what is your way to express your love in your relationship?

China
January 4, 2012 8:52am CST
have you married and have you had a really relationship before? i am a shy person, now i am have a relationship now, but to be frankly, i donot know how to express my love to her. i donot know what shall i say and what shall i do. i donot want to say i love you to her, i just want to express my love by my action, but what can i do? can you give me some suggestions?
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@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
"i]i donot want to say i love you to her?[/i]" why? I don't get it if you love her then tell her, yeah action is better and is much important but saying those words also helps and I am telling you girls/women like hearing those words from their special one..
• United States
4 Jan 12
this is true. i rememeber when my man was just showing it and then just saying i like u too or i care about u too, it just ripped my poor lil heart wide open and it killed me not to hear those special words softly spoken to me... now he is the one that says i love u first :) but the sad part is is he is in the army so i dont get to hear them i only get to read them :( but none the less i am very proud of my army man :)
@phillyguy (3005)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
yeah sometimes saying those words is really special and complements our "action" I believe many men took that thing for granted or they're just not comfortable saying those words, but for me I know saying those words makes my special one happy and special and I also say those words because I really mean it.
@Hazelme (647)
• United States
4 Jan 12
The best you can show her you love her is to be honest, girls love honest guys. Just be honest to her and don't lie to her because the truth soon or later comes out. You can also try taking her places it doesn't necessarily needs to somewhere expensive just to a park, a amusement park, or just a place where you guys could be alone like a picnic or something. Just show your romantic skills lol. You can also write to her a card, i know you want to show her by actions you love her but she also needs to hear it. But you should know what she likes, if she likes movies, going out or whatever. She will appreciate it.
• United States
4 Jan 12
i agree to this 100% :)
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
My husband is not a man who says "i love you" to me. But when occasions come, he will say so in a card. But most of the time, he shows his love to me by helping me in some chores. He would embrace me while we are watching TV in bed. He would let me watch TV shows that i like in our bedroom, because it's where i like to watch and just go to the living room to watch his own chosen show too. BUt when i am done watching my soap, i would go to him at the living room and tell him i am done and he can watch there already. Simple things such as like that can really convey your love to your partner, not necessarily say "i love you".
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
4 Jan 12
en you can express your love out loud. My time is easiest to him and show through some action by a gentle pat on the arm so you can also just a hug. things you can do is to give a teddy and me (with an inscription that I love you and she will understand. and all this will show your love and your good intentions towards her. because you will understand your feelings and also your love. ponakoga is difficult to tell your feelings to someone but I hope this is help for you. nice day good luck!...
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
10 Jan 12
Expressing one's love is fairly simple. The least you can do to express your love is to be a good company which you have to be a good listener and communicator. You must always attend to what she speaks, sometimes she may have problems which she needs advise or simply want you to listen. You have to listen actively which constantly give nods and show empathy and paraphrase what she says. Give advise if you need to or she asks for it. Another thing to show your love is what everybody is doing, give her some gifts once in a while and especially during special occasion. Of course, you should also count how many days you guys have been together and celebrate it that your anniversary every year. Reminder, do not ever forget her birthday. Besides that, one of the easiest yet many failed to do is to keep her accompanied. Meaning that you should spend time together in shopping malls or anywhere, doing sports etc. Always keep your cell phone with you to message her once in a while if she is not busy. At night before she sleeps, you can call over to have a little chitchat and give her a good night wish and kiss. You can also offer to call and wake her up in the morning if she has something important to do that day. Basically, those are some important things that you can do to show your care and love. Showing your love is really not so hard.
• United States
4 Jan 12
hi jakeyangchao! i am a female and am kinda shy myself. for us gals we want to be shown we r loved and told it too. i know how u feel i went thru a bad relationship once and so did my bf that i have now. he didnt want to tell me he loved me and he showed it instead. i had a feeling that he loved me but i had to hear it too. so start out by making her dinner or taking her places or offering to do her laundry or clean the kitchen for her. help her out when she is cooking and cleaning... i dont know about other women but i love it when my man helps me oput with the cooking and the cleaning. i love it when he takes me places and does things for me. there is one thing u should avoid tho and thats buying her jewlery, unless she asks for it... the reason y u should stay away from it is u dont want to buy her love u want to win it. u want to win her love and affection for u. dont ever buy a womans love. yes we like shiny sparkly things, but give her flowers instead. give her breakfast in bed ask her if she needs help with anything. u r her help mate so help her out do special things for her be creative be loving and caring and genuine to her. i hope this works for u if u need more tips feel free to add me :)
• United States
4 Jan 12
Here are some tips to follow: Think about all the great moments that you have with her for inspiration Try to think of words that can describe what your feelings towards her are. The happiness you feel when you are around her and the ncessity you have to being with her. Find a place where you'll be comfortable and alone and that would stimulate romance. Tell her how much you want to be with her. They will appreciate that you are showing her your love and not just saying it. Spend as much time with her as you can. This doesn't mean all the time though as she might need her own space sometimes. If you feel she has something to say, do not ignore her. Be a great listener, compassionate and understanding to her feelings. Just say it. Don't try to think of the perfect time to say it because sometimes it will never come out, if you become too nervous. If you didn't prepare anything to say, just speak your heart out. Don't make them think that she's loosing you. Tell them that you love her everyday. I hope these tips will help you out and open up your relationship with her. Good luck!