People who never listen.
February 9, 2012 2:16pm CST
I took a break from my writing for 5 minutes. This guy that I do not like and cannot stand asked me out. I told him that I am seeing someone and he still would not listen. He gave me his phone number and told me to call. I threw his phone number out. I don't date outside my race. This guy is a total jerk from the first time I had a very bad encounter with him. I am not racist. People who are jerks and cannot take no for an answer for anything no one needs at all in their life. Tomorrow on I will be going to different libraries since people who persist when they need to stop and walk away and let the person they are harassing be. I do have friends that are black. Also people who make sexist comments will be dealt with. This guy made a sexist comment to me. I will not be seeing him ignorant self centered behind ever again!
• South Africa
10 Feb 12
Okay, am I the only one slightly offended by this post? First you say 'you do not date outside your race'. Really? I mean, really. You actually write about that? Then two sentences later you say the, by now cliche line, 'I am not a racist'. Oh, then it gets better when you say three sentences later "I do have friends that are black". Maybe I did not understand this discussion...not listening maybe? I wish I never read this thread but I had to comment.
• South Africa
10 Feb 12
I only read your discussion because of it's title...I could not stop mid-sentence, I watch bad movies til the end sometimes out of morbid curiosity...maybe hopeful that it will improve? Only very seldom though. From now onwards I know not to read your work as we are clearly very different. The power of choice, as you so aptly pointed out. Choice is a wonderful thing...a feedback mechanism. And you are right, someone swearing at you is not right either but all races do that. Anyway, we can just agree to disagree and I promise never to read or comment again on your writing.
10 Feb 12
HELLO, MY FRIEND, According to my experience as lady, i have seen a lot of guy ,with diff behavior, some think ,that because of their beauty they speak anyhow to ladies of people , and some think some because of the son of who they are, they can do anything and go a way with it, and some think ,because of the wealthy they have in life they are free to do anything around the world, But my friend, they are a lot of them out side, but let leaf for u to choose out of them, But before u choose,these are guide line to life; 1, Do u love for money only, if yes, then ,it two things, money for good or money for bad, money for good because u come from poor background, then ,i agree u are right, but still work hard on your own om, but , money for bad , u are from average family who are OK in life not too wealth not at list your family is up right in life, then , u are a thief, i am sorry, if i sound nasty. 2, Your case, they are some guys who we ladies think will love so much love but are our devil or emin and those one who will think we can stand happen to be our close friend and not just friend but our love ones. Please my dear friend give him a chance and get to know him very well , and alone no kissing , loving making but just friendship then you should be able to take your next step from there.
• United States
9 Feb 12
Some guys just think if they are persistant they will catch a chance. Guys like that need someone (like a drill sargent type) that can belittle them till they have little self confidence/esteem so they can learn they are not all that and a bag of chips. If you show him that it bothers you though he could be doing it just to get a rise out of you which in turn is a form of control. Dont let him know it bothers you. Get back at him. Tell him in a calm maybe even smiling or laughing way that you would never date his kind(high ego/pride) and even make fun of him a little bit. Have fun with it instead of getting upset. That is if you see him again. You could also get the person your seeing to go up to him.LOL. Good Luck and I hope he starts leaving you alone.
9 Feb 12
This has happened to me too. What made it worse was that the chick was really drunk and like 20 years older than me... I was at a bar and she came to sit next to me, she asked is the seat free and I said yes it is you may sit there. Then she started to ask me to the dancefloor and I kept saying no thank you I dont like dancing. She just kept asking and asking but I didnt go. Next she comes closer to me and asks if I want to leave for her place, I said politely "No thank you, I am not single". But she still kept asking. That is when I decided its better to go home. It was really annoying and uncomfortable situation and I never want to get to one again.
10 Feb 12
How did you come into contact with him?If you don't like him, just tell him how you feel about him. He still insisted that he needed you, I guess there is something wrong in his mind. I remember loving someone, but when I knew didn't have the same feeling, I withdrew myself and left her.