Is it important to use weddingring after married

@areskya (398)
Indonesia
December 24, 2011 8:14am CST
Hi, mylotters. I have seen and visited many kinds of marriage. The bridegroom often give a wedding ring to the bride and vise verse. I don't know since when this activity becomes a tradition in almost country all around the world. What do you think of this giving? Do you think that each couple have to give and wear a wedding ring after married? Thank you for sharing. Happy mylotting.
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15 responses
@seemared (771)
1 Jan 12
I think it's a ring of bond or trust that we each other give..I do keep it with me no matter even if I were to cheat him as to say even if I did he is the person to whom I wanted to go back to and seeing the ring on my finger quite makes me remember him when I get busy with any work.. with my husband permission I've had another relationship and while I was in it every time I thought I should remove the ring as it is not good to keep such a ring of meaning while I am with another guy but on a second though I knew it's the same guy who gave e the ring suggested me another guy for companionship and so his ring has ought to follow me very where.. it's a sort of belief and only a few do under stand it's value and live according..I am not one as I considered it's value as per my ideas and thoughts and not it's actual meaning.. for the first time I was with another guy I had removed it ..then I sort of didn't like removing it as I felt 'shhoing' my beloved husband away..so the next time I didn't do that..I kept is to my finger and no matter what happened I want it on my fingers..till I die..
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@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 12
that's really nice thought. I suppose you are really good lover and loyal to him. It gives me new view that ring is for long lasting use.
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@seemared (771)
2 Jan 12
it is very long lasting..no matter how much time I spend with the other partner..my husband cannot be exchanged for some one else..he is pretty unique and I don't want to miss that..never ever..
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
I do agree, all humans should do it to their couple. I would do the same things as you to love my husband cos there will be no other same man in this world as him.
@glesil_00 (1147)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
Marriage is bind through wedding ring, its my views and personal opinion. In the ceremony, the giving of the wedding ring is important. To me its a symbol of togetherness of two people. If i am married, wearing weddign ring is very important to me as my sign of love and loyalty to the person i am with. Its a symbol that i will keep the person as i said my promise in the wedding ceremony.
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@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 11
Hi glesil. I also has the same opinion as you, the ring is the symbol of marital status so it is important to wear after getting married. it doesn't matter how much the price of the ring but it bind as a couple.
@glesil_00 (1147)
• Philippines
26 Dec 11
Yes the price doesn't matter, as for me its priceless but most valuable and important thing during the wedding.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 11
It would be so lovely day on that day for wearing the wedding ring.
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
27 Dec 11
Hi,i am from China. Though nowadays, more and more young couples buy wedding ring and exchange them on the wedding. But it is not a tradition of China. Therefore, some of them will take it all the time, while others don't. For the older generations, some of them even don't buy that at all.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 11
Yeah, it is the same in my country, the older generation don't have it. It is only the trend of the young generation.
26 Dec 11
first of all,i think if you have got married and you have got a ring ,you need often to wear it .lately there is a new workmate in our department,who was so young and so hangsome that many girls in our company have been enchanted by him.to their disappointment,he told them he had got married .girls asked him:''it's unbelievable,why don't you wear a ring?"he was so embarrassed.through the story .i think it is necessary to wear a ring for those who has got married.
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@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 11
Hi, selinachang. I think the same condition could happen as you said if married person don't wear their wedding ring, it will make some person who don't know his marital status become so sad. It is better to avoid making others sad than doing so.
@jkct02 (2861)
• Malaysia
25 Dec 11
No, it is not important at all. It may be a symbol of marriage but it is not everything. It is okay if you wear it. If you don't, it is okay too. Marriage is the joining of 2 individuals to become a couple. To continue as a couple in life's journey, it is the love, the care, the understanding and the willingness to sacrifice for each other that make it work. A wedding ring is just a ring. It doesn't help the marriage in anyway if there is a problem. So it is a choice to wear. But it is not really necessary.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 11
Thanks a lot for you nice sharing. You are so wise. It is something that I don't think deeply yet. The marriage life is not as simple as I think.
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@vustha (18)
• Indonesia
25 Dec 11
Marriage is not just a matter of exchange rings and wearing a wedding ring after it, in think is not a necessity. I myself had 2years of marriage, and almost a year ago I wasn't wearing my wedding ring.and it's ok, as long as our hearts are still bound to one another.
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@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 11
Hi, vustha. You give me new view in seeing the marriage life. Marriage is not only for this simple thing wearing wedding ring but also many other marriage problems
@squallming (1778)
• Malaysia
24 Dec 11
In my opinion, The tradition of giving wedding rings and wear them after the marriage actually came from the western nation. However, because it seems to be so romantic and the media is promoting such act for a long time. People begin to adapt such wedding practice into their own culture. I don't have any problem with that. In fact I know that my girlfriend is going to be so happy when I propose with a wedding ring and marry her. So as long as we are happy, why not?
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 11
You're right, it is western culture that has spread around the world. By the way, I am sure your girlfriend will be so glad and wait for the time you propose her in romantic way and time by giving her a wedding ring. But for me I would feel so glad if he propose me cos it has shown his seriousness of our relation with or without the ring. There are many bad guy who irresponsible and not easy to find the serious one.
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• India
24 Dec 11
Well areskya I feel that a wedding is a very sacred thing , a ritual that symbolises the union of two people and an unsaid but undying lifetime commitment. So as a recognition of this ritual a lot of cultures around the world use the ring as a sign that one is married. But to delve deeper the ring in today's life is worn only because it is mandatory and hence has lost its importance. But I personally would want my wife to wear it after marriage as a sign of our union.. As for giving each other rings I am fine as long both the sides can afford to spend.. It should come automatically from your inlaws and not demanded as a gift/ dowry.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 11
Yeah, ashwin. I also intend my husband wear it if I had got married. I realize that the truly bond between us is in our hearth but it is the untold symbol of our married. Here, in place the giving of the ring is from the bridegroom or both the bridegroom and bride cos the ring is their private couple symbol. Whereas his parent will pay all of the expense of my married, but not include the ring. It is on my opinion as I see on my country. Wow,,,, there are many tradition for getting married, how's on your country?
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@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
To simply view it, ring is only a symbol of the couple that they are married. It is important to use wedding ring after marriage so that people will be aware that you are already married. Wearing also a wedding ring means that you love your wife or husband and you give importance to the vow you both made.
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@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 11
Thanks for sharing. yeah you are right. I do think as you.
@shaggin (23509)
• United States
14 Jan 12
My husband and I both always wore our rings until we split up. When we were together neither of us would have imagined ever taking it off. I loved to wear my rings. My wedding band was my grandmothers and it had been soddered back together and a few months after my wedding it broke so I never got it fixed or got another one I just wore my engagement ring. My mother didnt like that she thought I needed to buy another wedding band because people would think I was just engaged. What did that matter when I would just tell them the truth that I was married and my ring broke no big deal. I didnt want to get another ring because it wouldnt feel the same as it being the same ring that I was married with. It would feel artificial. There are lots of people who dont wear their rings for lots of different reasons and it doesnt mean that they love the person any less. Some guys have jobs where they work in grease and other things that will ruin the ring so they dont wear it to work or just dont wear it at all. Sometimes the rings get lost and they cant afford or dont want to bother buying another one. Sometimes people gain weight and the rings get to tight and they cannot wear it without the rings cutting off their circulation.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 12
That's right. There are so many reason for wearing or not wearing wedding ring. I just feel so curious to know why they wear it. Shaggin, what do you think about someone who don't want to wear his ring cos he still want to be seen as a single guy?
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@shaggin (23509)
• United States
17 Jan 12
Well if a guy doesnt wear his wedding ring because he still wants girls to view him as single then he doesnt deserve to have a wife! If you want people to think your single when your not then you are obviously not serious about the person you are with. Its really wrong when people do this. I wore my ring until my husband and I split up.
@Tina30219 (18041)
• Onaway, Michigan
17 Jan 12
Shaggin I agree on the guy not wearing his ring because he still wants to ladies to think he is single.I also agree on them obviously not wanting to be serious about the person hey are with. I have always wore my ring the only times they have came off my fingers are medical reasons but after that they went right back on.
14 Jan 12
for me it's not really important. it is just a symbol of being engaged with someone. i don't use my ring either my husband. we just keep it as our precious gift. that's it....
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 12
Ok, Nonik_mildie. I see your point. It's nice view to do. Thanks for sharing. By the way, what about if there is a handsome guy who are crushed at you and want to be with you cos he sees that you don't wear any ring so he thinks that you're single
22 Jan 12
then i will say that i've married. if he doesn't believe me, i'll show him my photos or everything to proof him that i am married. everything depends on us. if we have married with someone it means that we have a big decision to spend our whole life with him or her. so we will always be aware about our relation with other, our attitude towards people, and keep the honor of the family. :)
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 12
That's really wise act to do. I have to learn it from you cos I'm single so I don't really understand about the relation of those married. You have good thought about your next act if there is something could happen as this example in the future. Wait in minute, I'm so curious to know about what you have said before, is it your view or based on your experience??? I do believe that you are pretty woman whom has many lover,
@min8esign (168)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 11
I think it is not a necessity to wear wedding ring after married, but may be a necessity to keep it.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 11
Nice opinion, thanks
• Philippines
25 Dec 11
For me, it is important to wear wedding ring after married as a proof of love and commitment. It is now part of tradition in most countries and some countries have these different beliefs that became a part of their traditions.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 11
Yes, friend. I have the same view as you. So, you will wear it after getting married, I suppose
@ardoy0731 (6866)
• Philippines
25 Dec 11
I think wearing wedding rings after the wedding symbolized the holy matrimony of marriage.The married couple should always wear it caused it symbolized that they are already married and taken.
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 11
Okay, it's so lovely cos I have the same opinion as you.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
31 Jan 12
After the wedding i never wear the wedding ring again because i am afraid to lose it. My mom said i must always wear it because in the tradition,married people need to wear it and never remove to the hand but i am still afraid of losing it so i just keep it in the cabinet.. I think i will just wear it in the graduation day..