forgiving the peole you hate the most
By sheliaj
@sheliaj (39)
United States
January 28, 2012 3:48pm CST
I know alot of people are angry all the time because maybe something that had happen to them when thet were a child and these were not good things. And they carry alot of anger around with them for alot of years and have alot of hate towards the world and things in it because fo it.
I just want to put my 2 cents in about what i know to be true.
people have to learn to forgive the people who have hurt them or wronged them in any way. you do not have to like them or even pretend to like them or even communicate with them. but what has to be done is forgiving them in what they did so that you may be able to walk around this world with a happy positive atitude and if you do this, you wont carry any hate around or fly off the handle at anyone else. you will like or love yourself, also you will be free of the hurt that it had caused you. who agree's with me? who likes this? and what do you think about the situation?
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9 responses
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
agree. Forgiving others is not about other people, it's about killing the hate that eating your heart. The more people you hate the more you lose your heart.
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
28 Jan 12
Should we tag this discussion easy or not easy?
We don't have to take abuse. We don't have put up with people that continue to hurt. We can defend ourselves, report them and deal with situations by reacting to them. We can let our hurts out and to learn how to forgive, over and over.
I agree 100% and well said too. We do not have to be around people that have hurt but we do need to forgive for our own benefit. We become free of all the terrible ugly when we do.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
28 Jan 12
I think if the people who have hurt you live around near you it is very hard to forgive, you say you don'r need to communicate, well I don't think that is actually forgiving them, and from what I have experienced in the past once it is seen that you have forgiven they are back in your life, I think maybe sometimes a second chance can be given butit is not easy to fotgive...
@sheliaj (39)
• United States
28 Jan 12
no, not in some cases, this is not true. i have been hurt the worst hurt a child can have. it is actually forgiving them, depending on how you yourself perseeve it and handle it. just depends on the details of how you choose to forgive. yes it is possible, it is a very long history of forgiving people you do not talk to or see. and no they are not back in your life, it is your choice if these people are back in your life or not. thanks for the info but i dont agree with what was said here. sorry.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
ah yes. to say that we forgive someone is easy. to say that we can forget eventually is rather easier said than done. I believe it is always like this but until we are in the position, we would never know what hits us and we will never really know what to do, right? we can say we have forgiven but then our actions may otherwise show we haven't done anything so...
@chan2zexy (508)
• Philippines
18 May 12
This post really helps. =) I agree with you sheliaj. I hated a person for years and all I had was heavy heart. I'm on the process of forgiving that person. Forgiveness, for me, undergoes a process too. The hurt that that person caused cannot be lifted overnight, especially if the issue is trust. The process is not easy but it'll lighten our hearts in the long run. Like love, forgiving is also a decision. I made a decision of forgiving the person, which is why I chose going through the process of forgiving, letting go of whatever that person did. But the lesson that that person brought to me by doing such act (of breaking my trust) will never be forgotten.
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
29 Jan 12
Hello sheliaj,
I don't think if i am hurt by someone in the past it would be easy for me to forgive him/her
.It depends on how much i was hurt there are something which people can't forget in their lives so imagine how can they forgive a person who caused it.practically if you would ask me i find it difficult to forgive people who would have hurt me in the past.
.It depends on how much i was hurt there are something which people can't forget in their lives so imagine how can they forgive a person who caused it.practically if you would ask me i find it difficult to forgive people who would have hurt me in the past.
@whatrow (792)
• United States
29 Jan 12
When life experiences drastically affect our live, it is impossible to say "I forgive you." and expect to lead a normal life after that. And you cannot force yourself to say the words when you really don't mean them. It just doesn't work. I know. I have tried it.
@clearwater18 (695)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
I agree with you. It may seem so hard to forgive that person at first. It may even seem impossible to do that but in the long run, we should learn to forgive them so that we'll be able to live happily without grudges in our hearts. We would not be able to live life happily if all we do is hold grudges, at some point, I guess, we have to learn how to let go.
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
I totally agree with you sheliaj. Forgiving a person once in for all will make more positive in life. And you will be at peace with yourself. Holding grudges to other people will not do good to you. It will just make your life miserable, so best way to avoid chaotic life is to forgive them. I felt so good when i forgave the person i hate the most in the entire universe. I totally forgave him with all my heart and at last, i find peace. I hope that some people would discover this. I know it's hard, but once you did it pays off. 
