I&#39;m in dilemma!! I&#39;m not sure what interest this topic fits in

celticeagle

@celticeagle (159611)

• Boise, Idaho

4 Feb 12

You don't go out of your comfort zone then?

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@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

4 Feb 12

You are going to give yourself a headache. LOL not really I think I still stick with what I know ( unless someone can prove that I was really wrong )I just wanna know others opinion about it. I think you're right the better term for those kinds of situations is Think or "having a hard time to decide" or something like that but not dilemma but again it's just my opinion.

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@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

4 Feb 12

I mean I'll stick with what I know not "I still stick.."

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girl_thinking

@girl_thinking (1959)

• Philippines

3 Feb 12

Wow, I thought I saw your profile location as USA before

.. hmm.. my eyes could have played tricked on me. I thought you are an American until now

Not looking in a dictionary, dilemma for me is used when you are NOT quite sure of the situation. It is either you are not sure if you made a right decision or what would the result of your actions be.. Now, I won't look into a dictionary, I just want to give my own opinion of the word. There are lots of things that are commonly used in a wrong way. For instance, the word salvage, we Filipinos take it as a negative word. Here we refer to it as killing. But the real meaning of the word salvage is to save or to "uplift" like to salvage a boat from the river

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@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

4 Feb 12

hi girl thinking no I am not from US

maybe it's the other bostonphil, who is from US. I think people have different opinion about certain words and sometimes we use it in different manner. I agree that there are many words that usually used in "improper" way. And yes the word "salvage" is a very good example of that, I can't even find any online dictionary that define the word salvage in a negative way, but here in our country it is already accepted as the word for "killing someone and throwing the body in a far place".

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@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

5 Feb 12

I think we, Filipinos are the ones that usually use words in another way, because we use Taglish a lot that somehow modify the meaning of some words, and we are very tolerant with this like the example you have given the word "salvage" no one will correct someone for using that word in a negative way that's why it becomes part of our vocabulary.

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girl_thinking

@girl_thinking (1959)

• Philippines

4 Feb 12

Oh yeah maybe it is bostonphil that I have seen before.. I have moved from one company to another and we have just completed English training wherein we have covered Filipinoism. They are words that we adopt but give different meaning to. There are plenty of those! Some are even already internationally accepted

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shibham

@shibham (16977)

• India

3 Feb 12

I am not in a dilemma whether to respond or not coz i have to respond. lol. Actually as far i know (English is also not my first language) dilemma means a situation where you cant decide what should do? Have a nice time.

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@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

3 Feb 12

hi shib! I know you will not be in a dilemma for responding this discussion because you can always think of how to respond to any discussion..lol! I think that's the common definition of that word for many people, but I am no sure about that let's just wait for opinions from members of English speaking countries.

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loonys

@loonys (418)

•

15 Feb 12

I was in dilemma as I'm to sleepy but I notice my friends . Back here after a few hours. see you soon.

@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

15 Feb 12

oh please comeback soon I wanna know your old username if you don't mind.. your comments in my response really makes me sooo curious..

theSids

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

3 Feb 12

Hi Phillyguy

I dont use this word instead I use Confusions or Confused. see, I love this Alphabet "C" - Coffee, Chowmein, Chocos, Confusion...

They all look so very tempting and enticing to me

See, I personally believe - the words start to lose their meaning at a stage. What is more important is to convey what you want. And if there is a wrong word which conveys the right thing... I dont hesitate using it... Like you, I too am not from an English background and so I think this adjustment will go good. In case I meet any one who is from an englsh background, s/he might feel awkward but over time, he will get me understood.

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theSids

@thesids (22180)

• Bhubaneswar, India

3 Feb 12

chowmein - indian name for noodles

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@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

3 Feb 12

oh I see, it's a general term for noodles? or a specific noodles dish? there's an instant noodle brand here in the Philippines called chow mien, yes "i" before "e" they probably base that on chow mein.

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@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

3 Feb 12

hi sids I love coffee and chocos too but I don't like getting confused ( maybe confusing other people )

and what is chowmein?? Back to the topic, I think I have to agree with you that in some instances using a wrong (uhmm or not so proper) word is okay if one can still convey what he/she's really trying to say. Especially if it's in informal conversations like talking with friends and talking in forums and discussion sites like this. I don't know I just need to share this because I really noticed this a lot.

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Bluedoll

@Bluedoll (16774)

• Canada

3 Feb 12

I’m not really sure which topical interest a dilemma discussion fits best into best but I do think writing will do. The study of lanquage is an interesting fascination, certainly. To understand English, I was going to suggest watching a movie, oh, but the title escapes me presently, later perhaps. Was it Dr Do Little, I can’t recall for certain but in the movie the main character of this musicawhy l said, “Oh, why can’t, I mean con’t, I say why con’t the English Learn How to Speak?” The movie is very entertaining and makes one think about language. My dictionary says that dilemma, is a situation involving choice between two or more evils and a difficult choice. This covers a wide area I think and like with most words interruptions can vary. I am not sure about other lanquages but it seems to me words can mean many things not necessarily specific to one meaning. A difficult choice may or may not be considered evil though being in a dilemma may seem so. I suppose it is how you define evil?

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Bluedoll

@Bluedoll (16774)

• Canada

4 Feb 12

You are right it would have been much better to simply say rather than say watch a movie. You are again correct to say that one movie is not going to make anyone improve thier use of the English lanquage. The theme of the comical musical movie and the point I should have just wrote are the same. In the movie, the main character was a teacher and a study of the English lanquage whom did ponder on these questions and meant up with another person who did not speak the English lanquage properly or at least, as he thought she should speck it. The idea of what is proper or improper it seems is a difficult question in any generation - even for the English.

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@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

3 Feb 12

is a situation involving choice between two or more evils and a difficult choice I never know that there is a definition of dilemma like this, and I agree with you that watching movies can help someone improve their understanding and use of English language but watching just one movie (may it be about language) won't help anyone to completely understand the English language. But if I have time I will look for that movie. [i]I am not sure about other lanquages but it seems to me words can mean many things not necessarily specific to one meaning [/i] it's true and language is changing from generations to generations so it's hard to consider if the "use" of certain word is improper or not. Maybe the important thing is if one is able to express himself and convey his message regardless of how he use certain words.

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enelym001

@enelym001 (8322)

• Philippines

3 Feb 12

The term dilemma becomes a very common word used by everyone now when they are confused. I am guilty of such

I sometimes used the term when me and my friends are just chatting about things. But yeah you are right, dilemma is a word used when one is finding it hard to solve a certain problem usually choosing between two alternatives. A perfect example is Nelly and Kelly's song!

?? No matter what I do, all I think about is you... Even when I'm with my boo, boy you know I'm crazy over you... ?? Okay, I just thought about this song when I read your discussion!

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enelym001

@enelym001 (8322)

• Philippines

3 Feb 12

suny, what are you talking about? sorry didn't get it. Did your friend's leave you behind to meet other friends? phil, nah not our song!

Just one of the songs I like before because of its beat

Okay why don't you and your gf come with me the next time I go there and we can eat chicken Inasal in the street and in nice restaurants there.

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@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

3 Feb 12

oh I see, that song was really popular back then..sorry I can't afford that, I am so poor

@sun yeah what is this "leaving behind" all about? maybe it's just about the song

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@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

3 Feb 12

hi mel maybe that song was one of your favorite song? or you and your bf's theme song

yeah I agree the word "dilemma" has become very popular and I think many are guilty on using that word when they talk about mere problem/s. And I am still craving for Bacolod's Chicken Inasal

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rapunzelcat

@rapunzelcat (271)

• United States

4 Feb 12

You are correct. According to dictionary.com a dilemma is a sitiuation requiring.g a choice between equally unpleasant alternatives. So it appears that the word is being used incorrectly by a lot of people! Of course most people don't go around consulting a dictionary for every single word when speaking (or blogging?) their native language. At least, I don't! On the other hand, maybe having two good alternatives and only being able to choose one SHOULD be considered a dilemma. After all, when you choose one you are giving up the other which many people may consider unpleasant, to some degree.

@phillyguy (3005)

• Philippines

7 Feb 12

After all, when you choose one you are giving up the other which many people may consider unpleasant, to some degree. but if we strictly follow the definition you provided from dictionary.com the "alternatives" or choices should both be the thing that are unpleasant and not "what you would" feel giving up on one of the good options but anyways it's just one definition from one dictionary and I think definition of words somehow depends on how people use it and what is more important is we can convey our message regardless on what way/s we use certain words.

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champoy186

@champoy186 (1638)

• Philippines

4 Feb 12

English is not my primary language too. I also found some words that are confusing me on how to use it. On what I've understand, dilemma means you are in a situation wherein you don't know what should have to do.

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