friend who not keep their promise

@TheIzers (680)
March 3, 2012 7:33pm CST
My Friend keep calling and saying that she wants to visit me it's been the fourth time but she's never show up. Should I still consider her as a friend??
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@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
4 Mar 12
Yes I do,he/she will be a friend to me unless they do anything bad to me that will takes me a long time to forgive and forget.I think that always happen,I do understand them caused maybe there are some reasons why do they don't show up.I will just wait them to show up unexpectedly.At least they remember and plan to visit me once in awhile despite of busy life we have.
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@TheIzers (680)
4 Mar 12
thanks you are right
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
4 Mar 12
Yes of of course being a friend to her you must be considerate, that's what friends are for. Maybe your should be the one who will adjust on the situation if she promised you that she will visit you don't expect too much since you know her very well. There are friends that has many attitudes but if you accept her to be like that you can't change her, but you have to tell her too what are the things you don't want about her attitude but it doesn't mean you did not like her to be your friend. If you are true to her do the best that you can to make her realize that she is not right for breaking her promises.
@TheIzers (680)
4 Mar 12
Thanks I would ask her the reason next time she call
• Malaysia
4 Mar 12
maybe she is has something to do or what? just calm down your mind first. it is not easier to get a friend that would like to visit you. maybe she really meet with some matter and couldn't go to visit you on time. =)
@TheIzers (680)
4 Mar 12
that's true... especially here at state people always busy working, it's really not easy to get friend who wants to visit.
• India
4 Mar 12
Yes definately should you still consider as a friend. Because har ek friend zaruri hota hai.
• India
4 Mar 12
It's mean every friends are important to our lifes.
@TheIzers (680)
4 Mar 12
what does it mean "har ek friend zaruri hota hai"?
• United States
4 Mar 12
This is annoying, but I have to ask, does this person actually make plans, like set a time and date for it and then never show, or is she simply saying she would like to come visit you and then it never comes about? I would still consider her a friend, she hasn't actually done anything bad to you. Sure it's irritating if she's standing you up, but it's not the end of the world.
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• Canada
4 Mar 12
I would still consider them a friend. Sometimes things come up and people can't always make the appointments they set up. If they are saying they are coming and just plain don't show up, without explanation or cause then I would start to ask questions. As long as you both share respect for each other I wouldn't cut the friendship ties.
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@TheIzers (680)
4 Mar 12
that's right sometimes things come up, stuff happen so I guess I just have tobe patience with her.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
4 Mar 12
This happens to me all the time, I don't know why people make promises and not keep them, I think a lot of people just prefer to have everyone comes to them.
@TheIzers (680)
4 Mar 12
usually whenever she promises visiting me she always does. But this last four weekend she just not showed up
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
5 Mar 12
I would still consider her a friend. But if she keep doing that, I'll definitely give her a call and 'talk'. I spend my time waiting when I could be doing something at that time. Plus if she really can't show up, a phone call wouldn't hurt. She can call earlier to tell me she's coming, why can't she call me she's cancelling it?
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
6 Mar 12
It does sadden me when people do not keep their promises. And I would be wondering if this person would be a friend as we thought they were as well. There would most certainly be a seed of doubt, about the lack of trust, about whether or not they are someone who you would confide in, where you would trust them time and time again. Once trust is broken, it is just something that is hard to get back. To me, a promise is a rather important vow to make. Which is why I do not make them. Unless of course there is just something that I know I am going to keep, beyond a shadow of a doubt, without any complications. Which you can never tell, which is why I rarely make promises. Some people throw around the p-word a little bit fast and loose and thus it does lead to far more issues than you would imagine.
• United States
4 Mar 12
I would still consider her a friend. She has not done anything to stab you in the back. True friends are once in a lifetime. If you can still talk to her when you need to then I would be patient.
@TheIzers (680)
4 Mar 12
that's right because I had a friend who did stabbed me in my back and running with my $4000 very upsetting
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
4 Mar 12
dont vist without seeing her. many in the world you will get once.