Angry With A Person Just By Her/His Presence

Philippines
February 19, 2012 8:03am CST
I have a friend who gets pissed when she sees a girl. She doesn't even know the name of that girl yet she felt that way. Maybe there is something in the aura or the way that girl looks and acts that made my friend feels that way. One time I ask her about that girl and she said that the mere presence of that girl makes her feel uncomfortable. I don't know why it is possible for a person to hate a complete stranger. Do you have any experiences like this?
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@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
That happened also to me. There are complete strangers that makes me feel uncomfy, and uneasy. It's not about insecurity. Just a feeling of I DON'T KNOW.
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@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
19 Feb 12
i've experienced being the one that hated by a stranger and i just responded by not talking to them. It was in high school, some kid from other class suddenly hate me for no reason. i've just met him and i don't know him but i know his friend. First i notice that he looked at me with a mad face, then my friend told me that he hate me, but when my friend ask why, the guy told him that he didn't know why, he just hate my presence.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Yes, but maybe for me it's only first impression or sometimes you saw from her the personality that you hated. A girl who lives across the street irritates me every time I saw her I turn my back on her. But one time she saw my flowers in my garden and she ask me what's the name of the flower. And we started a conversation after she leaves then I finally realize she is a nice girl only my first impression from her that irritates me.
• United States
19 Feb 12
That is really weird, i have never heard anything like this ever in my life. You have to get to know someone first before you can even say you dont like them or you hate them. Its just not right to judge someone on there own apperiance like saying you cant judge a book by its cover. In life you have to give chances to like someone before even saying i dont like them. Its life and its also called giving respect to others and you want to recieve respect back from others.
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@heartbit (237)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
i have an attitude like this. i dont know why and i cant explain. i had this classmate, she isnt doing anything to me personally but i always find something wrong in things she do and say. i tend to contradict her in class discussions. other than that, i dont get near her so i couldnt show her my bad feelings.
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@yy0501 (54)
• China
19 Feb 12
One of my colleagues is a young girl, born in 1992, when I met her last month for the first time, she makes me feel uncomfortable, I can't say that I hate her, but I don't like her, she got so arogant attitude, she's rude and implite.
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Well your friend has some misunderstanding with the other girl you both meet.It maybe that your friend has spotted a bad emotional facial expression from the girl she have encountered before that is why she was deeply affected by the bad gesture according to her taste.
@mdorki (125)
• Germany
19 Feb 12
I have a similar thing about 2 reporters - one man and one woman. I never met them and do not know them, but I get very annoyed everytime I see or hear them on TV. I think it is the way they talk and look. Although, it may have something to do with the fact that they look confident in their own professionalism while their work, lots of mistakes and impolite behavior towards people they interview paint an entirely different picture.
• United States
20 Feb 12
I think your friend should look into herself for the answer. She has no logical reason to get angry seeing someone she doesn't even know. She may see something in this person that she doesn't like because she, herself has the trait. We often don't like in others what we don't like in ourselves. Especially, when you don't even know them and haven't done anything to you.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
i can sometimes feel this way just by the behavior or character of that person..even a complete stranger that can make us feel pissed off whenever they around..maybe the person's behavior is irritating in a way, they he or she talks and carries him or herself that can bring about irritation to us..that could be the feelings of your friend why she can sometimes feel this way towards other people..
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
20 Feb 12
I have this experience too. There are people who irritate me, even if I never talked to them. They usually remind me of others who hated me or who we had serious conflicts with. I hate this feeling because it's like judging someone by appearance, while they might have a great personality, it's just hard to do anything about it (except for getting to know them and and convincing myself that I was wrong, it sometimes works, sometimes not).
@Leocen (178)
• China
19 Feb 12
maybe that's not hate a stranger,it's just don't like her appearance that made her remind of something bad. maybe out of her presence,your friend could find what her inner would be like,,,and that pissed your friend. it's also very common...
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20 Feb 12
it could be a number of things, jealousy, intimidation, ignorance or maybe your friend just doesn't like people in general, you never get to know what a person is like until you get to know them, just by looking at someone cannot determine if that person is good or bad, maybe your friend has a problem with him/herself, who knows, the person your friend doesn't like may not like your friend and that's why he/she is getting bad vibes from the other person