My little brother is growing up

It is the common interests that bind one another. We all have drifted in different directions having settled in our lives, having different interests different goals, etc. None of us now have anything in common that would want us to connect and the saying 'blood is thicker than water' needs to be given a second look.

I have 7 years gap with my younger brother. We get along well when he's still a baby until he was in grade school. But when he started in highschool, it became different. He was having his own world and his own groups of friends. Most of the time he will be out with his friends too. There was a time I even scolded him from not going home or for coming home really late. But then I learned that maybe these things will really happen eventually as they are growing old. So I guess you just need to let him be free and give him space. He will still love you as his brother.

My idea that was happened mostly at all families. Most of family member wake up in some morning days, and suddenly found one of each little baby has the behavior of another grown one, and may be his voice was also changed. That is the growing up affects. So, to return to the old time with him, try to see your brother friends and how they deal with him, and do the same.

I feel you Ashwin. I have my little brother too, which has been always relying on me since then. I've been like his mother when our mother is not around. But now, he is in his high school and he got busier with school tasks, friends and crushes. Its like, its just yesterday I used to carry him on my own bare arms. But, I just understand him. I've been in that stage too, so I know! :) Just let him do what he wanna do. He will come into you again, when he need you and your advice.

Hi I also have a little brother yonger five years old than me.We have many happy time when we were child,and then I leave my hometown to go to higher school and college.at the same time,He have his space with his good friends and girl fried.But I often miss the old times like you,I think the same as he.So Let it be...We should let our life developed naturely....

We have the same experience here. I also have a litle brother like that too. He is so cute when he was a kid, i also like to bring him with me whenever i go and we playing together almost all the time. But when he was growing up, he never want to play with me anymore and he even refuse to go with me when i'm asking him. I wish he wouldn't change this much, but i guess everyone will change as the time passing.

Well, it is true after a person gets older many times they allow themselves to become so busy to where they do not have much time for Family anymore. They even begin to just want their own space. All I think you can do is learn to give him some space and time he needs, but let him know you are still there for him whenever he needs you and hopefully one day he will.

Hi there... Kids have attachments to their siblings upto a certain period... But once, they are matured, they begin to explore the outer world, outside of their family... And in that process, they might get a little away from you.. Let it be.. That is the part of nature... Take care...

All my siblings were grown up now. So, mine is: my daughter is growing up! She's a little lady at 10, don't want to pamper like a baby now. Don't like to play her barbies now. I asked her to give it to her younger cousins and she said yes. Have crushes, glad she let me knows. Has her own way to make her things. How time flies fast. She's still a baby to me! With parental guidance *LOL

Some kids could be like that indeed. But still it's up to us to bridge the gap. See to it, that you get to bond with him as often as you can. Since you are the older one, it would be nice if you could try to know what are his interests now. From there, you will know how to be close to him again.

I don't have little brother but i have a cousin that living here in our house because her mom is working abroad and i am the one that taking care of him here in our country. We also have age gap. I treated him like my little brother but now that he is growing up i miss the time that he is always following me any where i go and he is crying if i don't carry him when we are going outside the house.

Hi. I also have a brother 12 years younger my age and I also experienced the same growing up dilemma before. During his adolescence stage, my father was working abroad and my mother was also working for a garment company and since I am the eldest, I am their acting 'guardian' when my parents are away. I was his refuge, whenever he has problems in school and I was always on his side whenever my parents cannot make it to school during activities that needed a guardian. When he was in his teens, I have started my own family. That was when I needed to be separated from him and leave our house. My mother had difficult times with him sometimes that they needed me to talk to him about things (girls mostly ha..ha..ha..). But I managed to deal with him by constant visit and talks with him. In some occasion, he even lived with my family until he finished his college. Now, he is starting his own family and he still comes to me often to consult me about business, own family and things. We had this bond that I think has become a HABIT and that is called constant COMMUNICATION. There maybe peers or interests that goes between siblings and we call it gap but there is also a bridge that connects it and that is called CONSTANT COMMUNICATION. Don't loose hope in trying to communicate with him. He may have his own space, peers and time with others, but there is still a time when BOTH of you will interact with each other such as family gatherings, visits, night caps, etc. The main thing is that you need to value each talk and mark those talks with compassion, happiness and LOVE so that he will always seek you in times of difficulties or happiness. Don't despair that he has changed and that he is not the same as before because he really will change and will seek other companions and act to be responsible for of his own life. So long as he is doing the right thing and not a major headache, then he is on the right track and there is nothing you can do but be his waiting brother and friend.

hi ashwinsajith, in my orginal family, i am the youngest an our age gap from the eldest is 8 years and and when we were still young we were very close. But as like you she had to move to a different city because she will work their. then we would call her regularly to check up on her. and course we would visit her if we were near her place. but I guess, People in our lives just come and go, and we have to face the fact they have their own lives to live, but we must never forget that the will always have a place in our hearts. With constant communication, we still maintain a very close relationship, and now that i have a job, everytime that i am on vacation i always visit her.