missed gratitude

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I just could not get this incident out of my mind. We have a graduate who was a beneficiary of a full scholarship from a private sponsor when in college. She was also an academic scholar. She now works at a five star hotel. She joined a beauty contest and was asked during the contest how she would repay her benefactor for the scholarship which she enjoyed in college. I was dismayed when she only mentioned her academic scholarship and not the private scholarship which she enjoyed and without which she would not have been an honor student. And she actually did not enjoy her academic scholarship since she was already a full beneficiary of the private scholarship. I tried to understand her as doing politics since the sponsor of the beauty contest is someone who is in conflict with her sponsor, politically. And to mention her sponsor could mean not winning the beauty contest. And what even dismayed me more is that now she intends to go to law school and is asking again to be sponsored by the same private benefactor who sent her through her college. Her college benefactor called me up. I don’t plan of recommending her for sponsorship. She already works and therefore could now afford to spend for her own studies. Although my real reason for not recommending is her failure to mention and thank her real sponsor at a time when she could have shown the most appreciation. Should I feel bad about this?