im so confused!

Philippines
March 11, 2012 11:12am CST
my boyfriend will be going to Dubai this coming may. i don't know how to react or what to say. He said he will be staying there for 2 years and for good. He told me to wait for him because he will come back and marry me but i don't want to expect too much because i don't wanna get hurt. this is my first time to have a long distance relationship. Does it really work? I'm really confused.
2 responses
@crystal11 (158)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 12
In my opinion, long distance relationships are risky. If he is asking you to wait, why don't the both of you get engaged before he leaves? At least there's some level of commitment between the two of you. Is he going to work there?
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
yes he's going to work there for 2 years. yeah i agree, it's very risky and i'm afraid of what will happened for our future.
• Malaysia
12 Mar 12
2 years is a long time and as you said, things can happen that may affect your relationship. The most important thing is faith and trust in each other. You know your boyfriend pretty well? You know his past and his character? Another important question is how well do you know yourself? If there is doubt, then perhaps you should not commit to each other. If after the 2 years and both of you are still single, and both still feel the same about each other, then you know that you are made for each other. That's just my opinion.
@berting600 (3461)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Have faith on his strong will to come back and marry you.As long as you have trust and love to your boyfriend you will be married at the right time as he promised you.
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
i trust him but i'm afraid what if i'll be waiting for nothing. we can't predict the future..that makes me sad.
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• Philippines
12 Mar 12
Be optimistic about your future with this guy because if you really love him all your doubts would be erase.Give him time to create security in your financial assets so that what he promise you would be fulfilled when he returns.If you keep on insisting your doubts and do not give him a chance to prove his worthiness towards you there would come a time that could make you sorry for your decisions because he have found another love to someone more desirable to his love just only intended for you.Make a decision that is good for both of your future as he have shown to you but you are just lukewarm,so instead of turning his plans down give him some encouragement so that he can also felt your love to him and that all his plans can be shared with your concern.