When someone just won't let go
By knittingpro
@knittingpro (289)
Canada
February 3, 2012 6:38pm CST
I'm sorry you are not truly happy. I thought one day you would be. That day is not here yet for you but I hope soon it is. You got married and I thought that would help change you. That didn't happen. It's almost as if you and your anger got worse. Marrying a man when you hate his kids is really hard. But this you knew but did it anyway. You pretend to love them and that's sad. I just hope the abuse has stopped. They don't deserve that. But the man seriously has issues when he knew what you were like to his kids and married you anyway.
The anniversary of your fathers death is near and I hope it's a good day for you. You had no use for him while he was living and now that he is gone it is a sympathy card for you. That's sad that you claim to have taken the loss so hard. The people in your life know this so it's only on here that you can get some attention regarding it.
The day you stop talking about me I know you are finally happy. I hope the ice melts off of you heart and you take a hard look at yourself. Be real and stop faking it. At some point take ownership of your issues that have ruined so many relationships in your life. You are always the common denominator. The world is not out to "GET YOU". You are out to get yourself. You are the reason people walk away.
I know you are in a blinding rage as you read this. Although it may sound cold, it comes from a good place. I just speak the truth in hopes a light will flicker and you will get it. Hope is all that's left. I do wish you the very best.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
4 Feb 12
Wow, Thats a tough letter to someone. I wonder how they feel reading that? Its your truth of the perception on this person. The kid thing is really hard. Step children are hard as it is. Its still so if you have a decent relationship with them. The kids will always carry the wish that their mom and dad will get back together. Now reading all of this I do want to ask you something. Do you know this persons mental stability? There are some mental illnesses that cause a lot of the things that you touched on here. Usually people are just not that way for the heck of it. Im not trying to post an out, but I really wonder what is going on in the mind of this person. There are always two sides to each story.
~C~
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
4 Feb 12
It is very tough to write your true feelings like that. But it needs to be written. Yes I do know their mental stability very well and for a long time. Walking away from this sort of person was hard but it was needed for my own well being. Their is a mental illness but it's not being treated properly. Their actions since/during treatment is gone from bad to worse and they think they are healing. They think they are the better person and they do no wrong. Will take absolutely no ownership for their actions/behaviors. Very sad if I wrote the whole story on so many incidents. This for me was a letter that states I am done. They can use this outlet to bash me and I now simply don't care. They will respond to this discussion and still not be real about anything. It will be an attack which will be obvious.
Thank you for responding in a positive light. It is appreciated.
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@ladygator (3465)
• United States
5 Feb 12
I could feel it through reading this. I am however happy for you that you got it out here and seemingly organized here. I was so sad really because when people are in this state and really in denial no one can move forward. Mental illness is tough at times, but you have to be real about it. And real about whats going on around you. I caught it because I am the one with the illness in my famiy. But I am also an example that you can make things good. It hard work at times, but if the person is invested in creating a good life then it can be. But sadly enough so often the unstable person just keeps living in a fantasy world and manipulates others. That I really dont understand. I dont see how you dont get that you are creating this wurlwind for all the people on your life. I am glad that you are moving on into a better place. And It will most likely be hard for a while and your feelings will still be raw depending on who this person is to you. But Hugs to you and those children that are also involved in this. They really shouldnt have to go through such turoil. I have always worked my best to keep things as stable and happy as I can for them. Wishing you all the best.
(ps, I wish you could teach me to knit! LOL I crochet but have not been able to learn knitting).
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
5 Feb 12
It's really tough having to step aside for your own mental health. I have suffered alot going through this with her over the years. It just gets to a point when it is very toxic and you have to move on. You know things won't change after long discussions with them regarding many issues. The biggest for me was seeing the abuse to innocent children who are powerless. She doesn't get it and that the hard part. So many people have walked away from her but yet we are the ones with the problems. I understand mental illness very well. I have suffered through depression and anxiety. The depression after many years is gone. Maybe not fully gone but I've learned how to manage it. For some it doesn't get better and I realize that and I can support it. What I can't support is someone who just makes every situation bad on purpose to create drama. I have zero tolerance regarding that. I am happy to hear you can talk about mental illness. There is no shame to the disease. Talking about it helps.
I wish you could teach me how to crochet. For some reason I can't do it at all. I have tried many times over the years and it doesn't work out!
I hope you have a great day!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
7 Feb 12
Like others have already expressed here, that is a hard letter to someone, and hopefully one day especially if they cannot see it now will wake up and realize just all that they have done. Many times it takes a rude awakening for someone to realize things and I think personally if this is to someone who have been this rough for you in your life, it is good you are choosing to get away. Personally it is a shame there are many people out there like this, and one day my Prayer would be for somehow it all to change.
