I think these guys were speaking about me . . .

@boyuancy (1709)
India
January 9, 2012 12:24pm CST
I was travelling in my college bus today, and I over heard a conversation that these guys were having at the back. Almost all the people who travel from our bus seem normal, but me. So, one of the guy spoke about me I guess and asked if I behaved strange because I was shy, and the other guy said that some people are shy but some others are ignored. And I was one of them. What can this mean? Please don't answer me in terms of "Go ask him what he meant". I want to know what you guys think of it.
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7 responses
@himzey (1321)
• India
10 Jan 12
Hey boyuancy I dont think you need to worry about what they meant. A individual is easy to target but power lies in being together. This group that was making statements about you just for their amusement is full of childish kind of characters. They should be aware that they dont have the liberty to speak such things about somebody. Dont you care, as they are just trying to provoke you to do something absolutely silly and amuse them more. If they say you are being ignored then its a good thing cause I wouldn't like to have any contacts with such freaks. Its better to be ignored by them. This might be their time,... let them have it. But the moment they step out to make their own place in this cruel world then they will realize the truth, who is shy and who is ignored, when their own friends wont consider their importance. I suggest you yourself start ignoring those people, and let them have a taste of it..
@himzey (1321)
• India
10 Jan 12
By the way.. nice number.... 786..
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
10 Jan 12
I think everybody got this the wrong way. They weren't doing this to provoke me or something, and I'm not sure even if they were speaking about me or not. I think they were, and the guy who was talking, it seemed he was trying to explain my behavior in a rational manner.
@himzey (1321)
• India
11 Jan 12
Hmmm If thats the case then I guess that boy shouldn't be as loud as he was.
@francesca5 (1344)
10 Jan 12
to be honest, boyuancy, if they were talking about you it doesn't sound like they were being nasty, it sounds more as if they were trying to understand you. have you felt ignored when you were younger? as if you did then that may have created a situation where you just created barriers so that feeling ignored didn't feel so bad, so in a way you ignored being ignored. my advice if that was your experience is to try and find a way of moving out of that pattern of behaviour, the only problem is not all parents are rational, they do not all parent well, and part of why you felt ignored may have been that your main carer may have had issues that were nothing to do with you, that may have resulted in him/her being unhappy with having a baby, which may have made you feel unwanted, and therefore ignored. i am possibly asking you far too many personal questions here, but all this sort of feeling of isolation can be solved if you can find out what happened to make you feel ignored.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
10 Jan 12
You are right, Francesca, they were trying to explain my behavior. I have never been ignored, I have had the best parents who parented me very well, I have had the best friends, who didn't ignore, maybe sometimes but that's insignificant.
10 Jan 12
that's strange why they should say that then. my interpretation of them did seem to make them wiser than they really were. though it could be projection, very often people project on to others their own insecurities.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
11 Jan 12
I don't know. I mean it could have been due to the way I had been acting lately. I do not care about what others think so that's of no use to me. Thanks for the response.
@BoboMama (321)
• India
10 Jan 12
Well ,i think you should stop referreing to yourself as "shy" and start mingling with people , it might sound really hard to you , take a deep breath and go ahead and talk And act brave and always be with other friends , so that people will never refer to you as "ignorant","introvert" I say you gotta change ;)
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
10 Jan 12
Why should I change for someone else? It is one thing to get out of a shell and a whole other one to completely change yourself for the sake of others. And I'm never gonna do that, as I don't give a s**t about people.
• India
10 Jan 12
way to go. yeah dont change yourself for those freaks. they dont know what your capable of. they dunno YOU. just be yourself ...:)
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
10 Jan 12
Thank you, I'm not changing myself for no one.
@vandana7 (65003)
• India
10 Jan 12
Whatever they meant or felt, I must add that if they must've known that they were loud enough to let you know they were talking about you then it was deliberate to provoke you. Kiddo, there are all sorts of people. They dont matter. What matters is our goals, and our securities, and our loved ones. So, stick to those for now. :)
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
10 Jan 12
Yes, and they know I don't care. I did not find that provocative in any way, they were just having a discussion. The bus stopped and all seemed very quiet for a moment when I could hear them. I was sleeping all the way through so they must've though I still was.
@vandana7 (65003)
• India
15 Jan 12
Bad guys..see.. you dont have to be bothered about bad folks..
@parascevi (314)
• Greece
10 Jan 12
My advice is to ignore them. I believe that they did the whole conversation in purpose so as you to hear them and make you feel uncomfortable.Don't give much importance to other's comments and nasty words.Just be your self and have confidence.Some people are just mean and want to heart the others. Do not give them this satisfaction.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
10 Jan 12
As I have said to many others, they weren't doing that to hurt me. The guy was speaking in a low voice, I just happened to hear it. I got the answer that I wanted in the next response, if you are interested, check it out . . .
• India
10 Jan 12
I think they think low of you. but i say dont care about them. i had undergone this. when yu become renowned, look at them pathetically..:)
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
10 Jan 12
I don't really care about how anyone thinks of me, as I think low of myself right now. The problem is, which was the topic of my discussion, what do you think the word "ignored" meant?
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
9 Jan 12
Did he say the word ignorant as your word "ignored" doesn't really fit in with the sentence, I know how it is being shy I was very shy when I was young and people used to think I was what they used to call stand offish or even snobish but I wasn't I was just shy, so people do misunderstand people who are shy, at least you were being noticed, maybe they liked you...
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
10 Jan 12
I think what he meant by "Ignored" was that people have ignored me all through my life so I behave like that now with others. Can it be true?