blue christmas

You have a nice comment. But sometimes its hard to forget and forgive. and sometimes all thats left in us is our pride because we're afraid that they will hurt us again one day. Is there any way that we can easily forgive those who hurt us and forget everything(hurts and arguments)? I'm experiencing that right now that eventhough its been a long time since me and my sis-in law had an argument but still the memory of arguments are still in my system although i really tried to forget everything and move on.

Yes, it is indeed hard to do to forgive and forget. We are just humans. What I am trying to say is that if we care enough about the deteriorating relationship, we should do something to recover and stop the rot. But if you don't care that much then of course you don't have to do anything. But what you are feeling now is showing that you do care. We will not know what will happen in the future. So we can not worry too much about something that may or may not happen. To give up the opportunity to salvage something we think is valuable and worthy of our efforts will certainly mean a permanent loss. It is not wise to abandon a sure thing for something unsure. Even if they were to hurt us again in the future, it is something we can not help. It is not your fault. What we are supposed to do today is still the right thing to do. Don't think negatively. Do what you think is the right thing to do. When you look back one day, you will be proud of yourself. As for the grudges inside your heart, it is unhealthy and may affect your well being mentally. Try to throw it out. Make peace with yourself. Make peace with everything else. Only when you are peaceful you can have complete happiness.