November 21, 2006 12:18am CST
I have 4 kids who are age 5 7 8 and 14. My oldest dos not get along with any of the other kids and is constantly in their business. He treats me like crap and them as well.He recently asked me to live with his dad. He has tourettes syndrome and adhd. Has depression from being teased by all the other kids at school and has had a really hard time making friends.He claims he hates me and wants to live with his father. I have just recently decided to let him live with his father because he hates it at home. I am at my weakest point right now and felt I had no choice but to try this. His dad lives in florida and I live in Michigan. I feel it necessary to try to do this for him just to see if he is happier with him. Any thoughts on this?
• United States
21 Nov 06
I can kind of relate to what you are saying. My boyfriends 14 year old son chose to leave his mothers and move in here with his father and me. I know this decision hurt her. She lets him know it all the time. Please, even though it may be hard, don't make him feel guilty about it. Just keep in touch with him the best you can and don't take it personally. Who knows, maybe he will see that the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence and he will return to you. Good luck to you.
• Marion, Kansas
21 Nov 06
My thought on this is that Florida might be a good place for him if his dad is willing to take him. It would give him a fresh start, and everyone some breathing space. You have to think about what is good for all of your children. Is his Tourettes and adhd being managed? The other thing I would say is do not close your door and your heart to him. He should know he has a place to come back to.