Is consistency too much to ask for?
By didi13
@didi13 (2926)
Romania
March 16, 2012 6:44am CST
I am puzzled be people and how they choose to act. It’s so puzzling at times! There’s a constant lack of consistency in their attitude, their words, their tone. Is it too much to ask for less swings? I mean, it’s not like feelings change like that from an hour to the next. It’s not like we want to spend time with someone now, to no longer want it 30 minutes later, to then want it again, if they give us an extra 15 minutes.
I feel it all comes from fear. I’ve been too nice, too friendly, too reveling of how I actually feel. My guard is down, I could get hurt, so why not pull away from it all. Just a short break; act all weird and obnoxious for a few days. Or even less. Then I can resume my formerly pleasant persona!
While I do understand why it happens, how and what to do about it, sometimes I just feel we’re wasting our time with nonsense. As Frank Herbert very well explained in Dune, fear is the mind killer. It also kills our spirit, our ability to hope and to try again.
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6 responses
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
As you've said on your other discussion, you should stop analyzing things.
Just say "Wow, really?".
Just say "Wow, really?".
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
18 Mar 12
I know exactly what you mean, I live with three people who have been known to have mood swings like that, but especially two of them and they are mother and son. I believe he gets this gene from her. Also they eat alot of sugary and sometims fatty foods, not enough veggies or fruit. i don't know what he gets his vitamins from, he coughs all the time and is just eating so much salt in popcorn watching TV 70% of the time he is home, etc. It just disgusts me so much. The moods swings are half caused by that and also they drink so much coffee. I stay away from as much of all that I can and don't have such mood swings.
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
16 Mar 12
Yes, consistency is way to much to ask for. Why? because it just is. We are humans no computers. We do not have computer programs inside that control how we do things and what we feel. The human brain in a complex instrument. It changes constantly. It is controlled by nerve endings, hormones and brain waves. We are at the mercy of the brain. Without it we would be merely an empty shell. Fear is also created by the brain. Chemical reactions in the brain, which create this human emotion. Some people are just to trusting when it comes to others. And it all stems from the human brain.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
16 Mar 12
All of us are equipped with talents of which we are not aware of. So we have to do is try to understand what our potential, then get them out and look for ways to exploit them at best.
The fears, barriers, obstacles that are still more or less we all encounter in course of our existence. The daily problems, from smallest to largest, they put a big brake on the development of our capabilities.
So it's our job to try to combat these "poles" and above all to look forward. No one is exempt from problems, the "trick" is how we know they deal with them.
@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
16 Mar 12
Many people are indeed inconsistent in their attitude and that's a big disadvantage for them in the relationship with others because their inconsistency will make them less trustworthy in the eyes of those they get in touch with;I guess they change their ways so often because they have the impression that these changes will help them better adapt to the requirements of society and of those they interact with,but I think they're terribly wrong and they realize that only when it's too late and they realize they can't fit anywhere.I appreciate those who remain loyal to their beliefs and way of being;they may have less friends than others at a certain time,but at least they know that those friends appreciate them and will always stand by their side,unlike those who change constantly.
@allisoncindy (16)
• China
16 Mar 12
It always happens!Everyone has his own concern, sometimes they agree with you but after repeated thinking they would change their former mind and come out with own idea. It's really disappointing when your friends change idea, but somehow you should stand at their position to think why. Not all the people hold the same idea as you do, maybe understanding is the most important when people stay together!
