...the right to anger...
By jeanneyvonne
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
Philippines
February 5, 2012 7:42pm CST
This situation is zapping me emotionally and I really don't like it.
It started when my friend gave me a lucrative preposition and I jumped right in. It was very lucrative for my part but I get to do the legwork and the all the searching. To cut the long story short, I grew weary of my friend's demands over our exchanges in text messages. When I told him that I cannot do what he wanted, he suddenly went 'bizarre' for me.
I will admit in sending two or more angry messages (as he described it) because of his lack of consideration and effort over my situation. He did apologize for his behavior in many occasions but I feel that is a action just to keep me going in doing his 'demands.' During that time, I felt he was a bully and ignore my suggestions. He was like a Rottweiler with only one goal in mind - to make profit.
I grew frustrated and I sometimes refused to answer his texts (in fear of suddenly throwing my phone, which is not a good idea in any situation). By now, he had created an 'impression' of me (as we, his friends, already have an 'impression' of him). I don't what I feel about him anymore - I dunno if he's still a friend or should we move on to acquaintances. I don;t want to make any real time conversation when we meet centered on the 'failed' venture.
I tried to understand and reasonable , I said it before to him but perhaps he didn't understand enough.
I am certainly clueless about this situation. I thought I know what to do but that's a big mistake on my part. Any advice or previous experiences you have is appreciated.
3 responses
@trinkabelle (432)
•
6 Feb 12
he's a bully, get rid of the problem by getting rid of him, let him bully someone else, if you haven't signed any papers or contracts with him, then you can just walk away, let him throw his dolly out of the cot and have a tantrum, i detest bullies, if he is hard to work with, do not contact him any more, he is only out to get what he wants for himself and not you, so just say goodbye to him, change your number and get a new one, he's no friend, friends don't bully friends
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
I'll keep that mind but I like to give him another chance before finally letting him go. It's very hard to find a friend nowadays and perhaps I will tests for teh last time to prove if he is really my friend.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
6 Feb 12
Hi jeanneyvonne, it ok...we all make mistakes in life..You are not
the only person in this world who has stepped into a situtation
with their eyes closed...
The important thing is that you have learned a good lesson from this
experience and hope you haven't lost a friend in the process..But if
by not being a fall guy for him you have lost a friend in the process
then whatever, how good of a friend was he if he fail to understand
the position you were face with by not knowing exactly what you were
suppose to be doing.
He should come around if he is a real friend...he may be upset that
you did not stick to your end of the plan but if he dosen't then he
is an ex friend and let it be...don't kiss his butt because I am
sure he will not kiss yours...
Just wait to see what time brings about...
Good luck..keep your head up and next time don't be so hasty to jump
into a situtation you are not familar with...piece of advise.......
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
We're in the process of 'renegotiation' but I hope to the best that he comes around to his senses. I think that he has his problems of his own but it isn't justifiable to put that into our context. I just hope he has a clear mind when we talk again.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi there! You are indeed in a difficult situation - torn between friendship and your feelings. It depends how did you consider him as friend. Is he really close to you or just a friend because of work etc. If you think he is a close friend why not talk to him about what you feel. If not, you can just put a distance between you and him to avoid any unwanted incidence.
you know, we have different types of friends. Like in case of me, I have friends from college, from my work, from our place. But not all of them are really close to me. You can have friends at work. You consider them friends but on their side you are not there friend. so try to figure out if that friends of yours deserve the friendship you have. :)
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
He's pretty a close fiords. We been in school together and shared some very intense times together. I already talk to him and I'm giving some space to think some things through and over. I don;t want to lose his friendship but as well as my money. It's a very long shot but its still possible to aim for both. I'm keeping my finbgers crossed.
