do loyal friend really exist in today's life??
By sayo13
@sayo13 (414)
India
January 22, 2012 8:41am CST
people have different ways of viewing their friendship. some of them regard it as their life ,some as a means of happiness, some as the crucial support of life,etc etc.
the term "loyal" and its perception varies from person to person.in terms of normal definition its means "committed","someone who vowed to stay beside you no matter what comes up", "some one who is capable of maintaining friendship with you no matter what is situation or the circumstances".
but when it comes to personal goals, personal greed, personal desire then this loyal friend can prove to be the strongest enemy.
do loyal friend really exist??strange but yes its when you can assure that you have the right person to trust and have faith, you have the right kind of relationship , right kind of closeness and right kind of mentality to call him your "loyal friend"
loyal friend can also mean "best friend","best buddy".
13 responses
@sinagtala (29)
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23 Jan 12
Hi sayo13
Loyal friends exist. To find them, be a loyal friend first.
It is challenging to find a loyal friend with this world's rat race lifestyle. More and more everyone seem to be more suspicious of others and this strains relationships. For some friendship has become superficial, focused only on calling them friends when they have benefits. Admittedly, there are plenty of benefits from having loyal friends, but I don't see friendship only that way. Developing relationships just like having loyal friends broadens a person perception. For one you were not raised in the same roof and thus differences are expected. From these differences, one learns to be more understanding, more tolerant, more giving, more loving, more respectful and sometimes more brutally frank.
To become and have loyal friends, invest in it emotionally. Good luck!
@sayo13 (414)
• India
23 Jan 12
with my experience of i life i have been a dedicated "loyal" friend to somebody.i was always a support for her, loved her , care for her, and even gave her shelter when she had her toughest times in her life.
one day i realized that i was a big fool who let her use me for her own benefits without having a minimal respect for me that too because she was a hell lot of jealous of me , have some complexity issues which i m not aware of.
its startled me but i learnt a "big" lesson of my life.." better to have no friends than to have fake, hypocrites in your life".
@sinagtala (29)
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24 Jan 12
Hello Sayo13
I'm so sorry to hear that. That was a very painful experience indeed. I wish your old friend will soon realize her mistake and that she should say sorry to you for the pain she caused.
You know what, this world really has plenty of vultures, snakes and crocodile friends who would eat your goodness up. See good and evil exist in this world. Please don't let one painful, frustrating and emotionally torturing experience stop you from enjoying the company of good friends. They are still there. Just be patient and make the lessons you've learned from your past experience serve as your guide post.
My best wishes and good luck.
@thresholdofreality (119)
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
Loyal friends still exist in this world of ours, you can be sure of that. As long as the person cares for you and is truly concerned with regards to your welfare, you can call him a loyal friend. Like all people, friends can make mistakes, and it's not always fair to crucify them for making mistakes, or for doing something that you do not approve of. Forgiveness is important in a friendship - as a matter of fact, I would even say that it is one of the pillars of friendship - people would be lost with out.
Loyalty is hard to measure, but you feel it. If you have a friend whom you can consider loyal, you'll feel it in your gut.
@sinagtala (29)
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23 Jan 12
Hi to you two!
Plus loyal friends do not hesitate to correct you when you err, helps you to overcome it and would even guide you on your way to straighten it. Even if you made the mistake of doing the craziest thing, loyal friends respect to your friendship won't change one bit as long as there is that willingness from you to rectify the mistake. And if your friend commits a mistake you are also expected to do the same. It means therefore that for one to have loyal friends, one must first be a loyal friend. Friendship must be mutually beneficial.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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23 Sep 12
I do think that there are a few people that are loyal friends or other wise.I think that if a friend or a few friends have not been loyal, or have broken your trust, you do tend to think before you tell them things, as you think that other people are the same as they were.
For me, I do not trust anyone any more, as too many friends that I have known years have broken all truest that I had for them, reason for this is they are gossips and they thrive on it, no matter what or who they are talking about.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
Loyal friend still exist in this world. They may not be always on our side, I mean they may not be there for us every time but still they do exist at the time that we needed them. Nothing can beat a loyal friend.
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
Well, as for me.. maybe there are few who stick with you.. but sometimes if trials come your way, or a test of time will come.. that's when you know if someone will stick to you as a loyal friend.. I have a friend, we've been together for 10 years and we'll make it a point that we will see each other even twice a month, because we are both busy, but when we see each other we bond so much,..so i guess there is still someone who exists as a loyal and trusted friend.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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22 Jan 12
Well after the last few days, i will say that i have learnt that one of my friends that i thought i could trust and was not a person that would lie to me, has infact been the liar all the time in our so called friendship.I have one friend and one friend only that is a loyal friend and she lives a few miles away from me and we have been friends for 18 years.
@kaylachan (58112)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Jan 12
I do believe, that yes loyal friends can exist. It's up to the friends to percieve each other as such, but not an impossible task. They say a loyal friend is hard to find, and if you're looking for profection-- impossible. No one is perfect and prefection can't honestly exist. Therefore, the search is not as hopless as one would like to make it seem.
You create your own bounds, you decide what you consider to be loyal and not. Yes, a loyal friend does exist if you let it exist. As long as you keep your expetations reasonable and remember everyone is human and if you want a friend, you need to accept them flaws and all.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
23 Jan 12
I believe they exist, but I have to say that I don't have one. The main reason why I don't have one is because I think loyal friends are very rare these days, because everyone is so busy right now and don't have the time needed to develop a real friendship. I do have real good friends, but that person that you can count no matter what and that you can say anything, I don't have. I wish that one day I find someone like that though.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Jan 12
I believe loyal friends are out there somewhere but they are VERY hard to find. And you will have to weed out all of the bad ones to find a good one. I unfortunately have not found any loyal friends. =( But I know one day I will. I am a good person and I am a loyal friend so someday I will also find a loyal friend...
@darekmr (46)
• Mexico
23 Jan 12
yes best friends exist but its so difficult to find them that the ugly truth i fortunately found my best friend i have known him for about 10 years sometimes we have had discussions but our friendship is stronger, once we had an accident and he finished unharmed but i end up injured and what surprised me is that he helped me at all times so i believe best friend already exists
@frozenshield (73)
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
i think loyal friend will be not erase until know...because i have a lot of friends that very loyal
