How do you keep the spice?

United States
February 20, 2012 2:48pm CST
For those of us who have been in long term relationships a lot us know the beginning is the best part. But after being with someone for so long sometimes its like the same routine over and over again and then for some it gets boring which can lead to infidelity. Some of my friends make sure to have a date night once a month so they can kind of reconnect no matter what has been going on just to keep that spark alive. Do you do anything with your mate so things do not get boring?
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@sarah245 (20)
• Jamaica
22 Feb 12
In order to keep the spice in a relationship the couple will have to be appreciative of each other and keep doing the things that got you interested in the first place.Keep love making hot at all times,take special time out no matter how hard your schedule is. Do things spontaneously.You will have to be the one to spice it up nobody can do it for you.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
21 Feb 12
I agree it is important to keep the spark alive. I think it's a good thing to have a date night. We try to go to the movies and out to eat for date night. If we can't afford to do something like that then we try and go over families and spend time with them. It does help a relationship tremendously. If a couple doesn't spend time together and really talk then the relationship can fall apart quickly.
@kheydia (883)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
IT is really true that being in a routine in a relationship specially in husband and wife will become so boring and cause infidelity to some or divorce if they don't take care of their relationship, maybe one thing of help will be the continues courtship regular date and anything in your imaginations to make your relationship feel like its still the first day.
@airasheila (5459)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
A pleasant day Flirtykumquat, With reference to your topic discussion, adding spice into a relationship is really important. as you have said, that, it will be somehow boring if there is no added spice onto it. another thing, you will just find it like a routine task. as there will be no new things to discuss on. same as, there is not interesting thing to ponder. with my relationship, i really cannot determine how we keep and adding the spice but, it is just automatically arises. sometimes, we are both surprise that we are already talking and discussing a new topic. as in we never planned to talk about it. there are times, we tend to just go out and do a coffee outside then it will lead into a small dinner date wherein, we never plan it to have. these things which we do are those things that add spice into our relationship the reason why we never feel bored.
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Yes. By giving each other a vacation and space. Not seeing everyday, or just to talk 2 hours a day, will make us feeling, missing each other. And it turns good, we've been together and we are not bored. We love each other a lot. Keeping the spice in a relationship is hard if other party is not participating and not willing to work things out.
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
my partner and i loved to hangout with our child every weekend. we spend most of our time with our child every weekend since we both(my partner) is working.
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
To feel it not boring,well i would rather say that never meet or go together with ur partner so that not boring...Just go dating ones in a month...B y that u feel u want more to be with him.
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
spices??? when t comes to food i love them most of the time. but when it comes to spicing a relationship, i am a little bit shy. since, i a most introvert type. i keep most of my feelings secret but when it comes to mutual feelings. try to keep and let it get away. too much spice n the long run, makes a partner get bored. n some instance, lack of spices makes the partner felt withdrawn. i suppose to be keep it in a balance.
• United States
21 Feb 12
Well me and Tim as you know try to go out to dinner on the weekend if we can afford it of course, We also like to go shopping together and cook dinner together as well. Doing things together is great and it helps out eachother as well. Of course the begining of our relatinshpi was great and i wont ever forget it at all becasue at that time i didnt have a job and we were really stuck to each other alot and not that i have a job i just try to get the day going by fat so i can run home and talk to him and see what his day was about since he doesnt work but then again you know he doesnt work. We try to never be bored by going to Miami Heat Games or Disney or getting out of town.
• Jacksonville, Florida
20 Feb 12
When my husband and I have money we go on date nights once a week. It definitely helps you to remember why you fell in love to begin with. When we do not have money to do anything, we put the kids to bed early and play card games together or any kind of board games and we have snacks and just enjoy each other. =) We have been married for 7 years, together 8 years and this has helped us keep our love alive. I think it is very important to do this because life and stress gets in the way of love so often.
• United States
20 Feb 12
I am within two ears of being with adrian. I see to it that we find time to just lay up and talk. We always fine someplace to go even if we don't spend any money. I cook food he loves to eat and he tells me how good it was. I share with him how I am feeling about things when it is good and bad. For the long term I think we focus more on communication and it works out lovely.