No Love life = Lonely Christmas?

@chiyosan (29383)
Philippines
December 22, 2011 10:22pm CST
Why do people say this often, that when you are single, your christmas is not happy? I think there is no truth in this. Christmas is a celebration of Christ's birthday and not for people to have partners, etc. We have our family that loves us and so why does everyone or most people think that Christmas is not a happy holiday if you do not have a boyfriend or a partner?
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@gerald_lian (2193)
• Australia
26 Dec 11
You are indeed correct when you say that there is no truth in that statement at all. Case in point, I am single at the moment and this year I had one of the most memorable and happiest Christmas celebration ever (and in fact, last year's Christmas celebration was also an extremely happy and memorable one and I was also single then). I believe our family is more important than any boyfriend/girlfriend or partner, and without our family the Christmas celebration will not be very meaningful.
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• Philippines
26 Dec 11
It is not true that if you are loveless you are lonely during christmas. There are many things that you can do so that you can avoid being lonely. You could go out with your family and watch movies. Or you could hang out with your friends. Bottom line is, you are the one that will make the mood of your christmas.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
25 Dec 11
I think some songs are the reason behind this. Just like Pasko na Sinta ko. It talks about being lonely because his gf left him. This song became so famous that it influenced the thinking of us Filipinos, that people without sweethearts are lonely during Christmas day. Well, there must be something still behind this. I know in Japan teenagers are doing their best to have a bf/gf before Christmas comes because having a sweetheart during that day is a must. And there's no Pasko na Sinta Ko song there so there's probably another reason. Anyway, it sounds absurd to me. I used to wish for a bf for Christmas but I thought I was just going with the flow and it felt pathetic so I stopped wishing. Someone asked me just recently if I don't want a bf this Christmas. I said, I'd rather have an iPhone.
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
That's sooo not true. It does not follow that one should be lonely on Christmas day if one doesn't have a partner. If you are surrounded with people who care and love you, then there's no reason for you to be lonely. Sometimes, it's even better if you are single because you get to mingle with not just one person but many.
@trisha27 (3505)
• United States
24 Dec 11
I totally agree when you say you hate it when people say this around Christmas time or even on Valentines day. But you are right, why are you worrying about not having a significant other. You have your family and friends right, I say that is all you need on Christmas and just to remember Jesus' birthday is another thing.
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
24 Dec 11
I am one of those people who has no love life. I am not lonely at Christmas! I know it is the birthday of Christ which seems to be forgottaned in Christmas. Due to the fact I am the only one who is single of my siblings. We will not be celebrating on Christmas Eve and Christmas. My brothers and sister go to the in-laws! So we always celebrate on a different day! This year will be on New Years Eve. So my Christmas will not be lonely and I will be busy anyway. I am working my part-time job and that will keep me busy.
@Triple0 (1907)
• Australia
24 Dec 11
I haven't heard of that kind of thing before, I thought Christmas was more of a family thing not a partner or boyfriend/girlfriend thing. I reckon that's a bit too selfish don't you think? Those kind of people are only thinking about themselves and how lonely they are, how about the other single people out there. How about your other loved ones like your family, friends and all those people who can't even have a merry Christmas because they have no money. We shouldn't be only thinking about ourselves but others too. There are so many families who starve each day, who can't afford those glorious Christmas dinners with their family, some kids don't even get Christmas presents. Some people should be more considerate rather than thinking about how lonely they are. Life isn't always about getting a partner and that's it, you're happy. Some relationships aren't that great either. People should be thinking about others and making them happy, that in return will make us happy too, who needs a partner? Watching a bunch of kids smile is way better then snuggling up to one person.
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• United States
23 Dec 11
I agree that it is not necessary to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend to have a happy and warm Christmas. I've been spending my winter break with my family and it has made me very happy. Sure, people who have partners experience something different as a couple during Christmas but that doesn't mean us single people have a less meaningful experience. happy holidays.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
23 Dec 11
U are sooooo right. A partner can't make u happy to start with. U have to make yourself happy. Half the people or more that have partners are not happy w/them.
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@dodo19 (31995)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
23 Dec 11
I can certainly understand how you may think that way, but to be honest, I still think that you can have a happy Christmas, even if you're not in a relationship. I do believe that it's possible.
@MandaLee (3691)
• United States
23 Dec 11
You are so right.
@succeednow (1636)
• Singapore
23 Dec 11
Hi chiyosan, I fully agree with you. Everyone can enjoy and celebrate Christmas whether he/she is single, married or divorced. After all Christmas is all about the birth of a wonderful Savior who has come into this world to provide hope and salvation for people. Of course it'll be so nice if we can share this joyful occasion with one we truly and deeply love and cherish like a boyfriend or girlfriend. Happiness is what you make out of it. It is a state of mind. If you choose to be happy you can find ways to make yourself happy. But if you choose to be sad then you get what you choose. Simple as that. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
i agree. Most of the time people forget the real meaning of Christmas when they feel alone because they are single but for me Christmas is giving love to people around us and we must be happy because it is Jesus birthday.. Its much better to celebrate Christmas with our family..
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
I don't know also why many single people saying about it. Because as you said that Christmas is the celebration of the birth (not sure) Christ not in the celebration of single people who want to have a partner in that day...
• United States
7 Jan 12
I agree with you Chiyosan, and I go further to say that the people saying that it is a lonely time when you don't have a partner either have been without a partner for a while and have been lonely, so Christmas just makes it a worse time for them without someone to spend it with; or they simply put too much emphasis on relationships in the first place, whether they are with someone or not. But you can always spend time with family and friends during the holidays. And if you venture out there are many events that you can go to to celebrate the holiday all over the world. There is definitely no reason to be lonely on the holidays, unless you want to be.
@yanzalong (10143)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 11
Chirstmas is one of the many occasions when people get together, not always in terms of having boy or girlfriends. You will feel the same in all occasions when you are lonely. If you are happy, the situation or occasions seem to give you happiness, too.
@MandaLee (3691)
• United States
23 Dec 11
Yes, I am so excited to spend time with the family celebrating Christ's birth.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
That's true I used to hear that too, even in songs.. that made me lonely too. I have a boyfriend but so far away... that makes me feel lonely too. But actually I shouldn't worry about that, like many other people too... maybe we are just influenced by those songs and other people and that's the reason why people thinks that being single means it's not gonna be a happy Christmas. For me it's also enough having my family around to celebrate Christmas and New Year
• Jacksonville, Florida
23 Dec 11
I think anyone can be happy on this holiday if your single or not. If a person is sad about being single every day of the year then they will probably be sad on Christmas as well. Its the persons own decision if they want to be happy or not. Some people live sad all the time so they will probably not enjoy the holidays as much as we do...
@mandylee (267)
• China
23 Dec 11
i think that Christmas day is a holiday and everyone want to celebrate the day with friends who can share the happiness with and the parner or boyfriend/girlfriend is the best option.marry christmas and happy new year!
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
It's really not necessary to have someone special this Christmas. Having your family with you is enough. My girlfriend and I would prefer spending time with family this Christmas, then spend time together the day after. That's preferable for us.
• United States
23 Dec 11
Being alone for any holiday can be a downer for anyone. I see a lot of people who ae happy being alone the have family and friends to share the holiday's with. There are those who have no friends,family to count on and the are alone. Having someone in their life to love them would make the day that much better. Until you have been in their shoes you will never understand. Christmas or valentines day being alone makes it that much harder.