 years to a man who has no mental problems. So this makes me angry! I am a normal person and I can't find love and someone with mental issues does? I don't unnderstand this! It sucks and unfair!
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10 responses
• United States
7 Dec 11
You are looking at this the wrong way. If a down syndrome person can find love , then there is someone out there for you. Hint! My guy was my friend before the romance came into the picture. It took me a long while to realize that he was for me! So may have met Mr Right but he is just a friend. Or, you just have to go out and do what you love to do and look around and see there is a guy who is doing the same thing. The best of luck. Never give up.
• United States
12 Dec 11
I think I have given up! I am getting to old for this! I have had such a negative attitude about love and relationships I dobut that will ever change! I do have friend who is probaly Mr.Right but he ended up marrying someone else! Maybe he wasn't Mr.Right! Anyway I think I am pretty hopeless after I seriously think about it! Sad but true!
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@EavesJ (95)
• United States
6 Dec 11
The case maybe that you are just looking to hard for love. For example, I was looking for love yes, but I was searching for love. Love found me, I was working at the wal mart automotive center and this pretty girl, well at least I thought she was pretty, beauty is in the eye of the beholder I guess.lol. Anyways she did not say much to me as I took down her ticket on the hand held. So we got her grandmother's car out of the shop and she took off. Couple of hours later, someone behind the counter said I had a phone call. It was her, and so we got together and now we are married. And have been for over 9 years. I know this just adds more sadness, but try to just look for love and not so much as to search for it.
@EavesJ (95)
• United States
6 Dec 11
Refraise the a sentence lol, "I was looking for love yes, but I wasn't searching for love. Sorry about that. And the beginning sentence needed to have just searching to hard for love. Thanks
• United States
12 Dec 11
I know some friends who just seemed at the right place at the right time when they found love! That made me jealous back in the day! I still hate thinking about it becasue it just seems to darn easy for some people! This is one reason I rather be alone for the rest of my life! it is easier this way!
@NailTech (6890)
• United States
10 Feb 12
I'm so sorry you feel this way, some people are just luckier than others. It might not have anything to do with luck either but chance and chemistry too. The woman with Down's Syndrome probably just appeals to the normal guy cause of other reasons you don't understand. Some normal people actually look for those with mental or physical illnesses, for what ever reason. Have you tried going out more? Try to dress slightly provacative but tastefully done? There is someone for everyone, so don't give up hope. My cousin in FL is hosting a wedding at one of their homes for an 80 yr old woman who met a man on the Net whose about 80+ and she acts like a 20 yr old. She wants to change everything in the house, etc. So I guess there's hope for me too now! LOL
• United States
13 Feb 12
I am not an out going person. Never have been. I have tried over the years to do it and it just isn't me! I really have given up on love! There is no point of trying to find someone or wait around for someone! Been set up,met guys through magazine adds (that was before the interent websites to met people),met some guys on the job and there is no way I will try finding someone on the internet! That is to scarey! I am sick of finding losers and with my luck,if I tried on line,it would be worse! So it happening! If soemone did,well he would have to be perfect! I would not take anything less!
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
7 Dec 11
Hi blue65, i think you should not compare yourself with the women with Down's syndrome. Love is different for everyone. Whether we are functional or not, it has nothing to do with love. Love has never been fair and it's called love because it's not fair. we sacrifice ourselves when we love someone else. Give yourself time and we'll all be able to find our true love. I am also waiting and hoping that i'll find the someone special to spend mine life with me! Good luck to the both of us.
• United States
12 Dec 11
I am 49 years old. My time is up far as I am concerned. I really believe,lately,if God wanted me to be in love and happy it would of happened by now. I have been in love and it has never lasted! It has hurt like heck and it stinks! This is why I get so pissed when people find love and it seems so darn easy for them! This is why I know I never will find someone! Period!
@fsuma86 (364)
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
True love waits! Love comes at the right time, person and place. You just to be positive at all times. In order that someone will love you, you should love yourself first. I was like that before. I've been single for 5 years. I also hated myself and starts to compare myself to people who has a good relationship. I focused on work before and don't want to watch movies with a love theme but then all of a sudden I met someone who really is my opposite. We've been arguing during our first months but we've learn to accept each other's personality. Don't hate yourself! Your time will come! Stay in love!
• United States
12 Dec 11
I am not postive when it comes to relationships and love. i always be! I ahave seen so many people,like friends,have love fall right from the sky into their laps,gottan married and are happy! I know I have been desperate and dated the wrong guys. I didn't know what I wanted when I thought I did for years! Now that I know what I need and want,it will never happen! Love stinks and hurts like heck! I will never experienced it again! I am not lucky like other people!
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
7 Dec 11
Tell me about it!! I know it sucks and I haven't been the luckiest person in love too. It's just that I wish I could turn back time coz I think I lost the one that was meant for me and this is really killing me inside. I don't know if I will ever find love. Why is love always so far to reach or at wrong times!!
• United States
12 Dec 11
Yes I know who you feel! Been there done that! Love stinks and love is so dang painful when it ends! i don't think I want to do that again unlees Mr.Right comes along! i really doubt that will ever happen!
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
There is time for everything. Maybe the love of your life has not realized the good in you. But in due time he will come no matter what!
• United States
12 Dec 11
I don't think that will ever happen again! I am 49 and I realy thought along time ago I would have someone in my life and be in love! That has not happen! Yes I have had relationships and been in love in the past. It will not happen! If it does it'll be a miracle!
@MandaLee (3695)
• United States
6 Dec 11
Hi, I am sorry you have not found love. Negativity does not help, it only turns people away from you. Be thankful for your blessings. Try not to compare yourself to others.
• United States
12 Dec 11
One reason I am so hard on myself about love is so many people make it look so simple and extremely easy! It is like it hit them in the face and in a second they know it is love! For me most of my relationships have sucked and I have been in love. Love hurts and love stinks. I am better off alone and lovelss for the rest of myself!
• United States
6 Dec 11
There was a time when I was looking to find someone to share my life with as well, but every man I met just didn't seem like the right one for me. True I was lonely & sometimes jealous of my sisters who were both married, but I kept thinking how horrible my life would be if I married someone just for the sake of being married. I knew that when & if I got married it would be because I loved him & he loved me. I finally gave up hope of that ever happening & when I was looking for it & wasn't expecting it I met my husband. I knew almost from the start that we would be married & six months later we were. It's like that old saying that my Mom used to say to me, "All good things come to those that wait".
• United States
12 Dec 11
Well "all things comes to those that wait" doesn't happen to me! Believe me it doesn't! So many people seem to have love fall into their laps and that has always bothered me! Some people make lookiing and falling into love is so dang easy! For me it has been hard and led me down so many wrong roads! This is one of the many reasons I will never be in love again as long as I live!
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
Way back then I experienced that..I was looking for love and did not find one. I was sad and alone. I confess it to a friend and she said, just stay cool and calm for love will love finds way to you. It's harder when we are the finding for it. I took her advise and forget about it. I enjoy life with family and friends until such time when I need to open my heart for the knocking love.