Why love hurts?

Romania
March 16, 2012 4:54pm CST
I think that I will never understand why love hurts?Such a pure feeling like love which sometimes makes you feel like flying it is also capable to hurt people.We have enough hate in this world there is no need for love to hurt. I think that I will never find the right answer and I will be forced to live with this dilemma!
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10 responses
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
Love is a very strong feeling. It definitely exists with every living human in this planet. They may love others, things, themselves, anything under the sun. When you love, you give a part of yourself to that someone or something, and when you lose that, it'll be hard for you to take back what you already gave. You'll be broken and you'll just have to live with what's left of you.
• Romania
17 Mar 12
I like your point view and I agree with it.It is funny I have never seen the love from this point of view.
17 Mar 12
Actually I think that love doesn't hurt but as we love the partner and we don't expect any thing that may make us feel upset and when he left us or do something harmful we think that it's love but actually our sense
@dyeni23 (128)
21 Mar 12
Love will forever be a wonderful feeling and when does it hurt? When it's real. There are times and scenarios in life where you should just go with the flow and stop questioning, use your heart :)
• United States
1 May 12
Yes I agree with you. When we open ourselves up to another person, when we let them into our life, and share our life with them it can cause hurt and pain when things don't work out right.But we shouldn't let that stop us from being a loving person.
@jhuddith (222)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
Love is always a good thing. It's the lack of love, the twisting and the misuse of it that hurts. Perhaps it's also because something that can make you feel good will make you feel equally bad at some point in your life. Just remember that the sweetness will not be tasted if you have not experienced the sourness. For most lovers, a break up will always create the sense that love hurts. The only hurt in this situation is the hurt of emptiness. When we are very attached to something, we tend to invoke hard feelings of longing to have them back. That also goes the same with love...
• United States
1 May 12
Yeah you make a good point. Giving love and receiving it is a beautiful thing. The pain enters the picture when others abuse it that it hurts us. With time we learn to cope with the hurt that we experience.
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
It is the rejection and the blow to the pride that makes us hurt in a relationship. After investing a lot of emotions in order to make a good relationship, the rejection is what we suffer most from. When we fall in love, we invest a lot of emotions and when it is no longer reciprocated, it is the saddest feeling for us to suffer from. I am in a sad situation where I gave my 101% love but was rejected after a few years. I really hurt but I am gradually moving on with my life. The hurt has made me wary of entering into another relationship. Falling in love is one of the best emotions but not when the love fades away into nothing.
• Romania
17 Mar 12
I am sorry to hear that you have been rejected and I wish you to find the true love in the future.
@maratus (184)
• Indonesia
16 Mar 12
Love gonna hurts us when that love based on lie, untrusted and not a pure love. A pure love gonna always love and care her/him no matter what happen and how they condition. If someone love because there are something good in someone that's call conditional love, there is no conditional in love. Because if that something good change it's gonna reduce or even erase the love feeling..., Of course that's gonna feel hurts...,
• United States
1 May 12
It is nice to be in a relationship where both partners look out for the interest of one another. Where they are self sacrificing and often do their best to please their partner/spouse. Relationships are hard to keep up. Especially since we are imperfect and view things differently. This then causes problems and hurt.
@florizel (58)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
It's not love that hurts you, it is the person whom you fall in love with, hurts you. Maybe he is not yet the right person for you and when you find the real love that is really meant for you, then you will feel the most wonderful feeling. but being hurt is always a part of being in love because you are two different people and not perfect, but love will teach you how to become perfect.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
16 Mar 12
Love is the most wonderful feeling in the world, it is only the fear of losing the one thing our heart strives on that hurts us, once you really love someone it puts you in a vunerable position, we automaticaly become defensive, I think that is nature.
• United States
1 May 12
I agree with you. To love someone is to allow someone into your life. To really open up yourself to that person. Sharing with that person your thoughts and feelings. You start to share the most important things in your life with the one you love. It is natural that we want to protect ourselves from hurt and pain. No one wants to experience pain.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
17 Mar 12
Hi Cpmindlancer and welcome to my lot. We always hurt the ones we love. Don't know why we do this but it does happen. Don't mean we don't love them just means we can't help ourselves. Love is a beautiful thing and God has someone for each of us. Only problem is most don't trust in Gods wisdom and are with people that really don't love us. Look at me I thought my ex really loved me and after 12 years I found that he didn't and prayed about it and God gave me a real loving person to share my life with. Don't ever give up just pray that God will send you the right person to share your life with. Good luck!
• United States
16 Mar 12
I have been married and divorced 3 times. Trust me I know love and hurt. I believe for me the only real love I can find is from my family and my dog(he is always there to wag his tale to let me know everything is okay).
• Romania
17 Mar 12
You are right family is giving you unconditional love.
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
because you invest too much emotions.. and you never feel the same.. learn to balance everything.. don't invest too much for in the end, you'll just hurt yourself.