My friends hurting my privacy.?

@suds619 (101)
India
December 18, 2011 4:46am CST
I am living in other city for my education so my friends and me have a rented flat. i like all my 3 partners we really good friends. I like to stay with them i have no problem with them .but when i used to do some private work they don't understand the that i don't want them to interfeare in my those things.. like chatting with my girlfriend they used to listen the conversation or see in my laptop while i am doing some private work. i can't tell them directly cause their view of thinking about me will be affected that i am very friendly and don't hide anything.. i like to keep some things limited up to me only.. What should i suppose to do ??
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6 responses
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
19 Dec 11
You have every right to be have a privacy. Your friends are a little immature and they should respect it if you want some private talks with your girlfriend. They should know it as I am sure they if they have their own girlfriends they would not want any one to interfere with their conversation with their GFs too. I guess one thing that you can do is go out of the flat when you need to call your GF. And try to talk to them about not disturbing you while you finish some work, I am sure they will not get angry at you if you tell it to them in a good tone.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
Thanks for the BR, suds619 Hope you're friends are not bothering you too much now.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 11
It is complicated case. I had felt the same as you on that position. Living together often faces this problems. I feel so unfree to do my private things. I don't like that. Here were my act at that time The first solution is talking to your friends about the rules of those thing can be shared and those things that can't be shared. It will make being uneasy with them but if you don't do it, there will be other problem comes later. I believe that they this feeling too, so talking about it would be better. If this step is not good to be done for you. So, you have to limit yourself in doing your private activity at your place. Do your private work on the other place which is not reached by them, at park, veranda sitting area or others . Of course, it is more uneasy cos there will be more person can see you there. You have the choices, so choose the best for you. Good luck.
@suds619 (101)
• India
19 Dec 11
Thank you for your valuable response. This is very sensetive matter cause we are friends and do enjoy together ..
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
18 Dec 11
I think you should have a house meeting, all sit around and nicely talk about things that maybe of concern, I am sure they probably have a few little concerns also, you should be able to talk as adults and be civil and just set some house rules, it is not easy group living for anyone so I believe house rules have to be set so living together will work...but you must do this in a pleasant way...
@suds619 (101)
• India
19 Dec 11
Lilaclady Thank you for responding yes we have rules but u know we are good friends.You know friends.. but i will try to conduct a serious meeting.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
29 Sep 12
Hi, My son is also living with his friends in rented flat. All the three friends are good . He don't have such problem like. They don't interfere each others private matters or don't use laptop without asking permission. but in your case you should tell your friends frankly about your feelings that you don't want to share some private things with them. . If your friends understand your feelings then they will not do such things again.
@kaichoukebz (1190)
• Philippines
19 Dec 11
Everyone deserves some privacy. You must tackle things to them. You must also make some agreement with them. It is up to you on how you will fix it. I believe they will understand you. Just say the truth to them. Do not be afraid.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
19 Dec 11
As you are good friends you can tell your problems frankly to your friends. If they are actually good friends, they would consider your uneasiness and adjust for you. Otherwise you have to adjust for them and can try for a better place for stay takin time.