Never a right time to say goodbye?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
December 20, 2011 9:04pm CST
From the song of Chris Brown, Called Say Goodbye, There's this line...
Girl its not you, its me,
there's never a right time, a right time to say goodbye
but we know we got to go our separate ways
its hard, but we got to do it... and its killing me
but i got to make the first move, because if i don't you're gonna start hating me...
there's never a right time, a right time to say goodbye
Have you ever been to a situation like this, where you have never had the same feelings for the person you are with, and you think you need to just let him/her go.. but its somehow still killing you to do it? you can't find the chance to go and tell him or her that you want to break up? Or have you always been finding it easy to let go and break up with someone? Please do share!
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9 responses
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
It does hurt when they tell you that they do not feel anything about you.. For me, though it hurts so much more when they don't seem to care for you as they say they do. It hurts to see them not do anything, and hurts to hear them lie and pretend you are just over reacting. I guess you are better off... there are many other men out there who will love you and appreciate you.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
22 Dec 11
i agree. It will hurt me more if i will choose to stay in our relationship even he don't love me anymore and he have new girlfriend that is why i choose to end our relationship. I hope,he will not do that kind of infidelity again in her new girlfriend.
@deadbeat (82)
• United States
31 Dec 11
Sure there is. Its called saying good bye, and walking out on them. If its for the best there is a right time. Doesn't matter if its a a spouse, boyfriend girlfriend, etc, or family. If its right to walk away, there is a RIGHT TIME to say Goodbye.
I've been able to do it myself.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
Goodbye is the hardest in every relationship.
But, if goodbyes is the best way to keep each other's respect so be it.
I hate goodbyes- but I do not want to keep hatred either,
So i guess, goodbye is better than hating each other.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
21 Dec 11
Yes I have been in that situation! I can still remember the pain I've been through because of that person. He was never been mine. But the scar he left me was very big and that I was having a hard time to move in with my life. I don't want to think about it anymore.
@michellepacho (17)
•
21 Dec 11
There will always be a chance that the love you felt in the beginning will be lost before you say goodbye. And once the love is gone I think it is the right time to say goodbye. If you really take into consideration the heart of your mate, you will not prolong his/her agony. Because without love, you will cause a lot of pain weather it is intentional or not. It will be hard for both parties but it is best to free yourselves to a bond that is not grounded by love.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
21 Dec 11
is it because we are selfish not to say goodbye? or we hurt ourselves more when we say goodbye? i would like to believe that there is never a right time to say goodbye because of our self-interest to get out of the comfort zone. but it is always the right time to decide for ourselves than keep a relationship that is ruining our lives. i have goodbyes that i felt good after doing it.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
21 Dec 11
I agree with you you felt good after doing something that you thought you could never do. I guess sometimes you just need to take the courage and face a decision that is hard to make. Maybe you did feel good because that is a relief on your part, you were freed from a burden.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Dec 11
I have felt the need to break up but don't want to hurt him. I would be miserable with him but I would rather die than be the one to hurt him. In a breakup someone has to be hurt. There is no way out of it. But once it is done both are free to love again.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
21 Dec 11
I think that is true, there is no way out of being hurt in relationship when one decides to be free from the other... I think people should really be thinking hard and would have to think correctly before deciding to do something like this. I have had a similar experience when i no longer wanted to be with the person and what I did was break up with him several months after he notices that i no longer want to see him, i am no longer interested to be with him, and i always tell him not to fetch me at work or send me home...
@dabangladehi (660)
• Bangladesh
21 Dec 11
I am having a relation with my girl friend is more than 4 years. We never think to break it. She is my first love and last love. I am afraid of breaking relationship. I know I will net get someone who will love me more than her. Relation is for maintaining, not for breaking .
