Is being angry all the time will be prone to aging?

@cearn25 (3460)
Philippines
March 7, 2012 12:13pm CST
I am afraid that if I will be always get mad or sad, I will get old. That is what I always hear from people. I can't help myself to be angry if ever there are things which will occur I don't like or when there are situations which requires the feeling of anger. For instance, we are always end up fighting with my boyfriend even though it is just normal. There is no week we don't fight. Though at the end of the day we become okay. Hello mylotters! Can you clear up my mind about this? Thank you so much!
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@flamez3r0 (319)
• Puerto Rico
7 Mar 12
My personal experience was the opposite. When I was younger I was easier to anger, but with time it's been harder and harder for me to get angry at things. But I know that everyone is different, so maybe that doesn't apply to others. What I can tell you however is that you cannot get older by getting angry. Anger is a natural response to the environment, and while some people believe it releases poisons in the body, I think it's normal to get angry. It let others know what things you don't tolerate, and stating that line is the most important thing in any type of relationship.
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@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
Thank you for sharing your own experience my friend. Anger is just normal like you have said. It is just a common thing that a normal person does. So, it doesn't have any connection totally with aging. But sometimes we have to control ourselves.
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@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
being always angry and mad does no good to anyone. it is okay to get those feelings of anger released once in a while but we have to control them otherwise it only makes us age more quickly, and can even trigger heart attacks, or any disease.. even cancer!
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@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
Really? Is that true? I must stop worrying things from now. If I worry, I have to let it go and accept it. Yes, you are right. I must release it.
• India
8 Mar 12
People who are angry will end up in leading a frustrated life that affects their outlook and look like they are more aged than they actually are. Those who take things lightly and smile always are more beautiful and approachable. It's all about understanding others and trying to adjust with them showing a bit of patience.
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@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
I liked your second sentence my friend. I must grab it because it is nice to have a life wherein we always take things not that serious and often smile. Life is beautiful that we must not be frustrated with our life. Thanks my friend.
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
Take things lightly. We get angry because we let ourselves to. I used to be so angry, small things like traffic upsets me for almost the entire day. Until I had this huge fight with a close friend. It made me closer to godliness...Understanding, forgiveness, love..things like that. From then on, I've learned to appreciate my true friends, the good things about them, the good things that surrounds me. I overlooked the negatives. I didn't even have time to pay attention to them because I feel happy about the things that are beautiful, things that make me happy. It's a process really. Just start appreciating little beautiful things like the message that you receive from a friend. A stranger who give up his seat for you, a sunny day, a handsome stranger that you passes by, a hello from your boyfriend...those things,smile at them. If you're not getting any good vibes then find one. Turn the annoying events into a big joke...laugh at yourself being so short tempered. Laugh at yourself when you're overreacting. Make a silly face in front of the mirror. Grab a camcorder and record yourself getting frustrated. Tickle your friends, prank them. Be silly. Have fun! Many of the people that I encounter would guess I'm 22, but I'm already 27. I don't know if it's me being funny all the time that makes me look way younger, or is it just I'm blessed. LOL!
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@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
Maybe I get angry easily because I am kind of pressure with my studies and with my love life and family life. There have been so many things which brought a big impact to me. No matter how I take them lightly, I can't help myself to burst my anger and express it. I also had a huge fight with a very close friend of mine. That was long ago. I have already moved on. I learned a lot from that experience. I have proven to myself that I can deal with it. Thank you my friend for giving me pieces of advises. I am going this process of letting myself appreciate those big and little things in life. I believe I will be able to surpass this. I just have to take time. I am also 20 years old but other people would see me like a 15 years old.
@marie2052 (3697)
• United States
7 Mar 12
Hi cearn25. I think you answered part of your own questions. if you are always fighting and angry with your boyfriend, maybe the relationship is not all that good and you need to consider making a life change for you. you might be amazed how well you will feel once you start making decisions and taking control of your own life. My husband comes home and controls the livingroom every evening. I could fight with him but instead I do me time in my bedroom with the bedroom TV and laptop and either knit or cross stitch. Works for me. Now if other things anger you, you need to figure out why you are stressing out so much over these things. Write down a list. Pros and cons of why something or someone angers you then figure out what YOU can do for yourself to switch things around in your mood and lifestyle to not feel that anger. Please balance out your lifestyle. Even watching an old classic comedy or an old cartoon that makes you laugh or going to see a movie just be you. Don't let anyone or your anger keep you from being yourself and being happy.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
Did I? In the case with my boyfriend, I have noticed that we always fight. As in every week. After a week, we are okay and then there it goes again. But now I am not taking it seriously and to the heart. I don't want to be angry anymore. It hurts me inside and out. Yes, I am doing ways in order for me to be happy. I talk to my friends, watch television or movies and read my favorite books.
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• Philippines
28 Apr 12
angry - being angry all the time makes you look older
I always read this in magazines and books. And in my opinion, it's is true. I see a lot of old-looking people that are always mad and I get surprised that they're actually younger than I thought. So I think it's true.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
17 May 12
I think so my friend. Base on science also that when one always gets angry, it is bad for him or her because the body will react to it. So keep smiling!
@shibham (17022)
• India
10 Mar 12
hi cearn... I seldom get angry. Usually i am a very peaceful guy and always stay being silent and speak less but.... yes, but if there is something going wrong around me, then i blast and that time i dont care who is there or what is the situation? Are there police around or not? have a nice time.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
That is so nice of you. Maybe you didn't have much problem to worry about. Anyway, I am also a very silent person. I only speak when I am asked to. I am also a shy person. Introvert. Have a nice time too my friend!
@KOSTAS499 (1625)
• Greece
9 Mar 12
I believe our character is not affected by age. We stay the same, though wiser through the years. One thing I have noticed is that some people, not all, lose their patience when old.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
It depends on how we manage our character. There are times we are pushed by our emotions which are inclined to other factors. That is also what I observed to older people. Maybe we just have to accept it.
@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
8 Mar 12
hello cearn25.........getting angry is common and there must be many more like you and me who just cannot tolerate anything that does not agree with them and immediately change the mood. I have found an easy way to get over this weakness of mine. As soon as I feel that I am going to loose control on my patience and start getting angry , I change my place with the opposite person. Like when you start arguing with your boy friend, think that you are in his place .....and then you will immediately cool down....and you will smile and say "oh...situation is not as bad as I was thinking" and you will let go many things and relax...try this .....it helps me....hope it will help you too.....IN any case anger is not good, because when we are angry we say some rude words, which leave effects that cannot be erased later , no matter how friendly you become again. It is better to learn to control our anger...keep trying ...as nothing is impossible......Best of luck.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
When I get angry, I don't mind others. I want to let it out because I don't want to just leave it right there. I speak up. But somehow I get tired being angry. I want peace also. That is why I find way to make it right. I will try what you have said my friend. I hope it works. Good luck to me. And thank you.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
8 Mar 12
The control of emotions have a considerable impact on the process of human ageing. With the advancement of age most old people are bound to burst out in anger even at most silly events. It might cause the speeding up of the ageing process. Calmness,sobriety,peacefulness,graciousness are all virtues ti imbibe fully into ourselves.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
You are definitely correct my friend. I believe anger and if it is continuous can lead be somewhat be the one of the cause for aging. Even if we don't expect it, it will come to us if we will not control ourselves. We need inner peace to ourselves and learn to value silence.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
8 Mar 12
Who says so? haha It's better to let go of your frustrations, anger when u are feeling so instead of keeping it bottled up. The more we try to suppress our feelings, the more stressed up we will be. When that happens, it's not good for us and we might even aged more! In order not to age faster, the secret is to be happy, careful. So isn't better to be angry for the short moment, than to keep all the unhappiness, pretending to be alright in the long run? haha
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
I have learned in my Personality Development class how to pursue our happiness. Although there are a lot of things which we will be going through, if we will just persevere enough to achieve this. I don't to have a live with full of anger and stress. I want a life full of happiness. You are right. The secret is to be happy and cheerful. I am leading that kind of life now.
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• United States
7 Mar 12
well, I think that if you get older your start to get crankier. Most young people dont get cranky as much as old people. Therefor, old people being angry alot is just aging.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
Maybe you are right my friend. Thank you and have fun.