Elicit Affair

Philippines
March 10, 2012 7:03am CST
I caught my sister in law having an elicit affair with another man through the cellphone. She borrowed the phone of my sister to communicate with her man without deleting the her messages in the sent items. I planned to confront her alone but she refused to. We talked about it in the living room where all of our family members heard about it. My brother, her husband, got mad at her. I felt so guilty then, on the other hand, I can't afford to see my brother being fooled behind his back. He is such a very good big brother to me, a good friend as well. The last time I went home, I saw her together with their kids and somehow I was glad. I thought they're already okey. Minutes ago, I chatted with her sister (who also condemned her actions)and she informed me that my brother's wife is living in with another man! My heart bled, and is still bleeding for my beloved brother... Imagine, she took the 13th month pay and the bonuses last December, only to find out she would do another immoral act! I really don't know what to do with her if I'll see her again....
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12 responses
@bluespygirl (2113)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Hello ABCL2012! This so much the same as my topic titled friends with benefits. A girlfriend shared to me that she is having an affair with a married man. This girlfriend of mine is also married! I think you did the right thing confronting her. I just hope you did it when you two are alone. Anyway, good thing you have the courage to do that. I hope all is well now.
@surfer222 (1717)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 12
Sorry to hear that... i think you should encourage your brother to divorce her before he lose faith in marriage and relationship. Tell him that there are many good women out there, he doesn't have to stay with a bad person. Because i think if someday he lose faith in relationship, he probably will not be the good brother you know now, he could turn into totally different person.
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@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
10 Mar 12
I'm sorry to hear that. That is so awful. It is a good thing that your brother knows about it though. It would have been worse if it would have been longer before he found out. I hope that soon he will be able to get through this and move on with his life. I hope he will be able to find someone who is faithful to him.
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• Philippines
10 Mar 12
Although I think karma will be the one to punish her but she should be confronted in her actions. Your brother must do something and settle it right away. They have kids and if anything happens, their children will surely be affected. Just continue to pray and god bless.
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@beamer88 (4271)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
Try to avoid her as much as possible. We tend to do things that we might regret when our emotions are high. Since you brother already knows about his wife's illicit affair, it's now something the two of them would have to settle. Even if you're his sister, it's still a husband and wife issue. I know you're probably enraged about this. I would feel the same too if this happened to any of my siblings, but I guess one thing you could do is just be there for your brother. If you're affected by this, what more is your brother.
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@Ghajini (776)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
That is really saddening :(. I really understand what you are feeling because it really hurts when you find out that someone you love is being hurt by someone. However, I guess this is indeed reality, there are no perfect relationships but it's really sad that their innocent children will suffer due to woman's wrong action. I think you and your family should be there for your brother, he really needs all the support that he can get during this very tough time. As a man, I can't imagine my future wife cheating on me... it would really hurt me a lot.
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@prinzcy (3068)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 12
As much as you want feel sorry for your brother, you already intervene and everyone knows about the affair. There's not much that you can do. It's something your brother and her need to work it out to solve it. Since it will be awkward meeting her, it's best to avoid her.
@yanzalong (4818)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 12
Your brother has to make a decision about her. He's the head of a family and if he lets his wife carry on with another man, this would in the long run ruin the family. If a wife has no respect to her husband, this is already too much. give her two choices--stay or leave.
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
pray.. pray a lot that your sister in law will soon receive her karma.. I'm not in good terms with my sister in law as well.. my heart goes with you..
@ardoy0731 (6867)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
That's really bad.People are really not content of what they have and still looking for something.Having elicit affair is really immoral.Separation like this always affect the kids so much.I hope your brother will be okay.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
How evil of her yet she is a married woman. How can she have done such act of betrayal to her husband and kids. I am really against those kind of people who breaks the family. They are such a cheater.
@chicgale (2983)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
I can relate in your situation. Your sister in law will pay for it someday. I believe in karma. Just pray for your brother that he will be ok. I am sure someday that your sister will realize on what she did to your brother.