Can one wrong decision change your life forever? What would you do about it?
By Vvance
@Vvance (280)
United States
March 2, 2012 8:26am CST
Hi everyone!!
Someone very close to me is in a bit of a conundrum. After high school, he had decided to take a certain career which he thought was most suitable for him. However, he talked to his parents about it, and they felt differently. They thought his choice was one that was very unsafe and impractical. They managed to convince him to pick another career, one which they believed was very well-paying and stable. However, the boy soon realized that this wasn't what he wanted to do with his life. He decided to quit college and start over. He told his parents about his decision, but was once again overruled. His parents had invested quite a large amount of money in the course, and were unwilling to risk losing it. Moreover, they argued that the boy could do whatever he wanted after completing the first course(the one they forced him into). The boy, on the other hand, feels that this is a tremendous waste of his time and effort. He asked me for advice, but he had already tried everything I suggested to him. He is confident that he will be successful if he takes up the career he likes, but doesn't want to waste several years of his life on the course his parents forced him into. What do you think he should do? Any suggestions? It could affect his life forever.
6 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
2 Mar 12
He should probably finish the course.Since they have invested a lot of money it to it. Don't want it to go to waste. Then he can do what he likes. If I were him that's what I would do. I hope it all works out for him.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
6 Mar 12
I really don't think it's unfair. If they are paying no matter what he takes then he should be willling to take what they ask. And they have agreed that he can take whatever he wants after that time period. Going to college isn't cheap and they are doing right by him and they are being fair. If anything I would say he's being unfair if he really can't see all the money that they have put into his education.
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
3 Mar 12
In my opinion sometimes a wrong decision can change one's life forever.for example if you choose a major that you don't like so much when you go to college and you have no opportunity to change this ,you are obliged to study it,in which case you will have no passion in it and you will learn little.And this will have a bad influence on your life.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
its a difficult situation and he must weigh the disadvantages and advantages. they say your parents know the best for you but that does not apply always. he should follow what he really desire, why? because it will be his life after all. to be able to be successful you should enjoy what you are doing. yes he might get rich one day by following his parents' desire but what is the prize? his happiness right? success is not a measure of quantity but rather quality of what you have. hope he will have the best decision. please extend my good luck to him and tell him to pray always for God's guidance.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
Yes, No, Maybe. It depends on how he will view that decision he made. I can probably relate in his situation. I took up a degree wherein I didn't know if this would make me happy. I had finished my studies and I'm looking forward to work in the profession that I didn't love. My heart is not in this degree but I will gave it a try maybe I can fell in love with it.
If he doesn't like the course he gets, he must follow his parents advice and at the point where he had earned a degree he can go back to school and start all over again.
@Vvance (280)
• United States
2 Mar 12
Thanks for your useful opinion. I will pass on the message. Please do let me know how it all works out for you as well. Perhaps he should try to emulate you, and learn to love what he is doing. I'll try and make him understand that. Thanks again for your comment !! I really appreciate it!!
@madonna2012 (62)
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
hello,
your friend is lucky to know what career he wants. i suggest he should pray, then he should talk to his parents one last time and make sure to look straight in his parents eyes with conviction in his voice and make sure to stand his grounds. also to tell his parents he loves and respect them, that he understand they only wanted what is best for him, but he have to ask for forgiveness and their understanding that he have to disobey them to pursue his own choice, but it would be great to have their blessings. if they are still adamant, he should be ready to stand on his own two feet. and be ready to stand firm when problems and trials may arise and if ever he fail to his chosen path, he can blame nobody but himself. at least he tried. in my opinion there is no such things as stable jobs nowadays. lastly, whatever decision he makes, it will have an impact on his future.
@Vvance (280)
• United States
2 Mar 12
Hi Madonna2012,
Thank you for your comments. I can see that you have really considered the situation before commenting... and thank you for that. Well, he already has argued with them several times. However, I will share your kind thoughts with him, and see how it all works out. Thanks again for your wonderful advice :).
@revtee4ever (30)
• India
3 Mar 12
Yah. Many times a single decision which seems to be right to others/ourselves often turn out to be exhaustive! I am really feeling bad for your friend but the situation where he is in is very complex. He can stand out in both ways and in both ways he has to prove himself first. That would really be tough. But I think if he is enough passionate about the option he wants, I'm sure he would shine! So I would suggest him to start afresh because Life seldom gives us options! When he is having one lets not waste time!!!! I hope he does well :)
